In search of my body...not the one I ate!

[MunkyMe13]

#1000...take that Grumps!!! LOL

*pouts* I was totally about to do that... LOL!

 

[HockeyKat]

Born2Bird... .

Thanks guys!!!

I am on the never ending conference call today... 9:30-5. Whee.

 

[MunkyMe13]

Born2Bird... .

Thanks guys!!!

I am on the never ending conference call today... 9:30-5. Whee.

oh gee sounds like soooo much fun! LOL!

 

[HockeyKat]

oh gee sounds like soooo much fun! LOL!

This is me, jumping for joy...

 

[MunkyMe13]

This is me, jumping for joy...

How is everyone today? Was busy earlier and very quiet now.. Y'all must have more of a life than me... LOL!

 

[3DisneyKids]

I am out straight today but will get caught up tonight (late).

CONGRATS, Kat! Knew that DDP weight would come flying off! Keep it up!

Happy Birthday, Grumps!

 

[3DisneyKids]

Ok, Body Boarders….I need to bounce this off some other folks to get better perspective. Note: this has nothing to do with weight or exercise (relationship stuff), so if you are not interested, feel free to skip.

As we all know, last night was Valentine’s Day. DH and I usually do not exchange gifts…just cards. Well, he came home with a gift and card for me. The gift was a special iPod shuffle designed just for running—the idea being that he is showing support for my running program, etc. Sweet and thoughtful, right? Well…here is the note on the card…

“I am proud of you for your new found commitment to exercise. Even if you do not reach your goals, your dedication is honorable. Congratulations and keep it up!”

Ummm…is it me, or does that sound like a performance appraisal from a boss? Could it be less intimate? And what is with the “even if you DON’T achieve your goals” crap?? Is that supposed to be supportive?
Or do you think this is just typical guy talk….?

Am I being awful and looking a gift horse in the mouth? I am totally misreading this?

All comments welcome…thanks!

 

[MunkyMe13]

Ok, Body Boarders….I need to bounce this off some other folks to get better perspective. Note: this has nothing to do with weight or exercise (relationship stuff), so if you are not interested, feel free to skip.

As we all know, last night was Valentine’s Day. DH and I usually do not exchange gifts…just cards. Well, he came home with a gift and card for me. The gift was a special iPod shuffle designed just for running—the idea being that he is showing support for my running program, etc. Sweet and thoughtful, right? Well…here is the note on the card…

“I am proud of you for your new found commitment to exercise. Even if you do not reach your goals, your dedication is honorable. Congratulations and keep it up!”

Ummm…is it me, or does that sound like a performance appraisal from a boss? Could it be less intimate? And what is with the “even if you DON’T achieve your goals” crap?? Is that supposed to be supportive?
Or do you think this is just typical guy talk….?

Am I being awful and looking a gift horse in the mouth? I am totally misreading this?

All comments welcome…thanks!

To me it sounds like he is being supportive because he got you a gift for running and wants you to succeed but perhaps he wants you to know that if for whatever reason, you don't succeed (which we know you will) he is ok with it. I think he maybe should have chosen a better way to say so but I do think he was trying to be supportive and genuine. Maybe he just doesn't know how to say it any other way.

 

[goofyfan-12]

Ok, Body Boarders….I need to bounce this off some other folks to get better perspective. Note: this has nothing to do with weight or exercise (relationship stuff), so if you are not interested, feel free to skip.

As we all know, last night was Valentine’s Day. DH and I usually do not exchange gifts…just cards. Well, he came home with a gift and card for me. The gift was a special iPod shuffle designed just for running—the idea being that he is showing support for my running program, etc. Sweet and thoughtful, right? Well…here is the note on the card…

“I am proud of you for your new found commitment to exercise. Even if you do not reach your goals, your dedication is honorable. Congratulations and keep it up!”

Ummm…is it me, or does that sound like a performance appraisal from a boss? Could it be less intimate? And what is with the “even if you DON’T achieve your goals” crap?? Is that supposed to be supportive?
Or do you think this is just typical guy talk….?

Am I being awful and looking a gift horse in the mouth? I am totally misreading this?

