We don't actually use onsite benefits much at all. For us, the comparison & decision is made based on resort experience & budget. When we're in Orlando, we like to visit other Deluxe resorts, have something to eat, and enjoy the transportation (boats, Skyliner, monorail). This is pretty easy for us regardless of where we stay. Moderate & Value resorts don't appeal as much
to us, since we get more amenities & have more fun at offsite resorts for less money. In order for us to afford a Deluxe hotel Disney vacation, we'd have to use our entire year's travel budget for a single trip.

We'd have to skip our beloved long weekends at the SC beaches, other southeast getaways, and our many road trip visits to family in 4 other states each year. Um... no.
Instead, we have Club Wyndham timeshare points that we may use to stay at CW Bonnet Creek or trade via RCI into a DVC resort 1BR, usually SSR. Both of these resorts offer gorgeous grounds, beautiful evening lighting with outdoor music, beautiful pool areas, fun activities, thoughtfully laid-out rooms and extensive amenities. Both have modest but not immersive theming. Since we don't use onsite benefits, it's an apples-to-apples comparison for us. On recent stays with family along, we chatted comparisons & preferences. We all enjoyed them both, no question.
DS & DDIL leaned more toward SSR for the ability to walk to DS and take a bus to any other resort on-property, as well as the bigger splash pad for their 2-year-old. (They disliked having to take their DS out of the stroller for every bus ride though.) Also, having lived in urban areas for years and now in FL with palm trees everywhere, they felt that the low-rise buildings and northern countryside landscaping of SSR were more vacation-like, more beautiful and romantic for them.
DH & I lean more toward CWBC for the larger rooms, higher floor views, fun floating rivers at the pools, gas grill picnic areas, lakefront bar/grills (they're poolside at both resorts), and abundance of free/included resort activities. Also, since we live in a low-rise condo in the NC mountains, we find the high-rise towers and tropical landscaping of CWBC to be more vacation-like, more beautiful and romantic for us. LOL! Different strokes!!!