Inkedupmommas getting married y'all! A WPJ & Disneyfamilymoon PTR!OMG, TR link is UP!

[Trentmom]

I am glad you are okay and were not without power too long

That is nice you were able to take in your mom, sister, nephew and niece. Hopefully their power will be restored soon.

I am sorry about your sister's friend house. That is awful

Hope Kayla's friends will be okay . Saw lot of reports of poisoning or deaths due to generators

Have fun at your shower today

 

[tlenzendorf]

Did you have a good time at your "surprise" shower? lol!

 

[KatMark]

Can't wait to hear all about the bridal shower.

 

[inkedupmomma]

I am glad you are okay and were not without power too long

That is nice you were able to take in your mom, sister, nephew and niece. Hopefully their power will be restored soon.

I am sorry about your sister's friend house. That is awful

Hope Kayla's friends will be okay . Saw lot of reports of poisoning or deaths due to generators

Have fun at your shower today

that storm was nuts and as im sure you know, we are all due for a snow storm on wed now!! PRAYING its not bad! havent heard about the family yet :/ shower went well! will do a post!

Did you have a good time at your "surprise" shower? lol!

I did mostly... lol

Can't wait to hear all about the bridal shower.

I'll have plenty of tips !

 

[starann]

The house did not fare great, but better than some. Her basement had over 8ft of water in it at the peak of water (by the time DH got there it was only 1.5ft)...she is unsure if the sale with go thru now. She is coming 'home' tomorrow to take charge and get repairs done.

We may end up haing to cancel our trip, but compared to many we are SO lucky. I keep thinking about the woman who's 2 little boys were washed out of her arms or the woman who watched as the surge came and washed her house apart, killing her 13yo daughter and husband. Hopefully we will know more in a week or so.

Thanks for asking

 

[Millie12591]

well yall, I replied to each and every one of you last night , and as I was about to fix typos and send, BAM the power went out.

We were out of power from about 3-5pm and then again from 7pm-11am this morning. Thankfully, Sandy didn't ruin our home or cars, but our neighborhood took a beating. Trees are uprooted everywhere! Some parts of our town got hit really bad tree wise and wont have power for upwards of two weeks I know after just a few hours I was hating life!

Luckily though, we are all safe and sound, and life is back to normal after lots of clean up!

I have nothing else to post right now, Sandy made me tired!

Thank you all for posting though! When I have more energy I will post individually!

Just so glad you are okay. No worries on catching up on back posts. Can't wait to see pics and hear about your shower.

 

[inkedupmomma]

The house did not fare great, but better than some. Her basement had over 8ft of water in it at the peak of water (by the time DH got there it was only 1.5ft)...she is unsure if the sale with go thru now. She is coming 'home' tomorrow to take charge and get repairs done.

We may end up haing to cancel our trip, but compared to many we are SO lucky. I keep thinking about the woman who's 2 little boys were washed out of her arms or the woman who watched as the surge came and washed her house apart, killing her 13yo daughter and husband. Hopefully we will know more in a week or so.

Thanks for asking

ugh, I'm really sorry to hear that Star! I always try to think everything happens for a reason.... but sometimes I just don't get what the reasons are. Staten Island was hit so hard, I really can't even fathom it. I didn't hear about the woman who watched her house get destroyed, however I did hear about the two little boys, SO sad. I wish people would have listened and left their houses when told to immediately, instead of thinking it couldn't happen. This was a game changer for many. East Coast is no longer the safe place to be

But as you said, we are alive, healthy, and that is all that matters! I'll keep you and your trip in my prayers! Lord knows after this, a trip is what most of us need!

Just so glad you are okay. No worries on catching up on back posts. Can't wait to see pics and hear about your shower.

thanks what a week! Today is the first day we are truly back on track!

 

[inkedupmomma]

BOB, DO NOT READ! WEDDING DRESS PICTURES!




Hey y'all! How is everyone doing? I hope well after the mess that was Sandy! Lots of you asked and yes, my sister, mom, niece and nephew are OK, as are the rest of my Family in NY, NJ, and PA. My sister got her power back the day after she arrived here, so I was happy about that! These days and nights are getting cold and I would have hated to see her take a baby back to that!

Her house was not impacted other than no power, but sadly a lot of Staten Island was hit hard and some will never recoup. It is very sad!

Anyone looking to help should go check out this link ! It is just an instagram pic, but Bobs cousin is part of the restore the shore group and designed the shirts you see there. They will be up for sale soon, all proceeds go to restoring the shore! Plus, honestly, the design is pretty clever and kick butt! (btw, am I allowed to post that? It's not selling anything for profit, but is that against DISboard rules? If so, let me know and I will remove link, and you can PM for it!)

OK, so enough with the sad stuff, and on to wedding stuff!