All comments welcome…thanks!

I think the fact that he reached out and showed support of your efforts is big... especially if what you said about his not usually giving you gifts for Valentine's Day... I think that as weird as the message may sound, it is his way of telling you that he supports what you are doing and what you are trying to accomplish. I know the 'even if...' statement sounds kind of like a backhanded compliment / insult, but I suspect that if he does have some OCD in him, he may not be able to express his support for your efforts in any other way. It sounds like he loves you just the way you are and wants to support your efforts in a way that he can.

I wouldn't read too much into it. The fact that he went out and bought you a gift to support your efforts is the bigger deal here. His intentions are good, but the execution may have hit a few snags along the way...

In the meantime - enjoy that new ipod.... they are awesome...

Goof

 

[Dizneydawn]

So my laptop...is not turning on...earlier the fan would sound like it was going to start....and then it died...and then it died again...and now nada!!!

All my business stuff is on it and I am off to pray to someone they can see if a fuse blew or what the heck happenend!

I will get to the weight stuff later...I am just jumping on our old computer and it takes forever to load/upload!

3Dkids....maybe the romantic part of him is quashed by the perfectionist...totally not romantic in words...but his thought we all have to agree is at least something. I wish he would understand that your commitment is not just to your excersize but to you specifically....maybe you could take the card...lay in bed with him and say...
"I love and appreciate what you wrote and I would love for you to tell me more about how you feel about my excersize and how you see it affetcting me personally.......can you expand a little about the card...I am really proud of myself and it means a lot that you are proud of me too so I would really love for more detailed support from you.."" etc..

I think that most guys are clueless about how a woman wants to hear things from them...maybe by being direct and leading him a little...he can expand more for what you need and were looking for....and then if he is not very supportive or nice...give Kat a call cause she will hockey stick him in the hoohobber!!!

Hope that helps...at least that way you have clarification and can either move on knowing he does not get it...or feel sorry for his lack of finesse in words...but either way you are not having anxiety or second guessing anymore! Information is power!!

 

[larry's girl]

Hi, everyone. SO sorry I haven't been here lately - I have been having health issues, which I will describe in FULL detail below. I am in a very discouraged mood today, so THIS IS YOUR WARNING!! Negativity is busting out all over from me today.

Before I get to myself, I have tried to read to keep up with everybody. I am sure I will miss someone that I intended to respond to, but here goes:

Bird - Hope your grandfather gets better soon. Hugs to you for the stress of dealing with his situation.

Erika - I think your husband was trying to be nice, and just didn't phrase what he said very well.

I am 5'4" tall and weigh 323.4 pounds (as of this week) - so I am way bigger than anybody else on this thread. To all of you who have lost weight this week, reached a milestone, conquered the fear of the scale or maintained in any other way - CONGRATS!

I have always been jealous of my sister-in-law because she has so much more energy than me and gets everything that she needs to do done all the time. I know this for a fact from the conversations we have had and because her house and car are always clean (even when you drop in unannounced), her clothes always look perfect, her hair and make-up are always perfect and she is always on top of everything. She and her husband went with us to DisneyWorld last fall and toured the parks from dawn to dusk every day, something I could NEVER do, and she was incredulous that I thought the pace they were keeping would be way more than I could ever do. I will never be like that - ever. I have given up on it.

And that brings me to what's going on in my life today. Basically I am continuing to have health issues lately. I had a nasty stomach virus last week, followed closely by eating gluten-contaminated food accidentally (which always makes me sick for at least three days). I am angry with myself for that one - it happened because we ate out and instead of eating what I knew was safe, I decided to try something different that I "thought" was safe. Not a good idea. I have determined that experimenting in the restaurant arena is not a good idea! So I learned my lesson on that one. The problem is, my stomach is still dicey. It was not liking my "meat and vegetables" regimen, so I ate a few more carbs for a couple of days - that helped my stomach, but made my blood sugar shoot up. So there you go. I am more concerned about my blood sugar than my stomach, so I am back to eating meat and vegetables (which is what my doctor recommends), but my stomach is giving me fits now. And on top of that, I have caught DH's nasty cold/flu germs that he brought home earlier this week and now have a sore and scratchy throat, aching all over, yada, yada, yada. I just had a cold that turned into a sinus infection and it took me almost a month to get over that, and now I have another one. It just sucks.

