Is This OK To You?

[Duchie]

The other day my crazy sister called at 8:00 AM. I was out for a walk and DH was still asleep (he gets to go into work later). Because he was asleep he really didn't remember the conversation and even forgot to tell me about it for a few days. About all he could remember was that she needed to ask me about someone in my high school graduating class. I assumed that since she called so early, it was important and there was a big reason she was asking.

After a few emails I discovered that it was "nothing important" (her words). She was "just curious". And on top of that, she wasn't even sure the girl was in my class at all - she may have been a year or two in front of me or behind me in school.

Now, I think it is extremely inconsiderate to call someone at 8:00 AM just to "chit-chat". I have always assumed if the phone rings that early, it's an emergency or at least something very important. But according to my sister, if you're already up and about there's no harm in calling just to say hello.

What are your thoughts? Both DH and I think it's rude, as do many of my friends here that I've asked.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I call my Mom at 8am her time every morning just to chat, but I also know she will be up. I probably wouldn't call anyone, but family that early unless I knew them really well or it was important that I talk to them.

 

[dzneelvr]

I'm already at work by 8am but I would NOT appreciate receiving such an early call on the weekend!

 

[disneysteve]

I voted NO.

The only person I would call that early is my mom because I know she's up and not busy. I would not be pleased if someone called us in the morning just to chat as we are busy getting ready for work, getting DD ready for school, etc.

 

[DMickey28]

I guess it depends. I too call my mother even earlier than that most days her time, but she is up.

If it was someone I didn't know or something, I think it would be rude but a friend or family member that knows you are up at that time I wouldn't think so.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Hhmmm...do we have the same crazy sister? My sister used to call FREQUENTLY at 7:50, just as the bus was arriving for my son. She always thought he must've left...at best, he would have JUST left. She couldn't get it into her thick head that I needed to make sure he got on the bus OK, and also...that once the kids are gone, I have THINGS TO DO, if only to just sit down and have a nice quiet cup of coffee. I'm not real big on chit-chatting on the phone anyway...much prefer email, where all parties involved can converse at their convenience.

 

[tkyes]

My SIL is notorious for calling us at early or late hours. The very latest I will call someone is 9:30, I even hesitate to do that, usually I try and call before 9. SIL knows we go to bed at 10 and has often called at 10:30 or so, drives me crazy!!! Oh, and of course it's never anything important.

 

[beattyfamily]

It can depend on who it is and what they're calling about and whether it's a weekday or weekend but in general, before 9:00a, during the week, is a no no and after 9:00p, especially 10:00p, is rude and makes me think there is an emergency. On the weekends, I'd think it was rude before 10:00a. I would never call anyone before 10:00a on the weekends.

 

[robinb]

I don't see what the big deal was. She thought you would be up (and you were). Your DH should have told her to call back later instead of trying to take a message.

 

[Microcell]

My boss and I go round and round about that. She wants reminder calls done before 9 and insists that people go to work any earlier than 9 and I think we should be more considerate and wait until 9 to call. I do what she says, though, and usually only get occasional teenagers that early that are asleep.

 

[NMAmy]

I don't think it is rude if you know the person is up and about. I call my mom that early (we've both been up for hours by 8:00 a.m.)

What I hate is when people call me after 8:00 PM to chat or telemarketers call. I've actually threatened to call my sister when I get up at 4:45 a.m. to finish the conversation. I reminded her that I don't call her on the weekends before noon because she likes to sleep in and I'd like the same respect.

 

[Rajah]

In my house, unless you've arranged to call that early ahead of time, DON'T call before 9:30 just to chat, and don't call after 10 just to chat. I have a few friends that I know break the after-10 rule and it's okay with them, but I *hate* it when people call early just to chat.

 

[Swimnoid]

DH goes to bed really early since he has t get up for work at 4:30 am. So I dont want the phone ringing at night. Since I dont have to be at work until around noon I sleep in and dont want the phone ringing early. Soooo I turn off all the ringers except one that is pretty quiet. IF it is important they will leave a message. IF it is my DD she will call my cell in an emergency and I leave that on. The company we lease our car from used to call at 8 am on a Sat morning until I got it through their thick heads that they were AUTOMATCIALLY taking the payment from my bank account already! "Oops" they say!

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

At my house it's Don't call before 9am, and don't call after 9:30pm. The kids have a different timetable, and will talk to their friends @ 10pm on a non-school night, but I don't like calls after that.

 

[WilmaBud]

I don't think 8:00 is that early. Most people I know are up and about at that hour, especially on a weekday. I don't think it's rude.

 

[chesirekate]

I suppose if you work in a 9-5 world then 8am isn't that early. Well, my DH works 12-6 or 12-8 depending on the day, and I work at home so pretty much keep to his schedule so we're both done working around the same time. We are rarely up before 10am, so someone calling at 8am would be extremely annoying. Of course, we are up until 2am so the late night calls don't bother us at all. However, we do not make late night calls ourselves out of courtesy to our 9-5 friends and family.

 

[helenabear]

Totally depends. I am at work at 7 am every week day, so an 8 am call for me isn't all that bad. If someone knows I am up, it's cool. I prefer it to be close friends and family though. I usually keep 9 am as the rule for calling others myself

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

We're up between 6 and 7am...so if I had to call someone to ask a question, I would (keeping in mind of course whether or not they'd be up at 8am in the morning.)

So I do not think it rude.

 

[caitycaity]

if i knew the person was up, i don't think it is rude. my dad (for example) wakes up at 3 and is in bed by 7 or 8. i frequently call him early in the morning.

 

[Beth76]

I never call anyone before 9am unless I really have to talk to them about something and I know they're up. That is very rare, and it's a good friend or my parents. I will actually wait until about 9:05 before making a call.

In my house, we sleep in when we can. So, I expect people not to call me before 9am unless it's extremely important. I had a friend call me at 8:30 on a Saturday morning once. I was up, but DH was still sleeping and the phone woke him up. She called to tell me something stupid about her sister.