It is so hard

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

See - this reply right here (to me) seems soooooooo totally out of character for the

Are you saying people don't grow up, look at your kids

 

[goofinoff]

This thread just took an ugly turn.

 

[ronandannette]

This thread just took an ugly turn.

Don't they all when an OP ignores or refutes well-intended input after they have asked for it? Apparently Tink (regardless of her challenges) is not immune...

 

[Minnie_me]

I totally agree that someone else is posting for Tink right now. I don't usually respond to her posts, but I read them. I'm very familiar with her style, and her grammar and vocabulary, as are many of you. There is no way she would have correctly typed (let alone understood) that sentence containing the word "moot".

Yes, people grow up. But it doesn't happen overnight. Yes, people with mental health issues have varying degrees of intelligence. But it doesn't come and go!

I am very concerned for the children she is working with. She expresses frustrations about them often, and often seems quite upset by their misbehavior. On top of that, she is now hallucinating and having suicidal thoughts. Would you want this person working with YOUR special needs preschooler??!??

If any of you actually do know her name, or how to reach her, I would hope that you get in touch asap. We could be looking at a tragedy waiting to happen. Avoiding action just because the girl is "sweet" isn't helping anybody.

 

[sonnyjane]

I'm sure this thread will close soon but I agree that the last few posts aren't from OP. Maybe her husband/mom/aunt? Either way I hope those people see this thread and help her take the appropriate action.

 

[deedeetoo]

I also think that someone else is posting. Probably the threat to look up her job and report the posts to her boss got her concerned and now someone else is posting on her behalf in order to make the situation not seem so bad. These recent posts and earlier posts by the OP were just not written by the same person. No one can completely change their style of posting overnight like that.

 

[Coonhound]

I believe it was all written by the same person.

 

[minnie mum]

I believe it was all written by the same person.

Then that person is in an unusually and uncharacteristically lucid and coherent state of mind at the moment. All the more reason for her to re-read the posts on this thread and take a moment to consider the safety of the children that she deals with. And to remove herself from the school until such time as her own mental health has been stabilized by professionals. The last place the OP should be is in a stressful situation like a special needs classroom full of vulnerable young children.

 

[Nancyg56]

I don't find anything inappropriate that she has posted.

But I am very concerned about her.


Tink, please, make sure you are taking care of yourself. Take a long break and go back when you feel ready. I think you are a wonderful person to volunteer and be as responsible as you are about your work but just like any other employee, sometimes you have to put yourself first not your job. And like any other one else, you can't take care of others (or teach others) if you don't take care of yourself first.

I too, am worried about Tink. I follow her threads, and have never found her to b inappropriate.

This thread is more harmful then helpful please have it shut down I am more sorry then words can express that I started it

I am so sorry that you have been hurt by some of the posters comments. Tink- message boards are very one dimensional, and is it not always easy to remember that some of the people who respond to posts do not know you, at least not personally, so I hope that you can take a step back and just focus on some of the helpful things people have said.

I really do not have any idea what you are going through, but you do sound as though you are very stressed right now. Please please remember that unless you are healthy, you cannot really be helpful to those people who you are trying to assist. There is no shame in taking a break, so during this Holiday I hope you can wind down some. If you find that you are still having these issues, I really think you need to put your own mental health first and take care of yourself.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

What do I have to do to prove it is me, go back to bad spelling

 

[Art 1]

What do I have to do to prove it is me, go back to bad spelling

The dis has more busy bodies than any forum I've ever been on, by far, not even close. They will even look up your posting history. As you have learned there are many women on here just waiting for a chance to pounce, and that's what happened to you. It's too bad really.

 

[Nancyg56]

What do I have to do to prove it is me, go back to bad spelling

You do not need to prove anything. Don't worry about those folks.

 

[skylizard]

What do I have to do to prove it is me, go back to bad spelling

You don't need to prove anything. Just ignore certain people.

 

[Minnie_me]

The dis has more busy bodies than any forum I've ever been on, by far, not even close. They will even look up your posing history. As you have learned there are many women on here just waiting for a chance to pounce, and that's what happened to you. It's too bad really.

I don't think that anyone wants to pounce on Tink. She has enough problems as it is, and everyone on this board has always rallied around and given her help and support. That's what I'd like to do --- she needs help. If she is hallucinating and having suicidal thoughts, she should NOT be working around young children. Especially special needs children who have behavior problems that often upset her.

How is that "pouncing?" We are concerned for her welfare, and for the welfare of the people she works with. God forbid, if anything happened, we would all look back at this post as a cry for help.

 

[CaliBear]

Those "Dis detectives" sound very caring and supporting.