I had figured out quite some time ago when my shower would be... wasn't hard, there weren't many weekends to choose from!

But on Wed or Thurs or last week, my wonderful grandmother asked me how the roads to the Yardley Inn were

Why gram?? Oh, no reason.

LOL.

So I knew when, and where my shower unfortunately.

and since I love yall and know you wont judge, I can be honest and say, I was NOT excited about it

Idk if I am weird? If the crazy BM who said I would hate it got in my head? If it was the storm? or what, but I was NOT excited for my big day. Actually, if I'm being honest, NOTHING excites me lately and I've be feeling quite down. I'm not unhappy, I'm just off. Not sure if it is the lack of sun, winter blues, or what, but it happens every year! My biggest fear is that Bob and I will have those awful fights we get into! I'm trying my hardest not to let it take over though! Depression is not fun to deal with though!

Sorry to be a total bummer guys!

With all this said, Saturday November 3, started off like any other day. But it was chaotic here due to having extra family in such a small space! and as luck would have it, I was the last one to get in the shower..and the water was cold. DOH!

I guess I should start off with Friday though, I went and got my nails done... I didn't have a special outfit for the big day, so I figured I might as well get my nails done!

Not sure why I went with that color, but i'm pretty sure my sister talked me into it!

back to Saturday.. we're all late. My sister leaves to get my gramma, and we get a call 15 mins later.. shes lost. ugh.

OK, we'll get gramma!

We get grammy, and were on our way. We turn down the one back road and all of a sudden a truck pulls behind us and closes that road! WHAT?? So, we now have to back up, turn around and find an alternate route. I get Siri to find another way, and we're on our way.. and good lord, road closure after road closure after road closure!

The back roads around here are BAD! or were, they look better now!

Finally we arrive, and I see everyone in the window... they may have wanted to draw the blinds lol!

I walk in, and the hostess asks what I'm there for.. my surprise shower, thanks lol.

(side note- another thing that annoyed me about this whole shower thing, how did they expect to surprise me? I felt like no real thought or effort went into it. Bob had NO clue he was supposed to even bring me, let alone be part of that surprise. Did they think I wouldn't know if Bob out of no where on a mid day Saturday was like hey lets go on a date go get pretty?... Do I sound like a totally ungrateful B? I'm sorry if I do, I just never let surprises happen, I'm snoopy, and ruin everything, but I didn't for this, I tried to be "normal" and well, I still didn't the "normal" situation... I sound awful and whiney and terrible, don't I ?? I'm sorry)

She leads me to a room, and everyone looked so happy and excited, so I put my hands up and acted super shocked and mega sarcastic.. can't help it, it's how I cope.

This is where it gets overwhelming... many people did not show due to Sandy, but yet it still felt like a ton of people and I tried to say hi to everyone and do the hug and kisses thing. Then my MOH pulls me away and says OK you're late,m you have to sit down and eat now.... want a mimosa?? Uhm, no, I don't drink, but thanks.. she seemed annoyed. Oh well.

I sit to eat and I get a fancy salad... I was like huh? All I said all along was please don't make a big deal, just a simple brunch... nope, it was a sit down lunch.. The salad was good though! I didn't get a picture, overwhelmed!

Next thing I know its time for lunch food, and then you HAVE to open gifts now, you have no time... so I inhaled my lunch and then started opening gifts!

Here are pics, totally out of order and not taken by me obviously! Thank God for my sister though, she for once came through for me and took some pics!

OH, and before I forget, the theme was Nightmare Before Christmas.... however, the only thing NMBC was the cake. Crazy Kate BM who got kicked out was supposed to do the center pieces/decor for the shower.... that never happened, obviously lol But here is my kick butt cake

and now presents! Thank GOD Bob was there! I HATE being center of attention and did NOT want to open gifts in front of everyone!

continued in next post

 

[inkedupmomma]

and uhm.. my step grammy didn't make it to the shower, but sent me Lingerie!!

The coolest gifts!

and us looking silly!

So there you have it, there it is! My shower!

After the gifts it was time to go.... I never even got a chance to really talk to anyone :/ and the cake was served while I opened gifts.. it was noms! I still have the whole top half, I feel bad it's going to go to waste.... but we just can't consume that much cake lol!

Funny thing is, I didn't really get anything we registered for... at all lol. I have a whole LOT of stuff, and no clue what to do with most of it! When I said I wanted to exchange some stuff, Bob took it almost personal, like I didn't appreciate or like what his family bought us. The truth is, I don't need 5, 3 tiered serving platters... I just don't have the room for it, so I'm not sure what to do! With this said, his family is amazing and creative and wrapped things so cute! and while I didn't register for or need a cookie jar, I LOVE that they personalized a Disney one for us! and hey, at least his family showed up! NONE of mine, expect my sister, mom and grammy did! Not even my other sister!

