Is anyone Catholic?

[littleladykaty]

y'know what cracks me up, is that while the Church is unbending, inflexible and hypocritically judgemental...a lot of us who were raised up in it...being taught by nuns...trying to get away with rolling our skirts to make them shorter...well get one over on the church is just the Catholic way! And actually, even though I joke about it...there are elements of catholicism that I do believe in and subscribe to, but more than that...it's just culturally part of who I am. To not be Catholic anymore would be turning away from a huge part of my history and culture that is deeply important to my grandparents...

I am rambling...I guess I was just responding to people talking about not being Catholic anymore...that never occurred to me! I've just made it a religion that I can work with...Yes I am a good Catholic girl, and I have my childhood rituals that are deeply ingrained in my very being...but I question when I need to and talk to God all the time...without the intercession of anyone! We understand eachother...I have my close personal relationship and am still a Catholic. We are a motely, rag tag bunch sometimes...

Which is why I think that letting the church dictate where you get married and how that validates your marriage is silly! In the end it's between you and your husband and God...who I'm sure likes Disney very much!

 

[Goobergal99]

y'know what cracks me up, is that while the Church is unbending, inflexible and hypocritically judgemental...a lot of us who were raised up in it...being taught by nuns...trying to get away with rolling our skirts to make them shorter...well get one over on the church is just the Catholic way! And actually, even though I joke about it...there are elements of catholicism that I do believe in and subscribe to, but more than that...it's just culturally part of who I am. To not be Catholic anymore would be turning away from a huge part of my history and culture that is deeply important to my grandparents...

I am rambling...I guess I was just responding to people talking about not being Catholic anymore...that never occurred to me! I've just made it a religion that I can work with...Yes I am a good Catholic girl, and I have my childhood rituals that are deeply ingrained in my very being...but I question when I need to and talk to God all the time...without the intercession of anyone! We understand eachother...I have my close personal relationship and am still a Catholic. We are a motely, rag tag bunch sometimes...

Which is why I think that letting the church dictate where you get married and how that validates your marriage is silly! In the end it's between you and your husband and God...who I'm sure likes Disney very much!

I agree with all of the above, although I really don't consider myself a catholic anymore b/c I just don't practice. "Ok I am a non practicing catholic"

I still carry it with me though... all that guilt
My MIL just found out I was on BC and she was like "why, you are married" So what, didn't realize that meant I had to continue to procreate. But hey she is a devout catholic, a devout HYPOCRITE!!

 

[Boo0105]

The church is just way too complicated. As I wrote before I am having my
catholic wedding before we head to Disney, this is my problem now. First of all they want my baptism, communion and confirmation certificates. The church that I did my communion & confirmation merged with the church I presently attend. So great they can get my communion & confirmation info.
Not so, they found my confirmation information but not my communion. So they ask me if I was sure that I did it at that church. I was like listen, I attended CCD classes there from 1st to 8th grade of course I did it there,plus how could I have done my confirmation without my communion. She then asked me the names of my classmates, luckily I remember a lot of them. She was like no your not on the list. She started to tick me off so I was like I have the pictures to prove it. As proof I now have to take pictures of my communion. Mind you I help out at the church, I was also married in the church before(not this one) and got an annulment, isn't that proof enough that I have done all my sacraments.

 

[JJClemson]

The church is just way too complicated. As I wrote before I am having my
catholic wedding before we head to Disney, this is my problem now. First of all they want my baptism, communion and confirmation certificates. The church that I did my communion & confirmation merged with the church I presently attend. So great they can get my communion & confirmation info.
Not so, they found my confirmation information but not my communion. So they ask me if I was sure that I did it at that church. I was like listen, I attended CCD classes there from 1st to 8th grade of course I did it there,plus how could I have done my confirmation without my communion. She then asked me the names of my classmates, luckily I remember a lot of them. She was like no your not on the list. She started to tick me off so I was like I have the pictures to prove it. As proof I now have to take pictures of my communion. Mind you I help out at the church, I was also married in the church before(not this one) and got an annulment, isn't that proof enough that I have done all my sacraments.

