Is this body shaming?

[xlxo]

Thoughts....

• what are others wearing at the wedding?
• what message does she want to send out by wearing that outfit?

 

[JaneBanks]

Thoughts....

• what are others wearing at the wedding?
• what message does she want to send out by wearing that outfit?

1. What does it matter what everyone else was wearing?
2. That she feels confident with herself? You can't be suggesting that she deserved to be harassed?

Whether or not the dress is ugly/inappropriate doesn't bother me. The behavior of the other guests is what is shameful. Why can't people just let things go. Fine, you don't like the dress? Don't wear it and move along. Let other people live. Sounds like those other guests were just jealous.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Given the obvios publicity the woman is trying to garner for her bussiness and that the only thing we have to go on is her own posts about it--I sort of doubt there is any truth in the tale whatsoever.

But, even if it is exactly as she says---not body shaming at all---just poor choice of clothing for the event type and some rude and likely very drunk people at the event saying things to her about that poor choice.

It sounds like it was the same one person who slapped her backside and spilled the drink (and it is described as spilled, not thrown on)--sounds to me like a very drunk person took a dare, did somehting very innappropriate (slpping a stranger's backside) and then spilled her drink while talking about it. Bad? Yes. Proof that there was a lot of body shaming or mean girl stuff going on? Uh, no.


Oh, and saying she chose that dress due to the heat strikes me as odd--skin tight things always feel much hotter to me, than a lose, flowy dress that gets air flow.

 

[diz8297]

She has many assets, however class isn't one of them.

 

[Mokat76]

1. What does it matter what everyone else was wearing?
2. That she feels confident with herself? You can't be suggesting that she deserved to be harassed?

Whether or not the dress is ugly/inappropriate doesn't bother me. The behavior of the other guests is what is shameful. Why can't people just let things go. Fine, you don't like the dress? Don't wear it and move along. Let other people live. Sounds like those other guests were just jealous.

I don't buy her pathetic story for a second. She's all about the publicity/attention, which is why she wore this dress to a wedding and quickly launched a movement. Where's the proof others harassed her? Oh, that's right. You don't need proof to be a "victim;" you just have to proclaim yourself one. What a self-absorbed moron.

 

[Oreo Cookie]

I don't believe her entire story. I'm sure she may have gotten the "evil eye" from a few guests because her dress is inappropriate for a wedding, and she knows it. She wanted attention, and she got it.

 

[plutotek]

Gee, sounds like most of you were at the wedding.

 

[disykat]

Yep. I agree with those that say she dressed for attention and she got it. I'd venture to guess that purposely dressing to distract (that dress seems to say "haha I look nude but I'm not!") at a wedding would be frowned upon by miss manners.

Clearly she has a beautiful body and if anyone could wear that dress she could - that still doesn't make it appropriate for a wedding nor does it make it body shaming for people to notice!

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

It may be an ugly dress but not the first "ugly" dress I've seen at a wedding. Since when did it become appropriate to go up to a person at a wedding and tell them what they think of their attire?

 

[Aliceacc]

Bad behavior all around.

She dressed for attention. She got it. That dress was not remotely appropriate.

But it's also no one else's business. Yep, they're entitled to their opinion. And they can be as catty as they want-- in the car, on the way home from the wedding. In the meantime, she's a guest, as they are. They owe it to their hosts to show her the same courtesy as every other guest deserves.

 

[gwynne]

Sometimes a wedding is about the bride and groom, sometimes the most memorable thing about a wedding is a guest's dress. I think this woman is doing exactly what works for her.
I wonder how many selfies she took in that dress. Over 25? Over 50?
And no, I don't think anyone should have said anything to her. Her carefully made dress choice says it all.

 

[PollyannaMom]

I think it was a completely innapropriate dress for a wedding, but I also think it was mean for anyone to go up and slap her. It wasn't another guest's call to do something about what she wore. I don't think "body-shaming" is exactly what I'd call it, though, and I wonder if maybe it was a bit of a publicity stunt?

 

[Hikergirl]

Fitness instructor body shamed for wearing a skin tight dress that showed her amazing body.
No this doesn't seem like a publicity stunt at all.

 

[fly girl]

Body shaming? No way! She has an awesome body and is beautiful. No doubt about it.

A BIG however ...

You don't go to a wedding in that dress. I don't care how hot it is, find something appropriate. This had NOTHING to do with the heat IMHO. This had to do with somebody wanting all the attention focused on HER! It's not your wedding, get over yourself and make the night about the couple not you.

 

[MrsCobraBubbles]

She's a beautiful woman but that was an inappropriate dress to wear to a wedding. You are NOT supposed to try to outshine the bride, and that dress shows so much skin (and is so tight it leaves nothing to the imagination) you can't help but stare at her. I understand that she is confident and proud of her body, and with that body I'm sure she can wear almost anything she wants, but as I tell my kids: just because you CAN do something, doesn't mean that you SHOULD. Buy something a bit more modest to celebrate with the bride, and save the skintight dress for going out dancing with your husband.

To answer you question--no, it's not body shaming, it's the shaming of a rude, self-centered person. What she reports happened to her is wrong and shouldn't have happened because publicly shaming people is wrong. But what she did was wrong too. All the parties involved in this incident behaved badly and should share the blame for ruining this poor bride's wedding.

 

[ShirikiUtundu]

Ugh, maybe this woman should hang out with Ariel Winter.

If you dress to get attention, you're going to get attention. Good or bad, right or wrong, but that's just the way it goes. End of story.

 

[CarolAnn856]

I'm wondering if there was even a wedding at all. It all seems so contrived, I have a hard time believing any of it. I think she just figured this would be a great way to drum up attention and business. Hardly the kind of person I would want to work with as a trainer, so I'm not sure what she stands to gain from this stunt.

 

[Pawpsicle]

Guests were rude, but that dress is 100% inappropriate for a wedding.

I had to have my photographer photoshop over a guest's ultra-revealing dress in my cake cutting pictures. Apparently she paid a lot of money for her new boobs, but I also paid a lot of money for that photographer. Stay classy people.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Too much dress, If you're going to wear something one shouldn't wear to a wedding, go for the gusto and leave nothing to the imagination.

 

[tarheelmjfan]

This is more like attention seeking than body shaming. I doubt anyone was making fun of her for being too fit.