Disneylovingmomof2
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Aug 14, 2017
Sounds like a personal issue. If someone offers a gift why would you feel like that?I'm with the SIL. I would not be comfortable even now, at 40-something, accepting a gift like that from anyone. Just not how I was raised and not how I have lived my life. That kind of money comes out of my own pocket. I would appreciate the offer, and I might enjoy vacationing with extended family (and I have very occasionally), but not on their dime. I would spend the entire trip feeling uncomfortable, feeling like I should order the chicken instead of the steak, have water instead of wine. That's not how I want to spend my limited vacation days. If that makes me rigid, frigid, unappreciative, or whatever, so be it.
Hasn’t anyone seen the movie Coco?? In America for some reason we isolate more after marriage. Barring having some really terrible in laws why do people have such issues? Before DH I was the kind of person who had an open door. Friends, family never knocked, came right in. Want food? Help yourself. DH is not like that and I respect it but it does bother me. Why do people take themselves so seriously? What happened to it takes a village to raise a family?
If my in laws offered my family a trip I’d gladly accept. I’d love to be able to do the same for my children one day when they are grown and (hopefully) grandkids.