The thing is, when I am sick, I can't get past it and train through it. I know I am running out of time to prepare for the 5K in Disney in May, but I just can't seem to make myself get out and do the training when I am hurting, running to the bathroom, etc. I am still on Week 4 of C25K (have done two days of it in the last week), but if I keep getting sick I am not sure I will be able to get through it. This 5K in May is beginning to feel like an obstacle I have to overcome instead of a positive fitness goal, and I am unhappy with that feeling. I don't want to quit - I am too stubborn for that - but I am very discouraged today. I feel like every time I try to move forward with this new chapter in my life, I get tugged back by illness. And I don't know what to do to boost my immunity. I take the supplements my doctor recommends, but if I need to add to those, I don't know what to add. How do I repel stomach bugs and cold/flu bugs at the same time? And I must also admit that getting up at 5:00 a.m. on mornings when I am feeling so unwell is starting to not happen. I find I am giving in to my exhaustion and going back to bed until closer to 6:00, when I have to get up and drag to work. I have already chewed through 2/3 of my sick time for the year, and it's only February 15. The situation is just not good, and I don't know what to do about it!

I did decide that when it comes to my normal work-out schedule, I need to have my rest day be Thursday and work out the other six days of the week. I am trying to get to Discover Mills Mall on Sunday afternoons to work on the distance walking, so Sunday no longer works as a rest day for me. I am up late on Wednesday nights for a Bible study meeting, and by the time I get home, unwind a bit and get to bed, I really need another few minutes of sleep the next morning instead of getting up at 5. So if I can ever get past all this illness, that is what I am planning to do. I am beginning to wonder, though, if maybe the damage I have sustained from my chronic health problems through the years is too much to undo. Maybe I'm always going to be susceptible to whatever germs are going around. Maybe I'm never going to be able to consistently train for anything physical. Maybe I'm always going to be a very fat, constantly sick, almost always exhausted person who never gets to experience what it's like to live a normal, active life. I don't know - I just know that today I am discouraged and tired of fighting.

I have decided that I am going to list my food, water and exercise for each day on this thread. Hopefully it will mean I check in more often, even if it is quick, and will help me keep up with what I am doing. I am really bored with my food choices, but don't know how to add any variety because I am so restricted with what I can eat. Not only do I have to avoid gluten and dairy, but I have to avoid all high carbohydrate foods, too, so I eat meat and vegetables - meat and vegetables - meat and vegetables. I am really sick of meat and vegetables, but there's no help for it. There just isn't anything else to be done to bring my blood sugars down without resorting to more medication (or possibly insulin). Even when I search on-line for low-carb recipes, they almost always use loads of dairy products so I can't have them, either. If I find a good gluten-free cookbook, it uses loads of dairy. If I find a good dairy-free cookbook, it uses gluten. If I find an appealing recipe that is GFCF (gluten and dairy free), it uses lots of high carb items. It is almost impossible now for me to try to plan meals or come up with something that doesn't bore me to tears. It just plain sucks.

And it also occurred to me recently that when I started this lifestyle change, last September, I weighed 326 pounds. I fell and hurt my back, didn't exercise or stick to my eating plan well for about three months, and started again at 331 pounds. This week when I weighed for BL challenge, I weighed 323.4 (as I stated above). I haven't even lost 10 pounds in all this time! I realize that I am doing this for more than weight loss, but it seems like after all this effort I should have more to show for it than I do on the scale.

And what bothers me the most is that I did feel well - really well - for a few days there. And it is too cruel that I had that feeling and now it's gone and I don't know if it will ever come back.

