Is this tacky for a bridal shower? *UPDATE* page 6

[Mkrop]

Have you priced out any restaurants in your area that have a private party room? You may be surprised how economical they could be, especially if you have it mid afternoon and not during a meal hour.

I agree with this I will call around and price out some places, as others have mentioned VFW halls, some restaurants, heck around here some diners have separate rooms where they will rent and cater it. Or help your mom clean and order some deli trays, not too expensive.

And I would not want to go running around from place to place for a bridal shower. There has to be other alternatives to Pizza Hut

 

[rigs32]

What about gluten free people? Lactose intolerant? It's easy to make up for dietary limitations with food put out at a home. A limits menu may create hard feelings and/or mom might be paying for people who can't eat anything.

You can only socialize with those at your table. What about if a little league comes in at the same time? A family with a screaming baby?

 

[LilyWDW]

Tacky... that's one way to put it. I would personally decline the invitation because (1) Pizza Hut is yucky and (2) I don't want to drive between two locations. I can't even contemplate the idea that Pizza Hut would be a good location for something like a bridal shower.

 

[HM]

All the bridal showers I've been to have been held at someone's home. Never a venue.

I would definitely think a Pizza Hut a strange choice. Tell your mother no.

Hold it at your house or hers.

 

[kate_wdw]

I’d definitely think it was strange. It doesn’t seem to honor the specialness of the occasion (IMO). And while I wouldn’t turn my nose up at Pizza Hut pizza ordinarily, it doesn’t feel like “shower” food to me.

Her house on normal days is a bit cluttered so the task of cleaning every nook and cranny is probably overwhelming to think about.


I think that another part of this is that whenever she's hosted things like this she seems to go way over and above what one would expect her to do...She had my sister later in life and is getting older so I think she's at a point of wanting to make things easier on herself. She would usually be so exhausted before the party even started and maybe she's thinking she doesn't want it to get to that point again.

If that’s the case, I’d definitely look into alternatives to your mom hosting. If your sister is used to your mom going above and beyond, I could imagine that she might take a Pizza Hut bridal shower personally.


I agree with other posters that you should ask the other members of the bridal party for help and input, especially if you think your mom is all hosted out.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

We had my brother and SIL's baby shower at our local Pizza Hut. It seemed weird at first but it worked out really well in the end. They both love Pizza Hut, both male and female friends were invited and our Pizza Hut has a party room that can be decorated that is separate from the main dining room. It was nice not having to cook or clean up before or after. I'm sure their were people who found it tacky but my brother and SIL liked it so that was all that mattered.

 

[kuhltiffany]

How many showers will be held for her? Quite often where I'm from the different "groups" are split up, like one for co-workers, peer friends, sports team friends, family, etc. Maybe one of the groups would be suitable and your mom can host it, and you can do your own thing with another group?

 

[aprilgail]

Exactly like having it at mcdonalds! I may get flamed, but I'd rather not have a shower than have an invitation that invited anyone to a pizza hut. I get everyone has different budgets, but that place is completely inappropriate for a shower.

I agree! sorry but Pizza Hut is a very odd place to think to have even a child's birthday party never mind an adult bridal shower! you can't even call that "pizza" its just not a place I would ever think a bridal shower should be-I would rather go to someone's house and have no food served than to have to attend a party at pizza hut.

 

[minniecarousel]

No!

I don't understand over-the-top expensive weddings & showers, but never have a shower at a pizza place. Just NO!

If mom's house is the most convenient, location-wise, assure her that you will help clean up before & after. Then keep the menu simple, just finger food and cupcakes. You don't have to spend a ton of $$$. But a shower should be more intimate than a pizza place.

 

[NewRVLady]

All the bridal showers I've been to have been held at someone's home. Never a venue.

I would definitely think a Pizza Hut a strange choice. Tell your mother no.

Hold it at your house or hers.

I have been to both....homes and venues

One baby shower had 150 invited( all 4 grandparents remarried-huge family) well...the invite said "regrets only...and no one replied...only 50 showed! They had rented a cute venue ( Historic old house) and all the hostesses each brought a salad or finger sandwiches0-like fruit salad, chicken salad, finger sandwiches-they had way too much food!

 

[mjkacmom]

Showers here are usually held out. Pizza Hut sounds great for an end of year soccer party, not a bridal shower. Our Pizza Hut went out of business, because we have tons of real pizzarias.

Even in my high COL area, there are a bunch of inexpensive venues one can rent. Just keep it simple.

 

[kamik86]

What is weirdest about pizza hut would be the not having a private meeting room. My rehearsal dinner was at a local sit down restaurant that is mostly pizza. But it has an actual function room

 

[Daisy62]

We have always had bridal and baby showers at someone's home. Sometimes a little squishy but always nice. We had sons 10th bday at Pizza Hut at his request. That's the type of party I see there. Never showers.

 

[cabanafrau]

I'll be the oddball once again. I assume the wedding is this spring if your mother is already looking up deals? It's March and the shower isn't planned and scheduled yet? Is mom desperately trying to come up with something because the ball hasn't been picked up yet?

