Inspired by Baby Shower Thread...What do you think of this......

[Disney Doll]

I have no problem with someone throwing a "no kids" party, but that should mean "NO kids", not "well you can't bring your kids, but other people will have their kids". When I got married, I held an adult reception. The 2 youngest kids there were 13 years old. There were younger kids in the family at the time. They weren't invited. I did have people outside of the family who got invited and when they sent back their repsonse, they responded yes for the 2 parents and 2 or 3 small kids. I called them and explained that we were not having children at the party. They told me they didn't go anywhere that their children weren't invited. I told them we'd miss them.

As far as bringing your own meat and roll...hello???? They are throwing a party!!!! They are expecting a gift from oyu, the least they could do is feed you. It's one thing if you offer to bring a dessert or an appetizer or something, but to send out an invitation that basically says "Bring a present and your own meal" is tacky.

I'd be conveniently busy that day and send a nice congratulations card.

 

[cruisnfamily]

Originally posted by disykat
Gift + potluck dish + babysitter is no longer casual for my wallet!

Well said!

 

[noel]

I actually think that the invitation specifiying to BRING A GIFT is even more tacky than the "bring your own dinner" part of it.

It's great to have someone throw you a party and even nicer if the party guests bring you gifts. I can't recall ever being invited to a party or cook out without bringing something for the birthday girl/boy or even if it just a bottle of wine for the host. But to blatently tell your GUESTS to bring anything - let alone a gift - is just ridiculous.

It's also sad if they don't want your kids included either.
I'd let them know I'm not coming and they buy a 99 cent card from Hallmark and mail it to the your DH's niece so you are at least acknowledging her birthday.

unreal.....

 

[CBRorBust]

I guess I'm the minority here.....yet again.


But I really do not see what the big deal is about not inviting the kids to a 40 year old's birthday party. Maybe it's because I don't have kids, I really don't know. I just think it's not that big of a deal. As for the other children being there, hey there are just some people who can't respect the wishes of the host.

For the Meat/Roll thing, maybe it is a potluck thing, and they just didn't word it correctly.

For the gift, it is a birthday party is it not?


Like I said, maybe it's just me because I don't have kids, but I don't see what the big deal is. Plus you said your kids were 14 and 15, I bet they would rather hang out with their friends on the weekend then to go to a party with a bunch of adults.

Sorry if I offended anyone.

 

[Nutsy]

The boys even tho they are 14 & 15 do not hang out with friends & are not street wise.

They are home bodies & would very much like to be included in some invites that come from their fathers side of the family.

They get hurt time & again when invites come in addressed only to DH & myslef. It's like the boys don't even exist to this family

We are not attending & should we be asked by BIL why? Then my answer will be that we are spending the time with our boys doing something we all enjoy doing together.

We have actually made tentative plans to head to Chinatown to see the Chinese New Year celebrations.

She can stick her party, (which btw is being held at a school music hall) where she teaches.

They are having a dance instructor, but can't put on refreshments for the guests. Pretty poor if you ask me.

 

[faithinkarma]

Life is far too short to waste your time on people who continuously hurt and disappoint you.

Take a stand ( since this seems to be your year for to do so ). Do not attend, and let them know why. Good Luck !

 

[Cinders]

Maybe it's because I don't have kids, I really don't know. I just think it's not that big of a deal.

Not flaming just trying to explain. DH and I almost never do stuff without the kids. Only thing I can think of are his company Christmas parties. Everyone around us thinks we should be doing stuff without them all the time but we didnt have kids to just shuffle off on grandparents and babysitters. I'm always being asked to do extra stuff for scouts and I refuse.....and our district executive has no kids and thinks I'm just being rude. Her last request was for me to be the Friends of Scouting family representative....which means going to meetings for all the packs and troops in our district for the next 3 months. And on top of that go to our own troop meetings, committee meetings, and roundtables. I said no way!!!!!! My place is here with my children and making sure they are well cared for. We've even found new friends that include their own children in dinner parties and eating out in restaurants. Old set of friends think its perfectly alright to send their children to babysitters all day long then come home and have another babysitter come to their house so they can go out all the time. Maybe thats why their kids do not know how to behave in public the few times they take them places.

For the OP maybe you can have a party for the children from that side of the family.....make it a No Adults Allowed Party.

 

[Nutsy]

Cinders that is exaclty the way I feel.

I've always said that if the boys can't go then neither can we............we are a family & as such we do things together.

I never had kids to dump them on someone else, so I can go out & party.......no matter what their age, they are still my kids & they are my first responsibility.