All in all it went well, but my heart wasn't into it and I feel like a total ungrateful B. But due to the circumstances leading up to it, I think it jaded me? Bob hates that about me... so do I. I need to learn to be more go with the flow and grateful for what is, not what isn't. Again though, I think it was just all overwhelming and with all the stuff that happened before it, it was hard for me to process it all... don't hate me!

I know I promised dress pics, but I have to shower and vote before work!

I'll leave you with a pic of cuteness and a promise of dress pics tonight!

 

[Trentmom]

I hear ya on shower. I hate being the center of attention and it was hard for me too.

Cake was awesome looking. I didn't realize cookie jar was personalized. That is so awesome :

This time of year is hard for a lot of people. Maybe you should try keep your house very bright. That way when sun goes down early, you won't notice how dark it is outside, if nice and bright on inside

 

[shan23877]

You don't sound ungrateful, you sound honest. I think that a lot of people (myself included) have felt the same way about the "pre-wedding" activities that others plan for us. I'm a lot like you in that I dislike being the center of attention so my bridal/baby showers were my worst nightmare. I think that a lot of the disappointment for the bride comes from she herself spending so much time and energy making everything about the wedding perfect-any thing less for the showers is bound to be a disappointment. You are not alone, we've all been there.

If it makes you feel any better-my DH and I fought WAY more before we were married than we have since. Try to remember that the stress of wedding planning and in your case inviting Bob into your family permanently IS a big deal, it's natural to feel a little down and apprehensive. This time of year doesn't help either. I think that there are natural supplements to help with mild depression as well-might be worth looking into.

So glad to hear that you and your family are safe and were largely spared by the storm. Keep on truckin' Jenn-it's almost over.

 

[PracPerfPatricia]

Hey...

It's ok not to feel a certain pre expected way...You can't control how you feel- you can only control your actions...

Lots of cra@ ( am I allowed to use the real word on Disboards?... not sure -don't want to cause your PTR to get censored... going on for you... lots of stress...

I do think it's kind of cool that one of the grams gave you lingerie...

Disney Cookie jar very sweet thought...

I tried to go on Bob's Cousin's site-love the shirt and design... but doesn't look available yet...

(BTW I know all about mood disorders... seriously I really do... so if you ever need anything surrounding that... please ask...)

 

[ronnmel]

I understand the contradictory feelings of being thankful people were nice enough to throw you a shower/show up/buy you a gift, while at the same time feel disappointed in how the shower turned out and the gifts you received. I don't get people not following a registry. I mean it's one thing if you really know the person and have a very special gift in mind that you know they will love. But to buy just random house stuff? I mean YOU took the time to make a registry for things YOU know you need. That's why I insisted (maybe a little too much) that my SIL (who organized my baby shower) ask people to give her money instead of buying a gift, so she could go and buy stuff from my very specific list. In the end it worked out, but I got lucky. Sucks it didn't work out for you. At least the Disney cookie jar is really awesome!!!

Feeling depressive is such a drag. Bad weather and shortening days never help.

 

[inkedupmomma]

I hear ya on shower. I hate being the center of attention and it was hard for me too.

Cake was awesome looking. I didn't realize cookie jar was personalized. That is so awesome :

This time of year is hard for a lot of people. Maybe you should try keep your house very bright. That way when sun goes down early, you won't notice how dark it is outside, if nice and bright on inside

You don't sound ungrateful, you sound honest. I think that a lot of people (myself included) have felt the same way about the "pre-wedding" activities that others plan for us. I'm a lot like you in that I dislike being the center of attention so my bridal/baby showers were my worst nightmare. I think that a lot of the disappointment for the bride comes from she herself spending so much time and energy making everything about the wedding perfect-any thing less for the showers is bound to be a disappointment. You are not alone, we've all been there.

If it makes you feel any better-my DH and I fought WAY more before we were married than we have since. Try to remember that the stress of wedding planning and in your case inviting Bob into your family permanently IS a big deal, it's natural to feel a little down and apprehensive. This time of year doesn't help either. I think that there are natural supplements to help with mild depression as well-might be worth looking into.

So glad to hear that you and your family are safe and were largely spared by the storm. Keep on truckin' Jenn-it's almost over.

Hey...

It's ok not to feel a certain pre expected way...You can't control how you feel- you can only control your actions...

Lots of cra@ ( am I allowed to use the real word on Disboards?... not sure -don't want to cause your PTR to get censored... going on for you... lots of stress...

I do think it's kind of cool that one of the grams gave you lingerie...

Disney Cookie jar very sweet thought...

I tried to go on Bob's Cousin's site-love the shirt and design... but doesn't look available yet...

(BTW I know all about mood disorders... seriously I really do... so if you ever need anything surrounding that... please ask...)