Oh my goodness! I think you belong to the same church I grew up in! The office ladies are the meanest people ever. I finally went there yesterday to cancel my wedding (I was originally doing the whole church thing, instead of DFTW, when I first booked it last December). They said they needed to see my I.D. before they would cancel it. Nevermind the fact that I had been going to this church since before I was born and my mother is a current employee there These ladies know me! I was so angry! I went out to my car, got my driver's license then they made me sign a piece of paper saying I was cancelling, and they compared that signature to the one on my driver's license! Isn't that crazy?

Hmmm... after that wonderful treatment I wonder why I would choose a DFTW over a Catholic ceremony?

 

[dsnyfan6/18]

I ran into the same problem. I spoke with my priest in my new parish and he told me that he could absoutely not bless my marriage. However, when I talked to my priest at the parish i grew up in, he was more than helpful. He will be performing a "convalidation ceremony" for us in the fall. we will still have to go through the pre-cana and all of that, but this is a common thing, and i don't understand why some parishes do not want to do it.

good luck!

 

[Tiggerific04]

I know no one's posted on this thread in quite awhile, but DF and I just got engaged a couple weeks ago and are running into all the same Catholic Church problems mentioned here.

If you have a wedding outside of the Church and then get it blessed, what is involved? Do you still have to do pre-cana and counseling? I know it can vary from church to church and depends on the priest, etc.

Thank you!

 

[BrideToBe82]

yeah, the Catholic church and I are in a fight right now...I feel like they are being very difficult for no reason whatsoever...it drives me batty seriously. It seems to me that the Catholic church is in no position to JUDGE anyone and I don't see how getting married at Disney hurts anyone's catholicism!!! I am getting married at a Vineyard and had initially wanted to have my priest do the ceremony...OH NO...of course not. I'm such a little sinner y'all and of course I need all the help I can get due to my blackened little soul and the beauty of vineyard is not holy enough for Father Flannigan! So I went and really sinned and found me non denominational Rev. Barry Hobbs off of the internet and Father Flannigan can go sit on a tack SO THERE!

My grandmother (who lives in Ireland) actually said (after I explained the issue) "Oh Mother Most Merciful, well we'll have to call the Pope then love, he'll have a lovely chat with this Father Flannigan and everything will be grand!" See Nana believes that because she is Irish which is where "real" catholics are from, that the Pope would OF COURSE speak with her as it is a matter of grave importance!

I'm feeling your pain babe...we'll get a blessing later if we have to, but seriously, I'll just bless myself and my family and be done with it! (grrr, obviously I'm still a little irked... )

Haha this is the funniest thing I have heard all day. I was born and raised catholic and will be having a DFTW without a priests blessing!!

 

[JandJ]

I know no one's posted on this thread in quite awhile, but DF and I just got engaged a couple weeks ago and are running into all the same Catholic Church problems mentioned here.

If you have a wedding outside of the Church and then get it blessed, what is involved? Do you still have to do pre-cana and counseling? I know it can vary from church to church and depends on the priest, etc.

Thank you!

When my cousin had his marriage blessed (they were married in his mom's backyard) they knew the priest very well and he did the blessing without any pre-cana or anything. They had it in a small room, not in the main sanctuary, with a few family members present. It was very low-key, no wedding dress, bouquet, or anything like that, just a simple blessing. That was many years ago, though, and like you said it depends on the particular church and the priest. (They have since gotten divorced and he re-married outside the church, but that's another topic!)

 

[JJClemson]

The weekend after or DFTW, we are having a reception in my home town in NJ. My priest will not bless us. He says we would have to do the whole pre-cana, counseling, and have another ceremony. However, DF and I are moving to Atlanta at the end of this year, and we are talking w/ a priest there. He told us to contact him again closer to our wedding and "he will see what he can do". It really does vary church to church. I do not know why this has to be so difficult

 

[Cinderella16]

Wow ladies, this thread has had me laughing my butt off I was raised catholic and my parents and entire family are very catholic, not to mention we are Italian so its like being catholic times ten . Well I have mentioned the fact to my mother that one day I want a DFTW, and the first thing she told me was that it wouldnt be a real marriage, and the church would never approve of it. She even went as far to tell me that I cannot marry my bf becuse he is not baptized...(i later showed her an email I received from our preist on this issue, which proved her wrong dont get me wrong I love my mom but sometimes i wish she would get her facts straight!!!) My bf is not catholic and frankly doesnt even really want to be married in a church if he can avoid it, but he did say we could get it blessed, if this is even possible...I hate how it varies from priest to priest, why is it so difficult??? My bf and I have decided on a DFTW when the time comes, but I sorta dread the day I send out my save the dates to my side of the family, oh the drama that will cause. Oh well, i keep telling myself that those who I want there most will be there.

