Is this appropriate? (long)

[WDWAurora]

I'm offended that people are making assumptions about "us" based upon one misuse of language...If that makes sense. I didn't ask about him, I asked if the situation was normal, as I know this never happened at my old school. I realize that many people didn't mean to come off as offensive, which is why I haven't said anything rude (at least I hope not) but it does make you feel a little bad when everyone thinks your significant other is "bad" simply because they choose not to be around alcohol and think it has nothing to do with school.

 

[Bojangles]

Why are you making such a big deal about a keg being at a party? If there are a lot of people, it makes it cheaper and a lot easier than dealing with coolers and empty bottles and cans.

If something this minor offends you, maybe you would be better off at a more "conservative" school.

 

[WDWAurora]

Bojangles-I'm not trying to make a big deal about it, just trying to see if it is common practice to be required to go to a party deemed a keggar by your school. I am not offended that there will be a keg, just seemed odd to me. Like I said, I am not offended, and probably would go to a more conservative school if my program were more widely offered. As it is, I'm in a class of fewer than 10 people (not sure if it's 8 or 9, I think 8). Again, not offended, no need to be so harsh. Thanks for the opinion.

 

[shortbun]

Originally posted by Crankyshank
The comment you made about him freaking and wanting you to leave the school because faculty/student gatherings have alcohol really raises a red flag with me.

He really needs to learn how to act appropriately and handle a situation where people are drinking socially. Just because there is alcohol doesn't mean people are going to be out of control. My classmates and I would often go out for drinks with my history prof after class and this is undergrad (continuing ed). We always had a great time and it was a fabulous way to get to know each other.

I would go. If he can't handle the situation then I would leave him at home. I have yet to feel pressured to drink at a party after I left High school

As far as grown up parties not having kegs? I have been to many cookouts that have had one

People can not object to drinking without being called
immature or unsociable? Parties do not have to have
alcohol to be fun. I'm questioning your intolerance of the
poster and the possible pressure YOU are putting on her
when you claim there is no pressure to drink. I drink
occassionally but I prefer my professional events to be
booze free-less chance for inappropriate behavior from immature
adults.

 

[Bojangles]

Originally posted by shortbun
I prefer my professional events to be
booze free.

Don't you drive a bus?

 

[Bob Slydell]

Originally posted by WDWAurora
Bob Slydell-Yes it was referred to as a kegger, by 3 different teachers.

Ok, I stand corrected.

My initial response is still the same, though. Go to the party, meet some of your classmates and socialize for a while, then excuse yourself before it gets out of hand.

The only other option seems to be either A.) find an excuse for not going or B.) drop out of the school. Because I can't imagine they're going to change the policy about drinking at events unless a significant number of people express concerns.

 

[Crankyshank]

Shortbun please point out where I called her unsociable or immature?
My comment was in reference to statement where the boyfriend would freak out because there was a keg and try and get her to drop out of that school. Which IMHO is not an appropriate response to a social situation. and I am sorry, but he does need to learn how to handle disapprovement of alcohol in a more constructive and and appropriate manner. Freaking out and insisting she drop out would not be what I personally would call appropriate.
How am I putting pressure on her when I stated MY experience, which is that I have gone out for drinks in a college setting with a prof and haven't been pressured to drink at all.
I wasn't sitting in judgement for her at all. There were other posts that were a lot more critical- I'm not sure why mine was singled out. I have no intolerance for her and I believe you completely misread my post

 

[JessetheCowgirl]

I would probably make a short appearance.

 

[disykat]

This just goes to show how people interpret words differently. I interpreted her comments about how he would "freak out ..." to mean that it would be upsetting to him and he would question the professionalism of the department if faculty got drunk at a school function that involved students. Possibly because that would be my reaction as well.

 

[WDWAurora]

disykat, that was the exact meaning and having people make personal judgements of HIM, who has never even said anything on here, is a little off topic. I'll be gone all weekend, but I'm going to leave this post rather than delete it simply because my goal was to find out if others have heard of it and I feel like the question has been answered.