Stress? Disney? Stress isn't supposed to be at Disney! No, no my readers. Stress is what led to this trip. Stress and guilt. Let's travel back a few months......*insert trippy music*
At the end of September, the love of my life proposed to me.
Yay! What fun. We had been talking of marriage and I knew my dear dear DF wanted a wedding, whereas I wanted to elope, do a destination wedding or dream of all dreams get married at WDW. Alas, DF's hearts desire was a wedding for all of his family to attend. I was overruled, because that's what happens in love.
Me, the one with no brains, decided to include future MIL in the wedding planning. MIL has no daughters and I wanted her to feel included as her oldest son was getting married. Little did I know what was in store for me...
I am going to list some of the highlights for you.
Offense #1 MIL was appalled that DF and I would be paying for this wedding ourselves. My parents had paid for the first (small wedding & honeymoon) and I wanted to pay for this myself. I'm no beggar! She made comments about their lack of financial involvement until DF finally told her to shush. Then she apologized in an awkward moment I care not to re-live.
Offense #2 I am wearing a pair of my grandmother's vintage earrings on the wedding day. She died when I was 13 and it was important to me to have a piece of her with me. They are pink rhinestones, a little large but so my grandmother and me. MIL exclaimed, "Those are gaudy" after I showed them to her. Let me just say people I had told her they were my grandmother's. I am still upset about this and have a hard time letting go, since as I was telling her the story of how I remembered my grandmother showing me these earrings as a little girl in her jewelry box I was teary eyed and telling her just how much it meant for me to wear them.
Offense #3 She is constantly comparing our wedding to all of the families wedding that have come before and will be coming this fall. I am tired of it.
Offense #4 I am constantly hearing how we will regret not having a large wedding, and WHY can't we have dancing!?! Ugh.
Offense #5 She thought our food choices were too high in calories. Could you please tell me who thinks of their calorie intake on their wedding day? Before the big day I understand but pul-lease!
Offense #6 She wanted to wear black to the wedding, our garden wedding that is being held at noon mind you.
Offense #7 DF has seen the design of my dress, he has also seen pictures of me in it, because if I trust anyone's opinion it is his. As he so lovingly said to me yesterday when I came home from work yesterday, "Did you wear your hair like that all day?"
I don't believe in that hocus pocus, maybe I'm jaded but I don't care. My marriage won't survive because he didn't see me in the stinkin' dress. This troubles MIL greatly, she thinks we are doomed. She was showing me the non-black dress she got instead and when DF walked into the room she yelped, covered her dress and made him cover his eyes. Newsflash...you aren't the bride!
I could go on and on but I am starting to feel petty. This is just a little bit of what I have had to deal with. Not to mention that every time we tell her something we have decided, she counters that with what she thinks we should do.
Another stress point, my engagement ring.
I wore it for 3 weeks and it broke.
Yep, the prong on the setting snapped right off. I was devastated. Had to bring it in and be repaired. Takes a couple of weeks. Wear for a few more weeks, breaks again at the end of November.
At this point I am livid and sad at the same time. The manager tells me that they should have special ordered it in my size instead of taking such a huge step in sizes. Okay. They repair my ring again but also custom order my engagement ring and band, it will be ready in February. My original ring breaks again in January. I am LIVID!
I don't even bring it in to be repaired. I voice my displeasure to the place where every kiss begins with...you get the idea and they vow to make sure my new ring that still isn't in won't ever break.
I get my new ring in February, because they essentially exchanged rings, I have 90 days to return it. Yep, you guessed it. It broke again, only this time one of the tiny side diamonds fell out. I was beyond angry, I thought DF was going to have a stroke he was so mad and we go back and exchange the ring.
*** Side note, way back when I was engaged before with the ex, I cracked a diamond, yep. I hate engagement rings. Side note over *** We were in the store for about 2 hours, I was so scared to pick a ring, I tried on a million ones, they just didn't fit. Finally I found one, that I do truly love but oh wait for it...it won't be finished before the wedding.
DF goes all Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde on the manager and said that they will get me a ring in time for the wedding. So they agree to size the ring that they have in stock while still custom ordering my other ring, so I will at least have one. On Monday, the store calls and says the "ring sizer" won't size the ring because it will compromise the design. Where the heck was this ring sizer way back when with my original ring!
So DF goes Mr. Hyde and says they will size, my poor fiancée has been telling everyone they will see her new ring on her Bridal Shower this Saturday, you will size this ring. The store called tonight, the ring is in and I swear that if this breaks, I am never going to have an engagement ring. :::Sigh::: I am so nervous something else bad is going to happen with it. I will keep you posted with the Diamond Saga.
Tonight my stress level has hit the breaking point. My MIL called and I stupidly answered the phone and I just didn't want to talk to her, didn't want to answer her questions, just didn't want to deal. She actually asked me if something was wrong and this is what I wanted to say.......
"YES THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG....I HATE WEDDINGS AND IT IS ONLY BECAUSE I LOVE YOUR SON WITH ALL OF MY HEART THAT I AM GOING THROUGH THIS MADNESS...SO NO YOU CAN'T WEAR BLACK, NO MY EARRINGS ARE NOT GAUDY, OUR WEDDING PHOTOS ARE NOT A CHANCE FOR YOUR FAMILY PORTRAIT SESSIONS WITH EVERY EXTENDED FAMILY MEMBER ALIVE, IF YOU QUESTION OUR HONEYMOON REGISTRY ONE MORE TIME OR SUGGEST WE REGISTER FOR TOWELS THOSE TOWELS WILL BE SOMEWHERE NOT SO PLEASANT, NO I DON'T GET ALONG WITH MY GRANDMOTHER AND NO SHE IS NOT WEARING A FLOWER AND YES YOU NEED TO GO TO DISNEY MORE THAN ONCE IN YOUR LIFE!!!!!"
Yes, to top it all off she thinks our trip to Disney is wasteful and wouldn't we like to go somewhere more exciting like abroad....?
Ahem. Now that I got that off my chest. I would like to say that I do love my MIL dearly, she is fine good hearted woman who just likes to do things her own way and has never had to deal with another woman in her son's life.
After repeatedly crying on DF's shoulder and saying that I wanted to elope, when I asked him to go to Disney he said, "Yes honey, when would you like to go?"
So when the wedding stress is bringing me down I just try to go to my happy Disney place. Tonight it wasn't working so well so this post was born.
I think I am going to go watch Finding Nemo.
I'm apalled for you!!! It seems like your MIL doesn't have that all-important "think before you speak" strainer that catches all the things we shouldn't say before we say them. I think she owes you an apology for this one.