DH and I were talking some time ago about what we want to do for our 25th anniversary, which is in April of next year. We decided we want to do an Adventures by Disney trip out to California to see Hollywood and Disneyland, with back stage access to parts of the Disneyland parks. I was really excited about it, because I have never been to California, and I thought it would give me several months to lose weight so I can fit into the airplane seat more easily and work up my exercise tolerance so I can do all the walking that trip will entail. Now I'm wondering if I will be up to it or if maybe that whole plan is unrealistic. Especially after I came home from the last run I did and was in so much pain and so winded that he said "You need to give this up - you're killing yourself. It's just too much for you." I don't know - today I am really wondering if he is right.

 

[goofyfan-12]

Hi, everyone. SO sorry I haven't been here lately - I have been having health issues, which I will describe in FULL detail below. I am in a very discouraged mood today, so THIS IS YOUR WARNING!! Negativity is busting out all over from me today.

Before I get to myself, I have tried to read to keep up with everybody. I am sure I will miss someone that I intended to respond to, but here goes:

Bird - Hope your grandfather gets better soon. Hugs to you for the stress of dealing with his situation.

Erika - I think your husband was trying to be nice, and just didn't phrase what he said very well.

I am 5'4" tall and weigh 323.4 pounds (as of this week) - so I am way bigger than anybody else on this thread. To all of you who have lost weight this week, reached a milestone, conquered the fear of the scale or maintained in any other way - CONGRATS!

I have always been jealous of my sister-in-law because she has so much more energy than me and gets everything that she needs to do done all the time. I know this for a fact from the conversations we have had and because her house and car are always clean (even when you drop in unannounced), her clothes always look perfect, her hair and make-up are always perfect and she is always on top of everything. She and her husband went with us to DisneyWorld last fall and toured the parks from dawn to dusk every day, something I could NEVER do, and she was incredulous that I thought the pace they were keeping would be way more than I could ever do. I will never be like that - ever. I have given up on it.

And that brings me to what's going on in my life today. Basically I am continuing to have health issues lately. I had a nasty stomach virus last week, followed closely by eating gluten-contaminated food accidentally (which always makes me sick for at least three days). I am angry with myself for that one - it happened because we ate out and instead of eating what I knew was safe, I decided to try something different that I "thought" was safe. Not a good idea. I have determined that experimenting in the restaurant arena is not a good idea! So I learned my lesson on that one. The problem is, my stomach is still dicey. It was not liking my "meat and vegetables" regimen, so I ate a few more carbs for a couple of days - that helped my stomach, but made my blood sugar shoot up. So there you go. I am more concerned about my blood sugar than my stomach, so I am back to eating meat and vegetables (which is what my doctor recommends), but my stomach is giving me fits now. And on top of that, I have caught DH's nasty cold/flu germs that he brought home earlier this week and now have a sore and scratchy throat, aching all over, yada, yada, yada. I just had a cold that turned into a sinus infection and it took me almost a month to get over that, and now I have another one. It just sucks.

The thing is, when I am sick, I can't get past it and train through it. I know I am running out of time to prepare for the 5K in Disney in May, but I just can't seem to make myself get out and do the training when I am hurting, running to the bathroom, etc. I am still on Week 4 of C25K (have done two days of it in the last week), but if I keep getting sick I am not sure I will be able to get through it. This 5K in May is beginning to feel like an obstacle I have to overcome instead of a positive fitness goal, and I am unhappy with that feeling. I don't want to quit - I am too stubborn for that - but I am very discouraged today. I feel like every time I try to move forward with this new chapter in my life, I get tugged back by illness. And I don't know what to do to boost my immunity. I take the supplements my doctor recommends, but if I need to add to those, I don't know what to add. How do I repel stomach bugs and cold/flu bugs at the same time? And I must also admit that getting up at 5:00 a.m. on mornings when I am feeling so unwell is starting to not happen. I find I am giving in to my exhaustion and going back to bed until closer to 6:00, when I have to get up and drag to work. I have already chewed through 2/3 of my sick time for the year, and it's only February 15. The situation is just not good, and I don't know what to do about it!

