MamaBelle4
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- Feb 29, 2016
Maybe OP should ask fiancé where he’s always wanted to go and plan a trip there. Honestly I wasn’t even basing this on a trip to any certain place, but more of what sounds like fiance’s generally negative attitude.
The future SIL has said (according to OP), he can't afford a trip right now and doesn't accept handouts. Providing for yourself and having pride and fiscal responsibility is not a negative attitude.
We’re talking about (free) vacations here though. She’s not asking him to convert to a different religion or go out and buy a Ferrari he can’t afford. Like I said before it just seems like some huge personality differences. I will say that I think his feelings on money sound like a red flag but everyone has their own opinions there.
He doesn't want to accept such a generous offer. It makes him uncomfortable. Surely he isn't required to completely disregard his feelings.
And, I fail to see how wanting to pay for things with your own hard earned dime could possibly be a red flag. He doesn't have a problem with the finance going.