Is a Friday Night Weddding inconsiderate?

[HighClass]

Recieved an out of town wedding invitation.
All of groom's family-both sides -will have to drive 1-1 1/2 hours to get to wedding site. On a FRIDAY night at 7pm.

Most people work, so considereing time to get home, change to wedding garb, jump in car and race to wedding....and all will hAVE to stay in hotel.


To me in this case

-a Saturday Afternoon wedding would have been CONSIDERATE. None of the elderly relatives plan to attend.

Thoughts????

 

[java]

Given the cost of weddings I don't think that is inconsiderate. Think of all the families with kids with activities on Saturdays like ball games ect. To them would a Saturday Afternoon wedding be inconsiderate?

I don't

I feel like it's the couple's choice when to have it and if it inconveniences you don't bother going.

We've been to more Friday night weddings lately. And I actually like them.

Now the other ?'s Will it be open bar? and are Children invited?

 

[LoraJ]

No. It's their wedding, not yours. They can have it when they want. You can choose to go or not.

My inconsiderate wedding was on a Monday. Why? Because it was in Vegas and I wanted to avoid having it on a weekend where the chapels can be like factories and the weddings are rushed. It was also cheaper.

It's cheaper to have it on a Friday night, so maybe you would not even have been invited if it was on a Saturday.

 

[kacaju]

We will be married 18 years on May 24th. We had a Friday night wedding and everyone LOVED it!!
I worked at a small Veterinary Hospital and the boss closed the Hospital early for my wedding!!
We had a blast and I never heard that family or friends seemed put off by it.

Oh and btw... all of our elderly relatives were there... I do enjoy going back and looking at the family pictures since most of them are gone now....


Open bar and no kids!!! LOL!

 

[Jennasis]

Nope. Not inconsiderate at all. If the time doesn'r work for you, don't go. IF the wedding planners had to tke everybody's shcedulei nto consideration they may as well elope.

 

[onelilspark]

I don't think it's inconsiderate. Maybe it's what was available.

We went to a Friday night wedding in Baltimore. It wasn't just a matter of leaving work an hour early (or not even...) and maybe staying in a hotel that night...we both took the day off of work and drove down. Then stayed in a hotel *gasp!* The horror!

If you have a problem with it, respectfully decline the invitation. There are people who work on Saturdays too.

 

[RN4Babies]

My wedding almost 20 years ago was on a Friday night as well. It was small (close family and friends; about 100 people total), and EVERYONE we invited came. That included four good friends of mine who lived four hours away, my grandparents who were two hours away, and a cousin who flew in from Florida. My niece is getting married next year in June, and they're having a Friday night ceremony and reception as well. The venue she wants for her reception was already fully booked for every Saturday in June 2010 when they went to reserve last month, so that was the deciding factor for them. It will be 1 1/2 hours away, and I'm planning on driving home that evening (while staying at a hotel is certainly desirable, I don't understand why you "have" to stay in one).

I don't think it's at all inconsiderate. As pp have stated, it's the perogitive of the couple getting married when to have the ceremony, just as it's your perogitive to decline the invitation.

 

[anniemae]

Not incosiderate at all in my opinion. In these economic times, I don't blame anyone for trying to save money, and Friday night venues are much less expensive. That is why many folks get married on Friday nights.

We have gone to many Friday night weddings, and yes, it can be a pain to get out of work early and drive an hour, but you can also choose not to go. Or you could skip the ceremony and just go to the reception. It's their wedding and as long as they are paying for it, they get to say when and where. No matter what date, time, venue etc. they choose, it is going to be inconvienent for someone.

Good Luck, and try to have fun!

 

[disneystacy]

Imo it the bride and grooms choice. Friday night is not ideal, but Sat afternoon may not work for the bride and groom or other guests either.
I guess it depends on how badly you want to go. If its something you really want to do, leave work early or arrive to the reception when you can even if you have to be late(I sure they won't hold it against you). The other option is to decline the invite.

 

[MushyMushy]

It's probably not the most perfect day, but maybe it was all they could get or afford.

