Inter Racial Couples

[tiff211]

Alas.....racism is alive and well. I am not in an interracial relationship but I get asked if I am because DD5 has long "good" hair and hazel eyes. So because of that her daddy couldn't be black, I guess.

To me there are two types, the ignorant type of racism when one just doesn't know better and the bigot type when one doesn't care to know better.

 

[disneyfan67]

I totally understand about the inter-racial couple thing. Sadly though, people are still living in the 1950s. I'm white and my boyfriend is black. I really don't understand the amount of intolerance some people have. It amazes me.

For such a young man Tim, you must have an inner strength beyond your years. I could only imagine what you must have had to put up with in your life and it's more than I probably could have tolerated. To be gay and also be in a interacial relationship is lot to have on your plate, when it comes to dealing with the "haters" of the world. You're a brave man and I admire the guts you have.

All you and your boyfriend need to do is convert to Judaism and you will have all the bases covered, when it comes to the bigots of the world hating you. They won't know which way to turn and you will probably end up just confusing them.


To the OP, ignore those people and remember this nugget of advice from me. The only thing people should be really judged on is what sports team they root for. If I find out you're a Eagles fan (NFL) then I will be sure to give you a dirty look on the side and maybe whisper something to the person I'm with. But everything else, I don't get.

 

[Monte Cristo]

I hear you. I am Hispanic and DH is white....

Dwife and I are the same. I have noticed people giving us a glance every now and then, but wife says she still feels it a lot. Now that we have a baby, she says she feels the stares more. Her family NEVER had a problem with me, and my family NEVER had a problem with her.

I could really care less what others think...that's THEIR problem. We're all the same on the inside so who cares what package we come in?

MC

 

[bubie2.5]

Thanks Gallajo and Sutterbug for answsering my question.

Tiff: about the "good hair" comment... I live in a Caribbean island and get that comment EVERY time I go to the hair salon, and I hate it. What is so "good" about it? Beacuse I still have to wash, cut, blow dry and comb my hair.

 

[GIOny]

I'm always amazed to hear stories like this because where I live it is basically a non-issue.

 

[belle&beast]

OP, I wish you didn't have to deal with such ignorance! Try not to let those bigoted comments get to you because many of us do not feel that way. And by the way, biracial children are the most beautiful babies! I have 2 cousins that are biracial and they were the most beautiful children!

 

[NikiM20]

Dwife and I are the same. I have noticed people giving us a glance every now and then, but wife says she still feels it a lot. Now that we have a baby, she says she feels the stares more. Her family NEVER had a problem with me, and my family NEVER had a problem with her.

I could really care less what others think...that's THEIR problem. We're all the same on the inside so who cares what package we come in?

MC

Your childen are BEAUTIFUL....I notiched their picture the other day and I have been meaning to say something. Now back to your thread

 

[LukenDC]

It's sad that a thread like this exists in 2006. People are people and should not be segregated by race. Love knows no boundaries, but unfortunately human understanding does.

 

[spazzyjazzy]

ME TOO! I am part of a inter-racial marriage. I am hispanic and my husband is white. My son from another relationship is half white and hispanic. It is hard sometimes. About 7 years ago we went to the mall to school shop for my son, as we were walking we walked by an african american teenager sitting with his buddies the comment that came out of his mouth was "what is it with the mexican girls and their white boys?" "Ah, she is f***able, I would do her." I heard it and was praying that my husband did not hear what he said. Nope! He heard it and turned around and said Excuse ME? The other guy tried to start a fight of course because he had his two buddies with him and my husband was alone. Two other guys had heard what he said and stood behind my husband in case something happpened. They stared each down and I pulled my husband away. While we were in the mall all of a sudden the same guy came running at my husband and started throwing some swings at him (in the mall) they fought for a lil bit until security broke it up. The officers did try to arrest my husband and let the other guy go but, since there were so many witnesses they let my husband go. It was such an awful experience. My son to this day does not really like trips to the mall. So, yeah I have experienced it.

 

[NewJersey]

For such a young man Tim, you must have an inner strength beyond your years. I could only imagine what you must have had to put up with in your life and it's more than I probably could have tolerated. To be gay and also be in a interacial relationship is lot to have on your plate, when it comes to dealing with the "haters" of the world. You're a brave man and I admire the guts you have.