I did decide that when it comes to my normal work-out schedule, I need to have my rest day be Thursday and work out the other six days of the week. I am trying to get to Discover Mills Mall on Sunday afternoons to work on the distance walking, so Sunday no longer works as a rest day for me. I am up late on Wednesday nights for a Bible study meeting, and by the time I get home, unwind a bit and get to bed, I really need another few minutes of sleep the next morning instead of getting up at 5. So if I can ever get past all this illness, that is what I am planning to do. I am beginning to wonder, though, if maybe the damage I have sustained from my chronic health problems through the years is too much to undo. Maybe I'm always going to be susceptible to whatever germs are going around. Maybe I'm never going to be able to consistently train for anything physical. Maybe I'm always going to be a very fat, constantly sick, almost always exhausted person who never gets to experience what it's like to live a normal, active life. I don't know - I just know that today I am discouraged and tired of fighting.

I have decided that I am going to list my food, water and exercise for each day on this thread. Hopefully it will mean I check in more often, even if it is quick, and will help me keep up with what I am doing. I am really bored with my food choices, but don't know how to add any variety because I am so restricted with what I can eat. Not only do I have to avoid gluten and dairy, but I have to avoid all high carbohydrate foods, too, so I eat meat and vegetables - meat and vegetables - meat and vegetables. I am really sick of meat and vegetables, but there's no help for it. There just isn't anything else to be done to bring my blood sugars down without resorting to more medication (or possibly insulin). Even when I search on-line for low-carb recipes, they almost always use loads of dairy products so I can't have them, either. If I find a good gluten-free cookbook, it uses loads of dairy. If I find a good dairy-free cookbook, it uses gluten. If I find an appealing recipe that is GFCF (gluten and dairy free), it uses lots of high carb items. It is almost impossible now for me to try to plan meals or come up with something that doesn't bore me to tears. It just plain sucks.

And it also occurred to me recently that when I started this lifestyle change, last September, I weighed 326 pounds. I fell and hurt my back, didn't exercise or stick to my eating plan well for about three months, and started again at 331 pounds. This week when I weighed for BL challenge, I weighed 323.4 (as I stated above). I haven't even lost 10 pounds in all this time! I realize that I am doing this for more than weight loss, but it seems like after all this effort I should have more to show for it than I do on the scale.

And what bothers me the most is that I did feel well - really well - for a few days there. And it is too cruel that I had that feeling and now it's gone and I don't know if it will ever come back.

DH and I were talking some time ago about what we want to do for our 25th anniversary, which is in April of next year. We decided we want to do an Adventures by Disney trip out to California to see Hollywood and Disneyland, with back stage access to parts of the Disneyland parks. I was really excited about it, because I have never been to California, and I thought it would give me several months to lose weight so I can fit into the airplane seat more easily and work up my exercise tolerance so I can do all the walking that trip will entail. Now I'm wondering if I will be up to it or if maybe that whole plan is unrealistic. Especially after I came home from the last run I did and was in so much pain and so winded that he said "You need to give this up - you're killing yourself. It's just too much for you." I don't know - today I am really wondering if he is right.

Susan - First off, I am sending you a big hug and offering you my shoulder to cry on... you have definitely had a rough couple of weeks and it is no wonder you are frustrated....

OK - stop, take a deep breath.... and let it out.... keep doing that and say to yourself that things will get better.... because they will....

You can do this, it is just going to take a little work on your part and a lot of help from your local support network and your cyber support network (yup - that's us), but you can and you will do this....

As for your concern that it is too late to turn back the clock on your health you are wrong.... it can never be too late.... the folks at Jenny Craig told me that losing as little as 5% of your body weight can reduce your risk for things like heart disease, stroke, etc. With your current weight, that is a mere 16 pounds to lose for so much benefit... 16 pounds is very doable...

I am concerned about your running though.... My doctor told me under no uncertain terms should I be running or jumping while at my weight (and that was when I was 30 pounds heavier than I am now...) because it is too much for my knees and my heart. You have to ease into it. I am focusing on doing the Walk Away the Pounds DVDs by Leslie Sansone (very low impact and easy to do, but you still get a good workout), aqua aerobics (no impact and a great muscle building workout) and tossing in the occaissional Biggest Loser low intensity workout DVD when I am up for a challenge (I can't do the jumping jacks, but they give you a modified version that doesn't involve jumping which works for me). These options may give you a safer option for working out and still get you ready to walk that 5k in May (I walk a min. of 2 miles a day now with the walking DVD's). Listen to what your body is telling you. You may need to roll back on what you are doing, but DON'T STOP!!!! you have worked too hard to get where you are now....