I went to a Tuesday wedding a few years ago. Nobody from out of town made it to the wedding and I had to go alone because my husband couldn't get out of work -- not a whole lot of people there. I felt kind of bad for the couple, but I'm sure they didn't purposely inconvenience anyone -- it was just the best they could do. Still a very lovely wedding.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

Recieved an out of town wedding invitation.
All of groom's family-both sides -will have to drive 1-1 1/2 hours to get to wedding site. On a FRIDAY night at 7pm.

Most people work, so considereing time to get home, change to wedding garb, jump in car and race to wedding....and all will hAVE to stay in hotel.


To me in this case

-a Saturday Afternoon wedding would have been CONSIDERATE. None of the elderly relatives plan to attend.

Thoughts????

I'm hoping that little wink at the beginning of your thread was meant to let us know you are just tryin to stir things up...because we all know it doesn't matter what you think! It's THEIR wedding - so, no, it's NOT inconsiderate!

 

[Bren's Mom]

Not inconsiderate. Hosts get to choose when and where to have a party (any party, weddings included). Guests get to choose whether or not to attend.

And you do not HAVE to stay in a hotel just because you're 1.5 hours away, that's not outside the realm of driveable after a wedding. I can certainly see why you'd choose to, though.

 

[rgf207]

I attended a Friday Evening wedding last year. While it was inconvenient for us, it was not our wedding. We adjusted our schedule and went to the wedding and had a great time. If you do not want to attend, don't but I don't think it's inconsiderate.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I don't think it is inconsiderate. They can have a wedding when they chose. You can chose to attend or not. Friday weddings are generally cheaper. We thought about that when we got married but we had people coming from out of town so we chose Saturday night to make it easier for our guests. HOWEVER- we were able to afford to do that. Not everyone can. Perhaps they wanted a specific date.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

Recieved an out of town wedding invitation.
All of groom's family-both sides -will have to drive 1-1 1/2 hours to get to wedding site. On a FRIDAY night at 7pm.

Most people work, so considereing time to get home, change to wedding garb, jump in car and race to wedding....and all will hAVE to stay in hotel.


To me in this case

-a Saturday Afternoon wedding would have been CONSIDERATE. None of the elderly relatives plan to attend.

Thoughts????

How dare they not consult you first!

 

[jrmasm]

I'd rather go to a Friday wedding than a holiday weekend wedding.

 

[Christine]

I'd love it if more people would have Friday night weddings. Then they don't mess up my precious weekends. If I have to go to a wedding on Saturday, well, there goes my whole freaking Saturday. I work all week so weekends are for relaxing, grocery shopping, house cleaning etc. I covet my weekends.

So, it would not bother me to have to take a few hours off work to go.

I also agree that many people have kids with Saturday sports activities. While I know that is just "kid" stuff, they are part of a team and it can be hard on their team or drama group etc not to have them show up.

I am all for Friday weddings.

This is coming from someone who had a Friday night wedding back in the 80s and had just about all 200 invitees attend!

 

[Saphire]

If I wanted to go to the wedding, I would take the afternoon off, or leave an hour or two early. It shouldn't be a problem since there is so much notice.
There is no way to please everyone when you get married. What about people who get married on a holiday? I have been to weddings on New Years Eve, Fourth of July and Labor Day. All fine with me but some people complained. My own pet peeve is when you travel to a wedding and hardly any food is served. But I got flamed for bringing that up a few years back, so I won't say any more.

 

[RangerPooh]

I don't think it's inconsiderate at all. You are given plenty of notice, hotel accommodations come in a variety of price ranges, and you'll still have your weekend free. Many venues and vendors offer discounts for weddings not held on Saturday and Sunday so it's cheaper for the B&G.

When DH and I got married we had a mid-day Monday wedding! Our guests either flew down or drove 5.5 hours to get there. Sure there were a few complaints at first but almost everyone that we had invited came. Since it was at the DLR many turned it into a long weekend or a vacation. It was definately cheaper than if we had had a local wedding in the SF Bay area on a weekend.

 

[Ember]

I got married in Disney on a Monday. The difference between a Monday and a Saturday wedding? $10,000!!

I figured I was being inconvenient by asking people to fly to Florida anyway, why not be extra inconvenient by holding the wedding on a Monday.