Sorry if this is alot of rambling and babbling but I had to vent

 

[Fairy_Tale_Bride]

I'm Catholic...went to Catholic school and everything!! I'm enjoying this thread. We got married at Disney and have not yet gone through the classes or the vows to consider yourself married in the Catholic Church. My DH is Catholic too. Marriage is one of the 7 sacraments, so I guess I didn't complete that in the Church's eyes. I have a certificate for all the other sacraments...haha...Oh well...

 

[JandJ]

I'm Catholic...went to Catholic school and everything!! I'm enjoying this thread. We got married at Disney and have not yet gone through the classes or the vows to consider yourself married in the Catholic Church. My DH is Catholic too. Marriage is one of the 7 sacraments, so I guess I didn't complete that in the Church's eyes. I have a certificate for all the other sacraments...haha...Oh well...

That's one reason we won't ever have it blessed in a Catholic Church, I never made the sacrament of Confirmation, and have no desire to go through all that. Plus, DH is not Catholic. He'd do it if I wanted it but it's not a big deal to me. I was raised Catholic and, like you, went to Catholic school and even a Jesuit university, but I really don't practice any more. My mom was very Catholic but she had no problem with us having a Disney Wedding (I wish she'd been there to see it . . .) but an aunt, who I am not even that close to, she raised all kinds of fuss! She saw the pictures of Rev. Jack marrying us and was all "Who is that? That's not a priest!!" Like it was any of her business

Where you get married has no bearing on how wonderful or blessed your marriage will be. My wedding was perfect, it was what DH and I wanted, and that's all that matters to us.

 

[Fairy_Tale_Bride]

That's one reason we won't ever have it blessed in a Catholic Church, I never made the sacrament of Confirmation, and have no desire to go through all that. Plus, DH is not Catholic. He'd do it if I wanted it but it's not a big deal to me. I was raised Catholic and, like you, went to Catholic school and even a Jesuit university, but I really don't practice any more. My mom was very Catholic but she had no problem with us having a Disney Wedding (I wish she'd been there to see it . . .) but an aunt, who I am not even that close to, she raised all kinds of fuss! She saw the pictures of Rev. Jack marrying us and was all "Who is that? That's not a priest!!" Like it was any of her business

Where you get married has no bearing on how wonderful or blessed your marriage will be. My wedding was perfect, it was what DH and I wanted, and that's all that matters to us.

I agree with you 100%! My DH and I pretty much have the same feeling you do about the Catholic Church now and we don't practice any more either. My entire family is not Catholic, so it wasn't really a huge issue. My Dad is Catholic and my brother and I were raised Catholic. My Mom became Catholic, but not until I was around 9 years old.

I don't know if it's something my DH and I will ever do. I agree with it being too much work. You have to be in the right mindset and place in your life to do it. I think you should only do it if it feels right for you and it's what you truly want. I know it took a long time for my Mom to actually feel that way to want to become Catholic.

I knew I never wanted to get married in a church because that just isn't me. We did pick the closest Christian/Catholic ceremony for ourselves and our guests. That was very nice.

 

[Midnight Belle]

I know the rules, for some crazy reason, the Catholic church will not let you marry at Disney

My husband and I are both Catholics and we were married at the Disney Wedding Pavilion back on NYE 97, our cannon was actually fine about this, because I thought like you that in the eyes of the Catholic we were not married but this is just not true. Our cannon is an elderly man so I am just thankful that he understands and supports modern views.

I therefore did not have 'another' wedding but just had a big party in London on our return.

Good Luck.

 

[JJClemson]

My husband and I are both Catholics and we were married at the Disney Wedding Pavilion back on NYE 97, our cannon was actually fine about this, because I thought like you that in the eyes of the Catholic we were not married but this is just not true. Our cannon is an elderly man so I am just thankful that he understands and supports modern views.