I understand the contradictory feelings of being thankful people were nice enough to throw you a shower/show up/buy you a gift, while at the same time feel disappointed in how the shower turned out and the gifts you received. I don't get people not following a registry. I mean it's one thing if you really know the person and have a very special gift in mind that you know they will love. But to buy just random house stuff? I mean YOU took the time to make a registry for things YOU know you need. That's why I insisted (maybe a little too much) that my SIL (who organized my baby shower) ask people to give her money instead of buying a gift, so she could go and buy stuff from my very specific list. In the end it worked out, but I got lucky. Sucks it didn't work out for you. At least the Disney cookie jar is really awesome!!!

Feeling depressive is such a drag. Bad weather and shortening days never help.

Ok, you all kinda said the same thing, so I am happy to not feel like a complete and utter ungrateful tart! I spoke to my sister too, and she was not happy AT ALL about how the shower turned out... but again, idk what I or she expected!

It was so nice to have everyone there, but it flew by, and I didn't get to spend time with anyone..

and the gift thing... I love gifts, but man, I have such a small living space !

I just don't know what to do with some of it. Bobs mom bought us a huge new dining room table.... i have NO WHERE to put it lol! I think she got it as I had once said that i'd like to replace what I had while with John.... but I meant when I had money and room lol

She also made sure to mention that she got it with SIX chairs.... do the math... we have four now... she thinks I'm having 2 grand babies.. bless her.

But anyway, yeah, my registry looks so sad lol Funny part is, I was against the whole shower thing.. thought it was silly! I should also mention though, the guests seemed to enjoy themselves.. although most felt rushed as well, and didn't get why i wasn't on time, and many couldn't read the invites, and from what I have heard, many never received the registry info.... so who knows!

A note on the depression part, like Mel said, bad weather and shorter days def kick me in the rear, and as many of you know I have BPD (borderline personality disorder.. not to be confused with any sort of multiple personality disorders... though some days lolololol). So sometimes life gets rough for me... and that is right now. I'll get through it though! I always do! I think my biggest fear is those epic fight Bob and I get into. They suck! and are draining, and with holidays, bdays, and wedding coming up, I just don't wanna lol!

I'm hoping for some sunshine this week. I can handle the cold while walking my dogs, but gray and cold is just blech!

Thanks for the positive feed back you guys! I have NO ONE to vent to about this stuff, and honestly I LOVE my wedding party and know they had the best intentions.

With that said, I'm already catching flack for what I want to do for my bachlorette party! I suggested Melting Pot (my FAV) and North Bowl ( a super popular trendy hipster bowling alley in Philadelphia.. serves gourmet food, and drinks..) . My MOH thinks I'm being silly, what with all the wonderful places to eat in Center City Philadelphia.... or why not Atlantic City...... I dont drink.. however I do eat.. so idk what to even say anymore lol! I'm about to ask for an overnight stay in NYC with tix to Wicked and brunch at Alices Tea Cup.. see how they like that price lol

lord help me!

In other news 80 days til the wedding! OH SNAP!!! Update to follow this!

Thanks again for being the best friends a girl could ask for!

 

[tlenzendorf]

Yay! Can't wait for an update!

I hope things turn around for you soon and you get thru this fight free
Does thinking how close the wedding and DISNEY is help?

 

[ronnmel]

You're welcome *HUGS* Fighting just before your wedding (and fighting with a new baby in your arm) is (are) the worse!

 

[inkedupmomma]

Yay! Can't wait for an update!

I hope things turn around for you soon and you get thru this fight free
Does thinking how close the wedding and DISNEY is help?

yes it does help! Thanks to Mel who commented below! Her TR has me stupid excited for our wedding and the honeymoon! and thank you! I know you see me on FB, and prolly think, oh shes fine.. but I dont post that personal stuff usually :/

You're welcome *HUGS* Fighting just before your wedding (and fighting with a new baby in your arm) is (are) the worse!

you would know too! I appreciated yours Ron and I fought posts! Made me feel normal lol

 

[KatMark]

I am sorry the shower wasn't what you expected and that you didn't get time to visit with your guests...it's so hard at showers to be able to visit. The gifts I could see are lovely, and I like that "grammy" got you a negilee.

 

[tlenzendorf]

yes it does help! Thanks to Mel who commented below! Her TR has me stupid excited for our wedding and the honeymoon! and thank you! I know you see me on FB, and prolly think, oh shes fine.. but I dont post that personal stuff usually :/

No, I know how that goes. There is some stuff you feel ok about posting one place and not the other and vice-versa. I post a lot more personal stuff on my October 2011 FB group than I do on my regular page. Online friends can just be more understanding sometimes I think.

Oh, and I love the cookie jar! I think I'd use it for a change jar for Disney savings

 

[KatMark]

Oh, and I love the cookie jar! I think I'd use it for a change jar for Disney savings

Excellent idea!!!!!