Is my husband being out of order?

[wilma-bride]

I think its best that its a full no rather than compromises.

I think you're right Michelle. If she arranged to go on her own then I think you and Bruce would feel obligated to try and include her in your plans so, essentially, she may just as well have gone with you as it will apply the same pressure.

I also concur with what Deb and Jodie said - if she would have the money available for a trip this year, it stands to reason that money could be put away for next year. Granted, she may 'need' a holiday more now than she will next year but I don't buy the fact that she wouldn't be able to afford it then - it sounds to me like it's a little bit of emotional pressure of her own.

Anyway, FWIW I think you absolutely made the right decision and I hope poor Bruce isn't feeling too bad. It says a lot about the kind of people you both are that you're more concerned about other people's feelings than your own

 

[ely3857]

It's nice of Bruce to try and think of ways of including her but the more you mention about your friend the less likely it will be.

It seems (and of course I only have a teeny bit of info to work on) that she either goes with you and stays with you or she refuses to go at all in a bit of a sulky type moment.

If she really wanted to go she would either save her money until next year or get on board with having her own family trip and be happy meeting you 2 or 3 times to chat and catch up. I am sure she would be fine on her own, tons of people do it, and of course she has you to get her WDW/USF knowledge up to speed before you go.



Jodie

 

[jen_uk]

Could she not save say 75% of the money for next year, use the 25% for a cheap holiday this year to Spain or somewhere and then save up the missing money over the next year?

 

[jtlover]

I dont think it is a good idea - I always find you dont enjoy the holiday as much as you are making sure they are enjoying themselves. I agree with your hubby.

Or an alternative would be to plan the holiday and have days where you deliberately are not together - that may work

 

[angel659]

Hi

Thanks for all of your advice. I asked my friend to go somewhere cheap this year and with the rest of the money go to Florida. Her reply was I need a holiday and I want a big one. Lewis is not that fussed on going to Disney. He wants to go to Egypt. Somehow I cant see her coping well on her own out there. She wont listen.

 

[wils]

Well, to me it seems like you've made a very generous offer wrt next year and if she is not willing to compromise and accept it then its her loss. (seeing more of this unfold I think that she would most probably have ruined your holiday this year!)

 

[Disney owl]

I personally think your husband is right!

Sorry if this isn't the answer you wanted.

On our 1st visit we went with friends & shared a villa we are still talking because we had 2 seperate cars & only met up occasionally in the parks. We of course saw each other every night in the villa

 

[Shane]

Hola

Although Im not totally sure what I would do in that situation I would suggest your friend and her young son that they went alone. Although they wont have you and others to tell them whats what I think they would have fun just them two. Being able to enjoy it as mother and son. I remember going to DLRP with just my mum for a birthday, had a great time

Still, either way I think you will all have a great time

 

[ely3857]

Hi

Thanks for all of your advice. I asked my friend to go somewhere cheap this year and with the rest of the money go to Florida. Her reply was I need a holiday and I want a big one. Lewis is not that fussed on going to Disney. He wants to go to Egypt. Somehow I cant see her coping well on her own out there. She wont listen.

The more you mention her the more I think you've made the right decision. She seem's a little bit sulky and it appears she wants her own way now or she'll reject any further offers from you.

I do think she would have ruined you holiday by not giving you and your family any personal space and it sounds like she would have had a tantrum or two if she didnt get her own way about what time to leave, where to eat etc.



Jodie

 

[Netty]

Even though you have dismissed her going with you on your holiday(which is the right choice )
Its a great idea in theory but in practicality -no!
I would just like to say that every year that we go away, more than likely we have my sil dh and 2 lads with us!
both families stay in different villas, on different communities and we meet up now and again for meals, bowling a day in the parks etc. this works for all of us as being together 24/7 just wouldnt work-everyone need their own personal space, and we dont have to hang around all of us deciding what were going to do and compromising on everything, as someones bound to get wound up!
go enjoy your holiday as a family

 

[islandmum]

we go on hols with our friends and on our own - it purely depends on who they are and where we're going.

the people we go with are our BEST friends and therefore everyone is really relaxed, we dont get offended if we go our seperate ways and theres no tension.

its always worked very well.

but if we went with other friends who arent quite as close it would be a NIGHTMARE! Everybody has to get along REALLY well for it to work.

we're meeting up with our pals again this year - not WDW but striaght after in the Bahamas for a week and we cant wait. We'll have done 18 days on our own already so will have had our "family time" which is VERY important also