I therefore did not have 'another' wedding but just had a big party in London on our return.

Good Luck.

What I meant was, the Catholic church will not let a priest marry you at Disney. We are hopefully having our DFTW blessed by a Catholic priest at a later date. Some priests are okay with it, some are not. I'm going to keep my fingers crossed!

 

[disneybridetobe]

LOL I think I had the same color hair as your DD when I was 16

So, so true. I always say that my DH let it go on alot longer just to further aggravate his father who thought he was depressed b/c of the way he dressed LOL.

Come to think about it, he still wears the Doc Martens, he just replaced the fishnets on his arms with Tatoos It's ok He has Jack Skellington and Sally so it's ok by me and DD Thank god he is a brick layer and not a buisnessman

But in any case everyone knows mommy is the one that needs to be normal

I had pink and purple hair in high school! (Honor roll!)
Everyone said I'd grow out of it- some couldn't wait, some adjusted; and I have grown out of it to a point, but I too replaced the fishnets with tattoos. I know that I'm going to be a great mother and the coolest tattooed granny ever.

 

[Deesknee]

I was not raised Catholic. I was raised Protestant. I was married in the Catholic church. The priest at the time asked if we knew the catholic law on birth control. We replied yes... we know the catholic law. He laughed, replied as long as you know and went on to the next question. That was 24 yrs ago. He also told us we could get married by a priest anywhere we wanted...for a price. His words not mine, I swear. Now fast forward about 15 yrs. My db dies in an accident. He had been married in the Catholic church, he was raising his kids Catholic, he had been divorced for many years before he died. Noone knew if he was Catholic or Protestant as we had been raised. We buried him with full rites in the Catholic Church. We explained the situation. The priest (different one that had married me, but the same church), was wonderful. A year later I went thru the RCIA program in that church and became Catholic. I don't get on a soap box. I am planning on renewing my vows in WDW next November. I pray the priest who officiated our ceremony all those years ago will agree to do it. I feel for anyone who has any tough choices during the planning of anything important like a wedding. I sincerely do.
I strongly agree the Catholic church should change some of their views. At the same time though, one of the things I admire about my piers is their die hard stance on things they strongly believe in.
BTW, I'm from the Boston area. Huge area for the priest scandal. That is still a very hard pill for me to swallow. My heart breaks for those victims and their families.

 

[RBennett]

I'll tell you what happened with our family; my DB and DSIL both worked for Disney, got married at Disney, and then when they came back home, they had a very small ceremony at our church which was basically a vow renewal by our priest, that basically blessed the marriage, etc. Hope that helps!

 

[dannirose]

DF and I are both Catholic and while we expected to catch a certain amount of flack about not getting married in the Church, we were surprised where it came from.

My family (all Catholic) are fine with it, my stepfather and his family (Greek Orthodox) think we should be getting married in the Greek Church even though we aren't, DF's mother (Episcopalian) wanted it at her Church and has made some comments about our "very untraditional" wedding.

The priests at my church are all fine with us having a destination wedding and then blessing the union as long as we do the pre-cana.

The biggest complaints came from one of the nuns at my church who coordinates the CCD program I teach in - she thinks I am not setting a good example for the students. She was very unhappy to find out the priests agreed to bless the union after our wedding at Disney and tried to change the pastor's mind. Thankfully he told her it wasn't her place to say or do anything about it.

Btw, I do know that the parish I grew up in does not like to do the convalidation ceremonies - it really does vary by parish, so if your parish is giving you a hard time I would suggest checking out others within your archdiocese.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

I'm catholic too. What I am doing is getting married at the church on Saturday and then having my DFTW on Monday. So basically it is kind of a vow renewal at Disney. Reverand Jack will not be signing my marriage licence he will just be perfoming the ceremony. My priest also told us he could not marry us if we were married at Disney first, don't know why, I think it has something to do with signing the licence.

the reason a priest won't marry you at DW is because they don't marry anyone outside of a church. some strange thing i guess. luckily i won't have this problem, as i am no longer catholic, but it really sucks for those who are, that want to get married in DW