Is it cheating....?

[FreshTressa]

Okay, I have a good friend that is in a situation and I just wondered if you considered it cheating.

She met this man and they totally hit it off and they seemed perfect for each other. One slight problem, the man is married. According to the man, the marriage has been over for about 4 years but that they stay together for financial reasons. They also have a 3 month old baby.

Anyway, they talked for about two weeks, then the man moved out of his house with his wife and into an apartment close to my friend. He gave her keys and everything. She claims he doesn't seem to be hiding anything and has been honest about his situation from the beginning. He claims he was just too lazy to actually leave and that by meeting my friend, it gave him motivation to finally shove off.

Well, they haven't done anything physical yet, nor has he filed for divorce. Is it cheating?? What does she need to watch out for??

 

[melk]

I think the red flag would go up when he says he's still in his marriage only for financial reasons but they have a 3-month old baby (tax write off???).

My advice would be don't get involved.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

I think an emotional affair is absolutely cheating. In some regards, maybe worse than a purely physical relationship. It sounds a little too complex for her to get involved.

 

[gymnasticsmom68]

According to the man, the marriage has been over for about 4 years

They also have a 3 month old baby.

Well, if that isn't 2 different sides of the fence, then I don't know what is. Does your friend know what it takes to have a baby?

 

[jx3smom]

If the marriage was over for 4 years than why does he have a 3 month old baby? That alone will tell you he isn't very honest, in my opinion.

 

[dianeschlicht]

My immediate reaction was the same! If the "marraige has been over for 4 years", why is there a 3 month old???? This guy is a dead beat. I would not trust one word from him!

 

[Mishetta]

DANGER WILL ROBINSON, DANGER!!

That's all I have to say.

 

[chager]

Originally posted by FreshTressa
. According to the man, the marriage has been over for about 4 years but that they stay together for financial reasons. They also have a 3 month old baby.

This situation puts up a BIG red flag. I say tell her to RUN from this guy!! I find it hard to believe the marriage was over 4 years ago but yet they have a 3mo old infant!! The next excuse will be they can't divorce because of the baby!

 

[dcgrumpy]

ditto to what the others have said. They are obviously together for more reasons than just financial issues.

 

[~*Belle 2003*~]

They have 3 mth old baby, stay together for financial reasons but the marriage has been over for 4 years - He is a LOOSER!

Tell your friend to stay away from him!

 

[FreshTressa]

Not trying to make an excuse for the guy, but he has moved completely out and no longer lives with his wife.

 

[tiggersmom2]

DANGER WILL ROBINSON,DANGER!

ROFLMAO!!!
ITA!!!

 

[nativetxn]

He's married. When he is no longer married then it won't be "cheating".

That poor 3 month old baby

 

[FreshTressa]

So, even if they guy totally moves out, hmm.

What if he files for divorce, then can they pursue a relationship or is it still too creepy??

 

[floridaminnie]

Originally posted by FreshTressa
Not trying to make an excuse for the guy, but he has moved completely out and no longer lives with his wife.

Is he really living in the apartment?

 

[FreshTressa]

Yes, totally. I have been over there and she goes over there every evening. He has been moved out for three weeks. They haven't slept together yet (or at least thats what she tells me)

She says that way she knows he is sincere.

 

[bumcat]

So, even if they guy totally moves out, hmm.

What if he files for divorce, then can they pursue a relationship or is it still too creepy??


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HE IS STILL MARRIED! and probably will have his cake and eat it too.

 

[FreshTressa]

I have an idea....what if she talks to the wife and gets permission, so that way she knows he isn't two timing. And if he refuses, she knows he is hiding something.

 

[HappyMommy2]

That whole scenario makes me ill. Maybe if there wasn't a child involved it wouldn't be quite so awful, but...blech.
I don't know the wife's side of the story--maybe she is on the scummy side too; who knows?--but I think she deserves to at least have the dignity of a divorce settlement and a good child custody agreement before her husband goes running around with other women!

 

[Jingle]

It is absoultely cheating. No more said.