Is your Hubby Romantic?

[tlgoblue]

My DH is romantic in his own way. Nope, no flowers. (I told him once, if he ever sent me flowers, I'd wonder what he did wrong, so no flowers.) No jewelery either. He can't afford what I would want (most people couldn't ) and I'd rather do without, than have some cheesy token. He knows this and we are OK with it. Going out for a romantic evening is out, as there is no such place in my little town.

However, he does EVERYTHING he can think of to make my life happy. If romance is what he thinks I'm needing at the time, (usually this is apparent because it's been a while since we've been ummm... you know, and of course he is "feeling a lttle anxious ) then he ususally surprises me with a mini vacation and we have a wonderful, romantic, time together. That holds us over for a while. Are his motive selfish? Is he just trying to Get some relief? Maybe. I don't care. I'm glad he takes the initiative with me, instead of with someone else. I've had DH on ice since my DS13 was born! The embers are still there, and he knows just how to fan them! Yes, I'd say he is romantic. (ooooh I'm getting goosepimply all over!

Keep the Faith! (in eachother!)
Tracy

 

[cathymailme]

Romance in our marriage is kind of hit and miss on both our parts. We have two children and both work so sometimes we just forget about romance altogether. To busy with life. But we do have our moments that we remember and they are great, just not as frequent as we would like. Maybe someday

 

[coliebird]

He is NOT romantic in the sense that he buys me flowers, jewelry or surprises me with anything and he definitely won't go see any "chick" flicks with me, but on the other hand he does clean the house and help with the laundry, he tells me he loves me every day and he is a great father. I will take all of that over flowers and gifts any day.

 

[coliebird]

He is NOT romantic in the sense that he buys me flowers, jewelry or surprises me with anything and he definitely won't go see any "chick" flicks with me, but on the other hand he does clean the house and help with the laundry, he tells me he loves me every day, he is kind and considerate and he is a great father. I will take all of that over flowers and gifts any day.

Sorry double post

 

[ZachnElli]

Yup, I'm one lucky lady! We've been married 12 1/2 years and he hasn't stopped being romantic at all! Roses, flowers, poems (written by him), love letters, cards, those special emails you can do now, not to mention the over night trips he plans all by himself, including calling MY parents to keep the kids!! Most the time we don't even tell anyone everything that he does because he feels awkward and we don't know how they take it, jealous? they think he's crazy? We don't know, lol! For our 10 year anniversary he really pulled out all the stops! He is AMAZING! BUT, I never know how to repay him! How in the world do I try to do the same for him! He's so much more creative than me!

 

[WDWLVR]

Everyone has their own ideas of what romantic is and I would say that yes my DH is. He's not flamboyant about it but that's because he's not a flamboyant type. He sent me a crystal ship on our last cruise, sent flowers and a stuffed Mickey to our hotel in December, and is always doing little things to show me he loves me and cares about me.

I'm a very lucky lady.

 

[suzannen]

DH actually hates things like love letters, poetry and Valentine's Day. BUT, he loves to come home with surprise gifts (designer clothes, jewelry, flowers) "just because." And since it's harder to go out at night because of our 9 year old DD, he'll say it's time for us to take a vacation day from work and go play. We just booked together massages and pedicures followed by a special romantic lunch for the Friday before Valentine's Day for some extra "together time."

I try not to ever take him for granted and to do extra special things for him, too. For his birthday, I surprised him with a watch he'd wanted, a dinner at a restaurant he wanted to go to, and lastly during dessert a key to a surprise room at the Plaza Hotel with the news we had an all-night babysitter.

We both try to make an concerted effort to be romantic with each other.

 

[tlgoblue]

Originally psted by ZachnElli

I never know how to repay him!

According to some posters, that's easy! After all, he only wants one thing in return, right?

Glad to hear that you have such a nice man as a husband.
Apparently, there are only a few of them around.

Keep the Faith!
Tracy

 

[Mishetta]

So funny that this was a subject that a DIS cyber friend & I were e-mailing about this morning....anyway...

My DH was the most romantic man on earth when we were dating. He sent me flowers all the time (at home & at work!) He always got me romantic little gifts with poems that he wrote himself or just sweet messages in those Hallmark cards that bring tear to your eyes. Everything was just so magical & special. Well, it seems that now that we're married & two kids...that romantic guy went on a permanent leave of absence!

I did ask him not too long ago, whatever happened to that romantic guy I was dating? He said to me "I got the girl, so I don't have to be romantic anymore!"

In all fairness though, he helps me clean the house, he washes the floors, vacuums, he changes the bed sheets, and since we've been married, I've never had to put gas in my own car again. He takes care of us & he takes us to Disney. He never says a word about any money I should spend (I'm not a big spender though, unless I'm at a Disney store). He's just a great guy, but nope, no longer romantic.

 

[Lezah]

My DS and I have been married for almost 16 years now and together for 3 years prior to that. My family is extremely close and very affectionate (hugs and kisses every time we say hello and goodbye), but my hubbys family is not at all. He isn't romantic in the usual sense of the word, but is in the little things. He makes our lunches every morning so I can sleep a bit longer in the morning. He carries the laundry down the stairs for me (and the majority of the time he ends up doing it too). I have been suffering from the swelling and pain in all my joints from a virus since last May (probably will for at least a year or more) and he has taken over almost all of the chores that we used to share. I still try to help as much as I can, but some days it isn't much. He bought me all that was on my list this Christmas and even bought me a new pair of new warm jammies that I hadn't asked for (he got a brand new pair of ski boots). It is all the little things that he does that make him romantic and I love him for them. Of course that doesn't stop me from wishing for some bigger romantic things every once in a while! I do little things for him too, search on Recipezaar for his fave recipes and try to make them for him, booked a hotel on the night of his Christmas party so he could have a drink and not worry about driving home, plus it gave him an opportunity to not have to go out that night on calls (he is a firefighter in our town 24/7 as well as having a full time job too). I think that romance is in the eye of the beholder and we should all appreciate the little things that we can do for each other and not expect the big things that way when we do get the "romantic" things they are even more special. JMHO

 

[Kimickey]

You know my DH is a very good husband and father. I love him even more because of the love we give each other. I'm a somewhat a romantic type of gal. I don't want nor need the material things that one would consider romantic, I'm talking about the romantic affection. A girl wants to feel special sometimes. I just think that if my husband would at least one time think outside of the box,it would satisfy me into knowing that he thinks of me more than just a wife and mother. I've tried being romantic with him but, for some reason, it just does not sink in. I don't know maybe I'm asking for too much.

 

[DisneyObsessed]

Nope. Not at all. Nada. Zilch. Zippo. None.

 

[wdwnutze]

Definately not romantic! We have been married for over 20yrs and have 3 kids. A little more romance would be nice but we love each other and are happy.

 

[barbeml]

Yes, very. He tells me he loves me every day, he takes special care of my car so that I am safe, he sometimes makes me meatloaf or some strange concoction for dinner, he writes wonderful messages in cards, takes me to WDW every year and makes me feel like the most loved person on the planet.

Of course, I treat him the same way.