 

[RedAngie]

Receiving an invitation for a shower at Pizza Hut would definitely be an eyebrow-raiser, but I'd go along with it. The change of venue for dessert, however, would likely be a deal breaker. Have everything at the same location.

 

[lifesavacation]

I have family and friends from all walks of life. Most would think it's tacky and some would feel comfortable at Pizza Hut. I would ask the bride how she feels. I would also nix the idea of a venue change. If your mom is willing to host dessert at her house, why not host the whole shower? Maybe you can take care of all the food so it's one less thing for her to worry about.

 

[Stacy's a freak]

TACKY. Sorry And technically it is not proper etiquette for the MOB to host the shower. BUT! To each his own. If I were very close to the bride and I were invited to a bridal shower at Pizza Hut and there was a venue change, I would still go along with it. It's about the bride (and groom) and supporting her (and them). But you can bet I would at least roll my eyes at the invitation. I may be an etiquette snob but I would not let anyone there know that I felt it tacky. THAT would be extra tacky - you just go and be kind and as generous as you are able.

However, if the bride was not a family member or close friend, I wouldn't expect to be invited to the shower in the first place. (Note, the OP is not saying how many people are invited but a PP mentioned a baby shower that had 150 people invited). At what point did the guest lists to these things become so over the top inclusive?! Let's face it - it's a call for a gift and I find it tacky when people invite everyone under the sun and not just family and close friends. Just an aside

 

[aquabone1109]

I didn't even know pizza hut still had restaurants. Around here, they only have take out places like dominos and papa johns. To be honest, it is very tacky to have it at a pizza hut restaurant. There are plenty of places it can be help at that are probably on par with what pizza hut is charging. Think about how the bride and all her friends and her new MIL/FIL would feel if it's there. It makes you look cheap even though it is not your idea.

 

[kamik86]

TACKY. Sorry And technically it is not proper etiquette for the MOB to host the shower. BUT! To each his own. If I were very close to the bride and I were invited to a bridal shower at Pizza Hut and there was a venue change, I would still go along with it. It's about the bride (and groom) and supporting her (and them). But you can bet I would at least roll my eyes at the invitation. I may be an etiquette snob but I would not let anyone there know that I felt it tacky. THAT would be extra tacky - you just go and be kind and as generous as you are able.

However, if the bride was not a family member or close friend, I wouldn't expect to be invited to the shower in the first place. (Note, the OP is not saying how many people are invited but a PP mentioned a baby shower that had 150 people invited). At what point did the guest lists to these things become so over the top inclusive?! Let's face it - it's a call for a gift and I find it tacky when people invite everyone under the sun and not just family and close friends. Just an aside

My cousins baby shower probably had well over 50 and we aren't a particularly large family and stuck to just females at the shower. If you did a baby shower that included the men it could easily get to 150. In this case she had a large family on both sides that she did see regularly and was pretty social and still living where she grew up all her life so had alot of friends to invite as well.

Now where I agree with you is the wife (who I never met) of another cousin (who I haven't seen him since my grandmothers funeral over 10 years ago and wouldn't recognize if we passed each other in a store) invited me to their baby shower.

My general rule of thumb is if the person wasn't close enough to you to know you were pregnant (or engaged) before they got the shower invite they probably aren't close enough to invite.

 

[Wendy31]

Have you talked to your sister about her wishes? If I were the bride, I really wouldn't want to have my shower at Pizza Hut. Birthday parties, graduation parties, even co-ed showers maybe... Pizza Hut just doesn't seem very bridal shower-y to me.

However, if someone were giving me a shower, I would accept whatever, but, in this situation, since the bride is your sister, I would at least consult w/ her to get an idea of her preferences.

In our area, I've been to many, many bridal & baby showers hosted at different homes. I've also been to several that were in churches' fellowship halls, & I've been to some (not as many) that were hosted in area restaurants or tearooms. I've never been to a shower at a Pizza Hut though.

So, in answer to your question, while I don't think a shower at Pizza Hut is necessarily tacky, if I received an invitation for a Pizza Hut shower, I'd find it a bit unusual. I also really wouldn't like switching locations in the middle of the shower either.

Although technically the mother-of-the-bride is not supposed to host the shower, if your mother is willing to have dessert at her home, why not host the entire thing at her home - if you can't find another reasonable venue? On the invitation, though, just list yourself as the hostess & not your mother.

If you can't afford a full sit down luncheon (which was the reason your mother was suggesting Pizza Hut for the pizza & salad), host the shower in the middle of the afternoon. Turn it into an "afternoon tea" & serve tea sandwiches, little cookies, fruit, cupcakes, etc. That would go well w/ your thoughts for spring flowers too.

EDITED TO ADD: If your mother is set on Pizza Hut, maybe have lunch for the bridal party (bride & bridesmaids) at Pizza Hut, & then have a dessert shower later that same afternoon. The only ones that would be at lunch would be the bridal party, & everyone else would be invited to the shower as the "main event."