As for the food issues, I don't know too much about the gluten allergies, but I do know of someone who has dairy and soy issues (I guess most people who are lactose intolerant can't digest soy either). They have found that rice milk and rice milk based cheeses and yogurts work really well as a dairy substitute. The rice milk products are usually available at health food stores, organic grocery stores (like Whole Foods, etc). They cost a bit more, but if it gives you some variety in what you are eating, it may be worth it. If soy is not an issue for you, try some of the soy milk products in those gluten free - high dairy recipies to see if your body can handle it. I can find out some of the specific rice milk foods that they use and pass the info along if you think it will help...

Whatever you do.... DON'T GIVE UP..... Your life is too important to give up on everything you have done so far.... We are here to support you....

Paula

 

[HockeyKat]

3Dkids....maybe the romantic part of him is quashed by the perfectionist...totally not romantic in words...but his thought we all have to agree is at least something. I wish he would understand that your commitment is not just to your excersize but to you specifically....maybe you could take the card...lay in bed with him and say...
"I love and appreciate what you wrote and I would love for you to tell me more about how you feel about my excersize and how you see it affetcting me personally.......can you expand a little about the card...I am really proud of myself and it means a lot that you are proud of me too so I would really love for more detailed support from you.."" etc..

I think that most guys are clueless about how a woman wants to hear things from them...maybe by being direct and leading him a little...he can expand more for what you need and were looking for....and then if he is not very supportive or nice...give Kat a call cause she will hockey stick him in the hoohobber!!!

Hee... I like the word "hoohobber".

Erika, I think that he meant well, but I would also have been very hurt by that. I think that naturally fit/thin types just don't understand what it is like to have someone like that "advise" on our exercise program, and esp in the context of a v-day present. I know if I had done something like that to Mr Kat (who I desperately wish would start an exercise program), it would have escalated into a HUGE fight and he probably knows the reverse, because we both struggle mightily with weight/fitness.

Susan... .

Also, I know for me, 6 days a week of training is too much... I wind up feeling tired and run-down. And I really have no health problems to speak of, other than the 40 lbs overweight and slightly elevated blood pressure.

I think you might be overstressing your body and your immune system. Also, when I am doing 4-5 days a week I need a full 8 hours every night, at minimum.

It isn't giving up to give in to what your body is telling you. You need to take care of YOU first.

Sending more your way.

 

[larry's girl]

Thanks, Paula. I appreciate your concern and suggestions.

I guess I should have explained a little bit more than I did. I have celiac disease, which means I can't digest gluten (the protein in wheat, barley, rye or oats) or the protein in milk (casein). That is the damage to my body that I was referring to - the damage that has been done from having celiac all these years and not knowing it until the last few months. It causes lots of really nasty things to happen (including the diabetes and the resulting fight I am having to keep my blood sugars low without taking more medicine), and I am hoping that the gluten free casein free diet will reverse them, but today I am just in a discouraged mood.

Rice milk still has casein in it - my doctor says the manufacturers put it there to make the rice products taste more like regular dairy products - so I can't have those. She also does not want me to use soy milk products, since I am sensitive to soy also (but not as severely as gluten and dairy). So that is the dilemma I am facing with that.

I have actually done Leslie Sansone's 2-mile Walk Away the Pounds tape as a cross training tool with the C25K program. I would like to do aqua aerobics, but there are no pools in my area that have operating hours that work with my schedule. I described the training I was doing to my doctor and she was okay with it, but it is hard on my joints I'll admit. I am mainly doing it so that I can build up my tolerance and endurance because the 5K in Disney in May requires a 15-minute mile and there's no way I can do that pace for 3.2 miles at one whack right now. My sister convinced me I could do this with her and my parents are going with us to cheer us on, so I am trying my best to train for it, but it just seems I can't get anywhere with it without getting sick and having that interfere.

Anyway, thanks for caring and I appreciate your suggestions very much.

