Is anyone out here watching Oprah?

[Want2liveatWDW]

I think it's a great topic. I though I was the only one out there that felt like this. (Some days anyway)
Anyone else have an opinion?

 

[ChiTownZee]

I don't get to watch anymore, what's the topic?

 

[Want2liveatWDW]

They have women who some days resent being a mother. Not that they don't love their kids. They just don't feel that motherhood is all that it's cracked up to be.
That people never told them about the "bad days" of motherhood.

 

[RitaZ.]

I think that most women feel that way at one time or another. It's just not really talked about for fear of being labeled a bad or unloving mother. I can tell you that I have felt that way.

As for nursing.... No one ever told me that breastfeeding was painful, I mean no one. The books I read basically said that if it was painful, then you were doing it wrong (the baby not latching on correctly, flat nipples, etc.) After nursing 3 kids, I can honestly say that isn't accurate. Even if you know what you are doing, there is a "conditioning" period that your nipples go through.

Why can't we talk openly about these issues with other women?

 

[LvsTnk]

The hardest thing for me about being a mother is watching my kids go through hardships that re unfair.

It just kills me to have DS (special needs) get stared at or laughed at. I can't take it when other kids pick on my child or someone elses. I really can't stand it when adults don't behave like they should as an example for children. I mean how do tell your kids that to talk about other kids is bad when they know adults have done it about them!!

I know some of it makes them tougher and teaches them about life but it breaks my heart

 

[Want2liveatWDW]

In reply to RitaZ. :
"I think that most women feel that way at one time or another. It's just not really talked about for fear of being labeled a bad or unloving mother. I can tell you that I have felt that way. "

I almost didn't start this thread for that exact reason.
I do mostly lurking but I figured someone out there must feel this way too. Otherwise Oprah wouldn't be doing a show about it.

 

[binny]

ditto!

example.. for the last week Karissa has decide that she no longer wants to sleep past 4 AM sometimes ealrier. I am exhausted beyond belief!

Do I love my daughter? Most definately do I like her much at 4 AM? not really.

There are so many days when I think " man if someone were to come into my house today and see how Im dealing ( or not) with my kids they'd take me away!"

I think thats why we are so scared to be talking about stuff like this!! I know we want to be seen as the loving caring parents we are taught we should be 24/7 but it just is NOT possible!!!


Im so glad people are talking about this.

I think its really important

 

[Want2liveatWDW]

Well I feel a little better that there are a few of us out here.
So when one day I pop up and post out of the blue,"TAKE MY CHILDREN PLEASE!!!!".
I know I'm not alone.

 

[CamColt]

Add me to the club! Ive had my share of days when I need to be reminded of why I wanted to have kids.

 

[goofygirl]

It really reinforced my desires to stay childfree. And by the way, Oprah herself is happy childfree, too!

It was refreshing to hear the TRUTH for once, instead of the tired cliches that I've heard over and over: "its different when its your own..", "being a parent is so magical and rewarding...", "I wouldnt trade it for the world..", blah, blah, blah!


Cheers to Oprah!

 

[binny]

just a disclaimer, I never said parenting wasnt rewarding. It IS to me. If it isnt for you thats fine.


Yes there are a lot of people who will shove things down your thoat.

Parenting is HARD dont let anyone tell you differently, but TO ME it is best job I have ever done and I cant imagine any other JOB that I would be willing to go through this for.

JMHO

 

[Want2liveatWDW]

I must say too I agree with Binny.
I wouldn't trade my kids or my life for anything.
(But just don't aks me on a bad day)

 

[RitaZ.]

For me the TRUTH is that parenting is very hard work, it doesn't mean that it isn't rewarding. It means that we aren't perfect human beings, that we have feelings that are sometimes considered taboo to discuss, that every day and every moment isn't total bliss.

The focus of this show was to get women to bring these issues out in the open, not to disparage motherhood. Most importantly to share our parenting experiences and wisdom with other moms/parents.

When I talk to other moms/parents about my concerns and worries, I realize that I'm not alone and also learn a thing or two from them. From my point of view, that was the message of this show.

I wouldn't trade being a mom for anything. I can't imagine not having my children in my life.

I also respect women that feel that motherhood isn't for them. It's a personal choice.

 

[SilverLily]

I agree Rita Z. I didn't see the show, but it sounds like women just need to be able to feel that they can talk about the difficult times.

Just because something requires a lot of hard work, it does not mean that it is something to regret. In fact, the things that take the most work are often the most rewarding! Women just want to be able to feel like they can talk about the hard times without people jumping to conclusions about how they feel about motherhood.

 

[disykat]

Sometimes I just miss having time to myself or with my husband alone - But I love my kids and wouldn't trade them.

I was in my 30's when I had my kids and sometimes I think all that time to myself made the sacrifices you make for kids harder - other times I think it makes it easier!

 

[MosMom]

Originally posted by goofygirl
It really reinforced my desires to stay childfree. And by the way, Oprah herself is happy childfree, too!

It was refreshing to hear the TRUTH for once, instead of the tired cliches that I've heard over and over: "its different when its your own..", "being a parent is so magical and rewarding...", "I wouldnt trade it for the world..", blah, blah, blah!


Cheers to Oprah!

I wouldn't say that being a parent isn't rewarding and I certainly wouldn't trade it for the world either! All the show was saying is that you DO have bad days and sometimes you feel like you are going out of your gourd. However, the fact that parenting is rewarding isn't an untruth...it may not apply to everyone but it is very much rewarding even though some days drive you insane.

 

[MosMom]

Originally posted by RitaZ.
I think that most women feel that way at one time or another. It's just not really talked about for fear of being labeled a bad or unloving mother. I can tell you that I have felt that way.

As for nursing.... No one ever told me that breastfeeding was painful, I mean no one. The books I read basically said that if it was painful, then you were doing it wrong (the baby not latching on correctly, flat nipples, etc.) After nursing 3 kids, I can honestly say that isn't accurate. Even if you know what you are doing, there is a "conditioning" period that your nipples go through.

Why can't we talk openly about these issues with other women?

Rita,

I agree there is such a lack of information when it comes to breastfeeding. I almost quit because all the websites and books showed the typical latch but didn't talk about the "nipple sandwich" latch. I was so miserable until I found the method on a message board. The pain issue is a biggie too...even beyond nipple pain...letdown hurts for a lot of women too and I've never seen that mentioned. Breastfeeding is still almost a dirty word though.

 

[Claudia1]

Didn't the nativetxn bus run through here just a little bit ago?!?!?!

Solitude..... that's what I need most as a Mom. DH is out of town on a business trip and my Mother wanted to come in to stay & help with the nightime feedings. It is better for me to continue the feedings with my DD and to get somesolitude than to have the extra company.

I love my kids beyond words but I agree about the feelings expressed here.

 

[believe]

Last week.......was a Calgon week!

This week.......is a week of rewards and lots of wonderful moments.

Would I trade my life for a 'childless' life? No way!!!!! Not now...not ever.

I love my DDs with all my heart and soul. They are a wonderful gift from God and I am very blessed!!!! I am thankful for each day He gives me with them.

 

[airhead]

I can't stand that show or her obnoxious friend Dr. Phil! Can't believe he has his own show now and people actually watch it!!

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