All you and your boyfriend need to do is convert to Judaism and you will have all the bases covered, when it comes to the bigots of the world hating you. They won't know which way to turn and you will probably end up just confusing them.

It's like you are in my head! I thought the same thing when Steve and I began dating. "hmmm...what else can I add to my plate to really annoy the bigots.."

And thank you for the kind words. It was no easy thing getting to where I am today but I wouldn't trade myself and who I am for anything in this world. I realize that everyone won't be accepting of my lifestyle for whatever reason, but all I ask and expect of them is to be tolerant and respectful, as I am of them. Sadly though, that would be too perfect. In the meantime, I let the haters hate, while I enjoy who I am.

 

[Ever_After]

I'm pretty sure some her of family doesn't like me, but that may just be because I'm an obnoxious loundmouth Irishman, and I get that from a lot of people.

That's funny! You sound like my husband!

I'm Asian, and I haven't really experienced anything negative.

 

[dis ms.]

I'm black and DH is white. Because of this thread, I asked DH if he ever notices that we get negative reactions (looks, comments, etc.) presumably because we're an interracial couple. He hasn't noticed anything like that, nor have I. Of course, we don't really stand out, since I'm fairly light-skinned and DH has an olive skin tone. We're both basically beige.

Our kids haven't experienced any backlash from being of mixed race. The worst thing they've dealt with so far is trying to understand why I'm called "black" and their dad is called "white". It's difficult to explain the issue to them when DH and I have pretty much the same skin color.

 

[CA Disney Fans]

OP, I'm sorry to hear that you had to experience that.

DH and I hear comments at times, but have gotten better at ignoring them. DH is white, I'm Asian and my DS from a previous relationship is half Asian and half black.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I like what one of my friend's had to say about interracial couple: with all that is freaking wrong with the world, THIS is what you choose to get your panties in a wad about?!

 

[ChrisFL]

I wish everyone was born of many races so we wouldn't have these problems, maybe in a few centuries it will happen.

I like women of all types, nationalities, etc. in fact I rarely date all-american types...even though Im "white". I love going to Epcot and seeing all of the international women working there

 

[MushyMushy]

I like what one of my friend's had to say about interracial couple: with all that is freaking wrong with the world, THIS is what you choose to get your panties in a wad about?!

Good saying and so true.

My parents and their family are really bad about this. I once went out with a black man and it ended up not working out between us. When I admitted to my mother that he was black, my dad (who was hard of hearing) asked what I said and why I wasn't seeing the guy again. She told him, "The guy was gay."

Apparently, gay is a step above black.

 

[NewJersey]

There was just an interracial couple on the Today's show "wedding series." They did a ballroom dance. It was great! What a cute couple

 

[RC Fan]

It is sad that we have come so far in some areas, but have progressed so little in others. One would think that in the educated society in which we live such views would have been eradicated, but I guess there is no cure for stupidity. In reality, the more genetic variation in our global gene pool, the better for all of our futures.

 

[BeNJeNWaFFLe]

I like what one of my friend's had to say about interracial couple: with all that is freaking wrong with the world, THIS is what you choose to get your panties in a wad about?!

How very true.

America isn't the only one with these problems. I have a good friend who is Greek, straight from Athens. She is now living here, but her parents are still in Greece. Her parents only want her to date and marry "good Greek boys". When she told her mom she was dating a Jewish boy, they were not pleased. I haven't spoken to her much lately but I really hope she was able to open her parents eyes a little.


OP: I can't even imagine how hard it is. But at this point in life I've learned to just tell myself "Who the heck cares what they think?!" It took me awhile to really start believing in that, but it's starting to sink in. As long as you are in love and you are happy, what else matters?

 

[alabamaalan]

Maybe me and DBF should move to Miami, or WDW. Then we could get a house in Celebration and go to the parks every day. Too bad he doen't "get it" about Disney

Well now here is the first example of a "mixed marriage" I have seen on this thread.

My goodness woman, can't you see the obvious differences and problems this will cause?

*sigh* I guess love truly is blind.....
(But then again, maybe he will come around)