Susan

P.S. Thanks, Kat.:hug

 

[3DisneyKids]

As you can see, the life of this single gal is so exciting....

Goof

OMG...mine is no more interesting! It just involves cleaning up other people's bodily fluids...

And... drumroll... I am down -5.6 lbs as of my weigh-in this morning. for a total of -7.4 since I returned from Disney and weighed on Feb 4th.

INCREDIBLE! You are my hero of the week! Keep working it!

#1000...take that Grumps!!! LOL

You go, girl! That's the way to take what is rightfully yours!

I wouldn't read too much into it. The fact that he went out and bought you a gift to support your efforts is the bigger deal here. His intentions are good, but the execution may have hit a few snags along the way...

In the meantime - enjoy that new ipod.... they are awesome...

Goof

Thanks, Paula and everyone else here. I have things in MUCH better perspective now. I have let it go. I think the gesture was sincere and he was just a dope about how he wrote it (he IS an engineer, after all...)

This is now my second iPod....and this one is just for running. I have the 80 GB Video iPod which I LOVE! :love:

So my laptop...is not turning on...earlier the fan would sound like it was going to start....and then it died...and then it died again...and now nada!!!

YIKES! Keeping my fingers crossed that it can be saved!

I think that most guys are clueless about how a woman wants to hear things from them...maybe by being direct and leading him a little...he can expand more for what you need and were looking for....and then if he is not very supportive or nice...give Kat a call cause she will hockey stick him in the hoohobber!!!

hoohobber... (ok, so maybe I have the mind of a 9 year old boy...I think this is freakin' hilarious!)

Thanks to ALL of you for responding to my issue. I am better now and have put it in perspective and am busy setting up my new gadget as I type.

SUSAN--Don't give up, honey! We are SO here for you. I can't tell you how many times I have tried and failed or quit or gotten derailed by something like illness only never to get back up. We have all been there.

The difference for me this time is COMING HERE. So keep coming! We want you here.

As for your schedule and work-outs....don't give up! I am confident that you CAN do this training. 6 days is TOO MUCH at this stage. Slow it down. Do the C25k program THREE days each week and then maybe do the Leslie Whosie- whatsie walking thing maybe TWO days a week. And that is it. Also, since the walking and running are new to you, I would go slowly and perhaps even spend two weeks on each week of the program. (Do week 3 for 2 weeks, then week 4 for two weeks, etc.)

You CAN do this! I believe in you!

Phew! Ok, I think I am all caught up now...

 

[chbc]

Ok, Body Boarders….I need to bounce this off some other folks to get better perspective. Note: this has nothing to do with weight or exercise (relationship stuff), so if you are not interested, feel free to skip.

As we all know, last night was Valentine’s Day. DH and I usually do not exchange gifts…just cards. Well, he came home with a gift and card for me. The gift was a special iPod shuffle designed just for running—the idea being that he is showing support for my running program, etc. Sweet and thoughtful, right? Well…here is the note on the card…

“I am proud of you for your new found commitment to exercise. Even if you do not reach your goals, your dedication is honorable. Congratulations and keep it up!”

Ummm…is it me, or does that sound like a performance appraisal from a boss? Could it be less intimate? And what is with the “even if you DON’T achieve your goals” crap?? Is that supposed to be supportive?
Or do you think this is just typical guy talk….?

Am I being awful and looking a gift horse in the mouth? I am totally misreading this?

All comments welcome…thanks!

You are not looking a gift horse in the mouth. I read the card to my forever fit n' trim husband he said the second line was not needed. He thought you were right to think as you stated. This is why all the women love him so.

By the way- He got me a water pik for Valentine's Day! In a gift bag, with pink tissue paper. The kiddos brought it to me and they alll stood around beaming. So proud. Last night, my son couldn't wait to use it. A water pik. He had been talking about getting one since I have been brushing and flossing day and night since getting braces a couple of weeks ago. But, a water pik for Valentine's Day . He didn't get everything he wanted for Valentine's Day. In his defense with money tight and how much I'll use it- oh I can't defend a water pik. What is he teaching our son.

