In your face mother's day ads everywhere

[hercamore]

Overwhelming if you don't have a mother.

Anyone else feel this way?

herc.

 

[Michie]

A little bit. My mother has been gone for a long time though, but yes. And even more so when I hear people gripe about their mothers over silly stuff.

 

[MoniqueU]

Well I am sorry for those that don't have mothers or children. But personally I dont think enough is made of this holiday. Taking your mother out to a meal, oh woohoo, NOT. Sorry I make a bigger deal out of it then that.

 

[marybet]

I know what you mean. My mother has been gone for 5 years. It is the one card I hate to buy for my MIL, this year I made DH pick it out. I just could not do it, and while I had him at the Hallmark store we got one for his dad and his son's birthdays.

I called my sons and told them not to send me flowers, a card and a phone call would do just fine. I think we make way to much of Mother's Day, for some it is the only day that they do something nice for Mom. We should treat our mothers special all year long.

 

[momrek06]

Overwhelming if you don't have a mother.

Anyone else feel this way?

herc.

WOW, I never thought about that, as my DM will be 79yo this year!!

for all of you who have lost their Mom's, that you make it through Sunday okay.

 

[dixipixi]

I think the problem is the same as it is with all holidays. Get the message out there that you are a BIG LOSER if you don't spend thousands on your mother/wife/mother-in-law/grandmothers/great grandmothers/etc.

There was a commercial just on advertising diamond jewelry. That's nice. Wonderful if you can afford it, or know someone who really wants it.

I'm lucky to have a very close/ loving family. We show our appreciation for each other every day. Sure, I'm going to do something special for my mom, grandma, and mother in law....but most of all we're spending time together. I don't think any of them really expect thousands of dollars worth of jewelry.

I'm really sorry for those of you missing your mothers. One of my grandmas has been gone for 21 years now and I still get teary eyed just thinking about her. I always think the hard sell for these holidays is just too inconsiderate.

 

[Mom2Angels]

And what about us mothers who no longer have our children here with us? thats equally as hard.


Debbie

 

[Hannathy]

It's getting easier but still hard sometimes. The hardest was the year she died when within the first three weeks after she died was Easter, her birthday and Mother's Day. That was terrible.

I also hate buying my MIL a card with the kids for this day also because she is so distant and uncaring towards the kids and my Mom was the complete opposite and they really miss her.

 

[kesha]

And what about us mothers who no longer have our children here with us? thats equally as hard.


Debbie

Yes you are right. I guess we don't think about that unless we have lost a child. My thoughts are with you.

My mother passed a year and a half ago. Lucky for me I do have a mother-in-law that is like a mom to me.

 

[AnaheimGirl]

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

I know how you feel. I lost my mom 11 years ago & my dad this last November. May 19th is the anniversary I lost my mom, so I'm really feeling it these days.

 

[va32h]

The same could be said of any holiday. Father's Day, for those who don't have fathers. Christmas for those who have unhappy holiday memories.

Thanksgiving holds horrible memories for me, personally, and I would just as soon not have to hear about Thanksgiving preparations for the entire month of November.

 

[troy mcclure]

The same could be said of any holiday. Father's Day, for those who don't have fathers. Christmas for those who have unhappy holiday memories.

Thanksgiving holds horrible memories for me, personally, and I would just as soon not have to hear about Thanksgiving preparations for the entire month of November.

Almost any special occasion/holiday can be hard for those who've lost loved ones. The first few Mother's Days were hard for me after my mother passed away. In a way they still are a little tough. I try to focus on the good memories I have and try to enjoy watching others celebrate with their mothers.

 

[AllyandJack]

It's hard when it's your first Mother's Day without your grandmother and when you WOULD have been celebrating mother's day for the first time, but had a miscarriage. I keep telling DH I'm going to call the ACLU and have them wipe out Mother's Day like they did X-Mas. I want it called Women's Day. We celebrate all women and womanhood. Mothers and those with mothers can celebrate Mother's Day just like people celebrate X-Mas on their own time.

I'm sick of having holidays rammed in my face. They can sell turkeys and flowers without the commercials every 5 seconds. Every commercial shows some stupid, smiling, We're-Happier-Than-You-Are-Because-We-Have-A-Bigger-Turkey/Tree/Bouquet/Gift family - so make sure you buy the same, big Turkey/Tree/Bouquet/Gift so you can be just as happy. Whatever.

 

[Steffi]

Hugs to all who've lost their mothers. This is a tough time of year for us!

I hate the in-your-face, spend-lots-of money ads they have going on. The year my mom died, I had given her what she said was her best Mother's Day ever, and it wasn't diamonds or pearls. It was a whole day together doing things mom liked. I made a great brunch then we went to a botanical gardens that mom had been wanting to see and spent the day there. Then we had a nice supper at my house. It brings tears to my eyes that that was her best mother's day ever; it was nothing!

 

[AtlantaSue]

My mom died of breast cancer on Tues., May 11, 1993 - 2 days after Mothers
Day. I was 25 years old and it was just awful. As others have said, this time of year can be so difficult...it really is for me. My dad also died just 5 months ago, so this year I'm feeling particularly blue and just generally more moody. For those of you who are also a little down - I'm sending prayers and pixie dust your way!

 

[dianeschlicht]

Overwhelming if you don't have a mother.

Anyone else feel this way?

herc.

Absolutely! It was worse for the first 5 or 6 years after Mom passed, but it's been 14 years now, and it is a little bit better. I HATE Mother's Day. Mostly because I miss my Mom, and my kids rarely remember it.

 

[AllyandJack]

Has anyone seen that K-Mart Commercial where the kids are dancing around to Ton Loc's "Wild Thing"? The mother walks in and the kids and father are dancing to "Wild Thing".....then, she gets a diamond necklace? What does that have to do with "Wild Thing"? Not sure I want to know....Seems a bit inappropriate. That has to be the worst.

 

[NMAmy]

Overwhelming if you don't have a mother.

Anyone else feel this way?

herc.

I'm sorry, herc. My mom gave me a scare last week--she was in the hospital because her hemoglobin was dangerously low. We found out that it was caused by some small bleeding ulcers which was a relief compared to what it could have been. I would have been devastated if it had been something worse.

I feel the same way about Father's Day since I lost my dad a few years ago.

 

[Christine]

I agree that I really hate the commercialization of it all. It gets worse every year. Each night, there is a constant bombardment of jewelry commercials. This is about Mother's Day--more than likely, younger kids or young adults honoring their moms. Why do they have to make it seem like everyone has to run out and buy some crappy piece of $400 jewelry? That would be the LAST thing I would want my kids to do.

Be prepared, when Father's Day comes (the ads will start the MONDAY after Mother's Day), we will be seeing all the big Home Depot ads ordering us to "buy Dad the best new lawn mower" out there.