Isn't anyone else's spouse a jerk sometimes?

[kimmar067]

....my DH is only a jerk when it comes to making plans to visit WDW!

 

[minkydog]

Honestly, I have to say that my husband is not a jerk. I don't even remember the last time we had a fight about something. We get along pretty well and have a lot in common, considering we've been married 29 years. We disagree on stuff, and if it's important stuff we talk it out. But we just don't get worked up about the small stuff. DH is a very easy-going kind of guy by nature. *I* am the one who has had to learn to be less intense and irritable

 

[JoiseyMom]

Yup...I am...and I am sure I have called him a few worse things over the past 15 plus years . Just part of a relationship.

I also have never met a male that wasn't a jerk at one time or another.

 

[Normangirls]

One of my favorite sayings:

Just remember, behind every wonderful, successful man...

...is a woman who is sick of his cr@p!

 

[klacey1]

I think that people are the way they are, and as long as "jerky" moments are just minute (even frequent) frustrations and not a huge part of who they truly are, marriages can work out fine.
DBF isn't a "jerk", per se, he's more of a worrier. About what I consider to be the stupidest, silliest things-- I'm probably the jerk in our relationship because I'll snap at him for worrying. I'll also snap at him for not standing up for himself at work, etc. Wow-- I sure hope marriages with a jerk can work out, because the more I think about it, I nicely do fit into that category!!

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I am a spouse, and I am never, ever a jerk. I am practically perfect in every way.

 

[yoopermom]

DH can be a jerk, but what gets me the most is that no matter how bad the situation, he flares up fast, then totally forgives/forgets. If I bring it up the next day, he says, "What, we're still on that?"

I do love him very much, but he's very alpha....

Terri

 

[Tweevil]

I was.... I lovingly refer to him as the ex now....lol

 

[DisneyFairytale]

I have to say I am happily married to an incredible man hehe. He can be a jerk but usually it's caused by something I did. I guess maybe I'm one of the really fortunate ones.

 

[Bareacuda]

Oh yeah can I relate!
Except mine isnt a jerk. He's a a**.
That's our joke. If you were a fly on the wall in our home, you just might fall off from laughter
He's been all mine for the past 40 years

Ann

 

[shortbun]

I would never call my husband a jerk. He's absent minded, sometimes grumpy or really tired because he works his tail off but he's not a jerk. We're happy.

 

[wdwfan16]

Mine is. I knew it when I married him. He would probably say the same thing about me. We disagree on lots of stuff and debate/compromise pretty regularly. We love each other despite thinking each other are misguided.

I was reading on the "little people big world" thread and people are speculating they're headed for divorce because they argue and Matt's pretty jerky at times. This may or may not be, but it got me to wondering, because it seems like I see this so often on the DIS - the idea that if you're happy you don't argue and don't think each other are giant jerks sometimes.

Is anyone else willing to admit they married a "jerk" and are actually happy?

My DH is not a jerk to me ever and I try no to be one to him. No spouse should ever be a jerk.

We will disagree and argue but not very often. We are so in tune with the other that we rarely disagree.

I do not watch LPBW. I can't comment on them. But open communication in a marriage is a must. Typically divorce happens when the arguments get so bad that one of the spouses withdraws from the marriage.

If being jerks to each other works for you then good for you.

 

[wdwfan16]

I don't think I would believe anyone who said their spouse(or themselves) was never a jerk

I can only speak for about my spouse and he has NEVER been a jerk. Sorry that you don't want to believe it. I would have never married a man who acted like a jerk to me when we were dating.

 

[cm8]

Oh yeah can I relate!
Except mine isnt a jerk. He's a a**.
That's our joke. If you were a fly on the wall in our home, you just might fall off from laughter
He's been all mine for the past 40 years

Ann

sounds like something my best friend would say

 

[NMAmy]

DH isn't a jerk ever. Of course, we both have crabby moments but we don't take it out on each other. And we have an agreement to never be crabby at the same time. We've been together 11 years and so far, our agreement has worked out pretty well. We're both really easy going people and neither of us likes to argue. I know some folks do--that's just not us.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

My wife and I are very different, and we both have our occasional "moods". We have come to respect the other's bad moods, as we realize that we are not perfect. Also, couples who argue in a healthy way tend to stay together longer. Couples who get ugly with one another or who do not argue at all have no chance. You have to have mutual respect. Love isn't enough.

 

[DeniseinNS]

My husband is not a jerk, I would have never married anyone who is a jerk.

 

[kimmar067]

I am a spouse, and I am never, ever a jerk. I am practically perfect in every way.

...okay........MARY.....

 

[Aisling]

My husband was a jerk when I married him, but it wasn't a big enough thing to overshadow all his better qualities. Now as he's getting older, he's becoming less jerkier!

 

[lovesmurfs]

Mine is. I knew it when I married him. He would probably say the same thing about me. We disagree on lots of stuff and debate/compromise pretty regularly. We love each other despite thinking each other are misguided.

I was reading on the "little people big world" thread and people are speculating they're headed for divorce because they argue and Matt's pretty jerky at times. This may or may not be, but it got me to wondering, because it seems like I see this so often on the DIS - the idea that if you're happy you don't argue and don't think each other are giant jerks sometimes.

Is anyone else willing to admit they married a "jerk" and are actually happy?

I'm a much bigger jerk than my DH. Married for 20 years because he puts up with me.