So, enjoy the ipod and know your husband is thinking of you and proud of you. You will reach your goals.

 

[3DisneyKids]

You are not looking a gift horse in the mouth. I read the card to my forever fit n' trim husband he said the second line was not needed. He thought you were right to think as you stated. This is why all the women love him so.

By the way- He got me a water pik for Valentine's Day! In a gift bag, with pink tissue paper. The kiddos brought it to me and they alll stood around beaming. So proud. Last night, my son couldn't wait to use it. A water pik. He had been talking about getting one since I have been brushing and flossing day and night since getting braces a couple of weeks ago. But, a water pik for Valentine's Day . He didn't get everything he wanted for Valentine's Day. In his defense with money tight and how much I'll use it- oh I can't defend a water pik. What is he teaching our son.

So, enjoy the ipod and know your husband is thinking of you and proud of you. You will reach your goals.

Thanks, Heather! Water Pik... ...ok, no more complaints from me!

 

[AKASnowWhite]

“I am proud of you for your new found commitment to exercise. Even if you do not reach your goals, your dedication is honorable. Congratulations and keep it up!”

Sounds like something my DH would say. Not meaning it in a BAD way at all! Just not realizing that it SOUNDS bad to me!

If those words came out of my DH's mouth, they would be translated as: "I love you so very much and I'm so proud of you for doing this for yourself. But no matter what you do, I'll always love you for exactly who you are!"

They just need to learn to speak our language - or get a competant translator!

 

[AKASnowWhite]

I have already chewed through 2/3 of my sick time for the year, and it's only February 15. The situation is just not good, and I don't know what to do about it!

First, get healthy! Your body can't heal if it doesn't get the rest it needs. Get plenty of sleep - it's so important and so often overlooked! I completely understand your frustration, but by "over exercising" there's a good chance you are not going to see the results you are after.

Try a low impact exercise- running is SO hard on the body in so many ways. For the most part, our bodies aren't built for that. If you keep your impact down, and your heart rate at a more moderate level I guarantee you you'll better .

Now I'm wondering if I will be up to it or if maybe that whole plan is unrealistic. Especially after I came home from the last run I did and was in so much pain and so winded that he said "You need to give this up - you're killing yourself. It's just too much for you." I don't know - today I am really wondering if he is right.

You are worth it - don't give up on yourself. Small steps, small victories every day will add up

"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it's the courage to continue that counts. - Winston Churchill

We're here for you honey - you can do this.

 

[MunkyMe13]

Ok, Body Boarders….I need to bounce this off some other folks to get better perspective. Note: this has nothing to do with weight or exercise (relationship stuff), so if you are not interested, feel free to skip.

As we all know, last night was Valentine’s Day. DH and I usually do not exchange gifts…just cards. Well, he came home with a gift and card for me. The gift was a special iPod shuffle designed just for running—the idea being that he is showing support for my running program, etc. Sweet and thoughtful, right? Well…here is the note on the card…

“I am proud of you for your new found commitment to exercise. Even if you do not reach your goals, your dedication is honorable. Congratulations and keep it up!”

Ummm…is it me, or does that sound like a performance appraisal from a boss? Could it be less intimate? And what is with the “even if you DON’T achieve your goals” crap?? Is that supposed to be supportive?
Or do you think this is just typical guy talk….?

Am I being awful and looking a gift horse in the mouth? I am totally misreading this?

All comments welcome…thanks!

I talked to my DH and he said the same thing we all said... Some guys (he's included) just don't know how to say something romantic in that kind of tone and he said that he probably just wants you to know he will love you no matter what shape you are in or if you run or not...

Susan- Things will get better and hopefully a bit easier for you. If I can do anything let me know... I can get you a DL postcard when I go in a couple weeks...

I put this quote on my spark page cuz I found it to be inspiring to me... I hope all of you can get something out of it too...

“Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening up new doors and doing new things… and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”
–Walt Disney

I hope everyone has a good night... Mine sucked a little but I will go into that when it gets resolved... Stupid gym and its stupid discriminating personal trainers... At least I had a good salad and I am gonna go grab a pudding cup... sugar free that is...

Nite nite all!
Sarah