Is this too evil?

[saratogadreamin09]

My big problem now is that Im really upset that K gets the guy I want and that she doesnt even want the world to know I want J so badly and K gets him and doesnt even care Its so annoying and unfair

 

[BabyPiglet]

My big problem now is that Im really upset that K gets the guy I want and that she doesnt even want the world to know I want J so badly and K gets him and doesnt even care Its so annoying and unfair

Why do you want a guy that was rude to you? You apparently have the mentality that 'if I can't have him them nobody can'.

Take a step back and look at what you're doing.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Why do you want a guy that was rude to you? You apparently have the mentality that 'if I can't have him them nobody can'.

Take a step back and look at what you're doing.

I dont care that they're dating, I care that she doesnt want anyone to know. If your going to date someone thne let people know!!!!!!!

 

[StitchfansJr]

I dont care that they're dating, I care that she doesnt want anyone to know. If your going to date someone thne let people know!!!!!!!

Some people don't want the entire to world to know about their personal lives.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I dont care that they're dating, I care that she doesnt want anyone to know. If your going to date someone thne let people know!!!!!!!

Privacy? How do you know their intentions. Maybe they actually want to have a private relationship void of all the gossip and drama of high school.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Some people don't wait the entire to world to know about their personal lives.

Privacy? How do you know their intentions. Maybe they actually want to have a private relationship void of all the gossip and drama of high school.

MY feelings are if your in a relationhip why wouldnt you want people to know. If your relationship is for real you should be able to withstand rumors and be able to be in public together without caring what others think.

 

[imabrat]

MY feelings are if your in a relationhip why wouldnt you want people to know. If your relationship is for real you should be able to withstand rumors and be able to be in public together without caring what others think.

Well Thank God not everyone feels that way.
This is a case of Mind Your Own Business, and I'm not afraid to tell you so either.

 

[StitchfansJr]

MY feelings are if your in a relationhip why wouldnt you want people to know. If your relationship is for real you should be able to withstand rumors and be able to be in public together without caring what others think.

But like I said, maybe some people wouldn't want to deal with rumors so they want their relationship to be private.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Well Thank God not everyone feels that way.
This is a case of Mind Your Own Business, and I'm not afraid to tell you so either.

But like I said, maybe some people wouldn't want to deal with rumors so they want their relationship to be private.

So, does that mean that marriages should be kept a secret But seriously, I just dont think that relationships should be kept secret, IMO

 

[BabyPiglet]

MY feelings are if your in a relationhip why wouldnt you want people to know. If your relationship is for real you should be able to withstand rumors and be able to be in public together without caring what others think.

Have you been in a relationship, honestly?

If it's a true relationship, a lot of people like it to be kept private because it is certainly a private situation.

If your relationship is 'for real' you should be able to keep it going strong without being in the public eye.

 

[StitchfansJr]

So, does that mean that marriages should be kept a secret But seriously, I just dont think that relationships should be kept secret, IMO

Marriages are totally different than relationships.

 

[DramaQueen]

MY feelings are if your in a relationhip why wouldnt you want people to know. If your relationship is for real you should be able to withstand rumors and be able to be in public together without caring what others think.

maybe they don't want it to get out because their parents don't want them to date or maybe they don't want people to gossip about them or maybe they feel like it's no one else's business, or maybe J was trying to spare your feelings by not wanted people to know...you found out, but maybe they didn't want you to find out because they didn't want to hurt your feelings.

whatever the reason is you need to respect that, not everyone shares the same feelings as you about keeping relationships private, and as hard as it may be to get over J, just let it go, move on, you'll find someone else.

i think you just need to take a step back. breath, look at the situation and realize that everyone has the right to do whatever they want in their relationship

 

[imabrat]

So, does that mean that marriages should be kept a secret But seriously, I just dont think that relationships should be kept secret, IMO

Jesus.
Marriages are different that relationships. In a marriage you are pledging yourself to another for eternity. A relationship is a fling, until you can see yourself marrying this person and devoting your life to them.

It doesn't matter what YOU think, because you are not in THEIR relationship. Seriously, stay out of it. Don't get back at them, don't spite them, be mature about it.

 

[TinkerTracy]

It won't make you feel any better...so you might as well not do it. Why hurt other people?

 

[saratogadreamin09]

maybe they don't want it to get out because their parents don't want them to date or maybe they don't want people to gossip about them or maybe they feel like it's no one else's business, or maybe J was trying to spare your feelings by not wanted people to know...you found out, but maybe they didn't want you to find out because they didn't want to hurt your feelings.

whatever the reason is you need to respect that, not everyone shares the same feelings as you about keeping relationships private, and as hard as it may be to get over J, just let it go, move on, you'll find someone else.

i think you just need to take a step back. breath, look at the situation and realize that everyone has the right to do whatever they want in their relationship

Knew someone was going to say this. Both of them have parents that let them date and its all K just not wanting people to know who shes dating


J trying to spare my feelings if he wanted to do that then he would have been a lot nicer to me this year

 

[DramaQueen]

Knew someone was going to say this. Both of them have parents that let them date and its all K just not wanting people to know who shes dating


J trying to spare my feelings if he wanted to do that then he would have been a lot nicer to me this year

okay i'm trying to be as nice as possible, but you need to realize that you're in the wrong here.
you need to stop assuming things, you don't know their family situation, you don't know the situation with their relationship, so what if K doesn't want people to know who she's dating...it's HER choice!
So what if J wasn't trying to spare your feelings, he's a jerk and doesn't deserve your time.
You honestly just need to forget him, forget their relationship, enjoy your summer, and stop being so petty.

i understand this is a tough situation, i've been through enough with guys to know how hard it is to get over them and how hard it is to deal with situations like this, but you need to be the bigger person and leave them aloooooone

 

[BabyPiglet]

Knew someone was going to say this. Both of them have parents that let them date and its all K just not wanting people to know who shes dating


J trying to spare my feelings if he wanted to do that then he would have been a lot nicer to me this year

1. How do you know their intentions? You think you do because you heard it through gossip.

Take a step back; look at the situation.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

1. How do you know their intentions? You think you do because you heard it through gossip.

Take a step back; look at the situation.

Me and K have a mutual friend. K's told everything to her friends and the one friends has told me. No gossip, just directly from K.


And if I heard it through gossip, then wouldnt it have already gotten out and then we wouldnt be having this conversation

 

[Cinderelli16]

Knew someone was going to say this. Both of them have parents that let them date and its all K just not wanting people to know who shes dating


J trying to spare my feelings if he wanted to do that then he would have been a lot nicer to me this year

She doesn't need to let everyone know that she's dating someone.
Maybe she wants to keep everything on the DL until she knows everything will work out and so that it doesn't start up drama.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

So, hers my new idea of the night


Im thinking about just giving J a note that says "alright". He'll probably have no idea what that means and it will give me some closure.

I dont know, I just want some closure before the summer