Geez. You make it sound like he's planning a surprise root canal.
That is what being the center of attention feels like to me - painful! It's okay, I know I will survive that part, it's just that I hope he's paying for it and not doing it the way he did his parents party all those years ago.
. It was day after we'd just returned from a cruise, thought we were going to a dinner for an out of state BIL that was visiting. Had no idea it was a party for us and were totally floored by the guests, wedding cake, pictures, the works! 
!?!?! 
. Believe me, everything will be fine and you will have a wonderful time!!! Go with the flow, enjoy, and leave the surprise and financial part up to them. 
Honestly? If that's going to be a big thing with you, then you need to tell him that. Because I'm thinking that if it turns out to be a "pay your own way" party, that it will ruin the entire evening. That's clearly a huge concern for you, so you need to address it. If he's not aware how appalled you'd be by that, you need to tell him. For your sake as well as his.
Honestly? If that's going to be a big thing with you, then you need to tell him that. Because I'm thinking that if it turns out to be a "pay your own way" party, that it will ruin the entire evening. That's clearly a huge concern for you, so you need to address it. If he's not aware how appalled you'd be by that, you need to tell him. For your sake as well as his.
Do yourself a favor and go with the flow...there are times we do not have to know every little detail. Your considerate, loving, DH and DD, have something up their sleeve and that's where it should stay.
We're very fortunate to have been recipients of quite a few surprise parties ~ the last being our 45th anniversary
I am the do'er and don't like surprises ~ but I got over it fast! Let's just say if I'd had any idea, I would've paid more attention to my hair and dress
It turned out absolutely wonderful and we are eternally greatfully to our kids for pulling it off!
Your DH and DD are doing this because they love you, you deserve this, and they want it to be a surpsied
I think this is about the worst idea ever!
Honestly? If that's going to be a big thing with you, then you need to tell him that. Because I'm thinking that if it turns out to be a "pay your own way" party, that it will ruin the entire evening. That's clearly a huge concern for you, so you need to address it. If he's not aware how appalled you'd be by that, you need to tell him. For your sake as well as his.
OP here. It was a party! Dh planned it with my eldest dd23. She did a lot of the work and he did a lot of the running around. He paid for some of it and the oldest 3 paid for the rest. He even hired a DJ!
Here's how it went down. We were supposed to be meeting his bestman and his bestman's wife at the hotel and then go to a restaurant from there. My kids that were home went to my Mom's for the day to help her with outside work, supposedly. In actuality, they were waiting for dd23 to pick them up to go to the party. So Dh took me to the motel and his bestman was waiting outside. He said his wife was not ready yet and we could go up to the room to wait. We were chitchatting as we walked down the hallway in the motel and we got to a doorway and he opened the door - I thought it was going to stairs or a hallway of rooms - but it was a banquet room and I saw my sister sitting at a table and balloons.....I wanted to run, lol! But I held it together. I really am kind of shy and don't like being the center of attention, but it was no use I was the center of attention. I shook inside for about the first 30 minutes. After I found my way to our table, yes there were quite a few tables, my Dh got the mike from the DJ and he gave a speech, then the best man gave a toast and then we had a dance to our "first dance" song from our wedding. I didn't realize how long that song was, LOL! We had great food and the DJ was playing songs and we got up to dance, and my sisters and I and my maid of honor got up to dance and we had a great time! By then I had relaxed a little. I still had to go around to all the tables and talk to people, but it was okay.
One of the best parts of the party was my elderly Aunt and Uncle who live about 4 hours away were there. Their daughter and her husband drove them up and they came to the party too of course - but I was so shocked to see them! Every summer I say to my Dh that we should try to get down to see them because they are getting older, etc. and she's my only Aunt. And there they were! And my Mom was so glad to see her too - they sat at the same table and talked through the whole party. It was so great. My Mom told me today how sad she was when they said goodbye to each other. At their age, they don't know if they will ever see each other again. I'm glad that my party provided them with a reason to get together.
So to everyone who said to relax and have a good time, whatever was being planned, I took your advice and once I was over the initial shock of entering the party, I had a good time.
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