It's been a month & I still can't deal with....

[Mishetta]

cleaning out my Mom's room. She passed away 4 weeks ago & today I finally opened her bedroom door & went in to clean out some stuff. The clothes she had on when we rushed her to the hospital were given back to me in a bag & I just set the bag in her room on a chair & they are still there. I need to wash them but I can't do it. I took one look at her cane & her little special prayers that she kept in a ziploc baggie & her brush with some of her hairs still on it & I lost it. I had to leave & shut the door behind me again. No one has been able to go in there since my Mom passed on. My 8 y/o son has to pass my Mom's room on the way to his room & I've caught him stopping & just staring at my Mom's door.

I just wonder how long it will take before I can go in there & accomplish something?

We just miss her so very much. Thanks for listening....

 

[bsnyder]

I'm so sorry, Mishetta! Big hugs to you!!!

 

[SuiteDisney]

(((hugs)))

 

[MerryPoppins]

Take your time. We all go through grief at our own pace. Don't rush. You'll be able to do it when you are ready.

 

[debster812]

Oh Mishetta I am so sorry this is so hard for you. I don't have any profound words of wisdom. But...if you don't need the space urgently, take all the time you need.

Oh, my heart just breaks for you. I am so sorry.

 

[4greatboys]

Mish....everything in my mom's house is just as it was when she died 3.5 years back. Im just now to the point I think I can go through the stuff and decide where it needs to go.
Please dont rush yourself. Give it some time.
My grandmother (my mom's mom) tried to rush things up about 6 months after my mom died. Then when we wemt to go through some stuff she found out it was going to be harder than she thought.
My prayers are with you. I know its hard but the pain will ease up. It will just take some time.

 

[house_of_princesses]

Mishetta, first, I am sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my husband almost 3 weeks ago. Today, I needed to put my girls shoes away. DH's shoes were there....I found a box and was able to put 4 pair in and close the box. It was just the right time. His bathrobe is still sitting there in our room, with his slippers near by. Can't seem to move them, but I will know when the time is right. Please, don't push yourself to do things. Let them happen. There will come a moment when you'll be able to move just one dress and know where you should move it to.

My heart feels for your little one. For you. There are no words of comfort I can offer.

I hope for peace and understanding for you and your family.

 

[minniecarousel]

Mishetta - I would feel the same way. My dear Mother lives with us & she's 86 years old. Take your time - there shouldn't be a time-line for something like this. Hang in there.

(& my condolences to you, house of princesses - you must have tremendous strength! take care!)

 

[epcotfan]

I'm so sorry

 

[Michelle]

Mishetta, sweetie, it takes as long as it takes. Don't rush it, when you're ready, you'll know. It literally took my mom over a year before she could clean out my father's things after he died at the young age of 59.

{{{HUGS}}}. Just give it time.

 

[Rajah]

Give it some time. After the loss of a loved one, these anniversaries (1 week, 1 month, 2 months...even 1 year or 2 years or more) always seem the hardest. Don't rush yourself. Take the time you need to heal.

*hugs*

 

[disneydork]

Mishetta, I have to agree with everybody else, take your time. When the pain of the loss starts to ease up, you can use your Mom's things to remind you and your son of the good memories and celebrate the time you had together. If you believe in this sort of thing, remember that the time you spend apart while you are here and she is not is a drop in bucket compared to the time you will be together when you are together again. Our thoughts and prayers are with you...

 

[Planogirl]

I'm so sorry Mishetta. It's been so recent so don't rush yourself just wait until you feel better however long it takes. {{{{Hugs}}}}

house of princesses, you take care too.

 

[tiggerlover]

Rose, I am so so sorry to hear about this. I have been away for a month so I had no idea. PM is on the way, {{HUGS}}.

 

[Disneymoon04]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have no advice to offer, just some {{{hugs}}}.

 

[Pooh93]

{HUGS} and good thoughts for you. I agree with what the others have said. Do these things at your own pace.

 

[winniedapooh]

Mishetta and Princesses I am so sorry for both of your losses and I agree with what everyone else has said.....take your time, you will know when the time is right and you are able to do this.

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} to both families

 

[luv2nascar]

I'm sorry for your loss
a month really isn't all that long
don't be so hard on yourself just give it time

 

[Disney Dee]

I lost my Mom in Oct. It took me afew months to clear out her room, actually, its still not finished. I still reach for the phone sometimes to call her, special occasions and holidays are the hardest, I just had a birthday, and there was always a card from her in the mailbox, even when she lived with me, so I almost went to look for it. She has a birthday coming up this month, and that will be hard also. But going about everyday activities are easier now, {hugs} to you in this rough time.

 

[dizneenut]

I'm so sorry, Rose.
{{{{{{BIG HUGS}}}} coming your way.