In Search of My Body - Not the One I Ate, VOL 7! Princesses? Nope, just us Goddesses!

[AKASnowWhite]

Good morning!

I'm dragging my heels here...have to get myself to the gym as I haven't been there in a week. My "personal pep talk" seems to be falling on deaf ears

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Tuesday morning.

Kat - how ya doing this morning?

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Guess I shouldn't have read that last article in my Elle and I'd have been the first and on top. Nancy - get to the gym.

 

[SeptemberGirl]

guess i shouldn't have read that last article in my elle and i'd have been the first and on top. Nancy - get to the gym.

hi lar ious!

 

[cathie1327]

Sorry Kat - that you are having a crummy day. You may choose to eat poison tonight. And you might feel good for the 5 or 30 minutes it takes to do it - but in the end - you'll feel worse. Food is not your best friend and will not make your crummy day different - it will only make sure you stay in the same jeans you are wearing today. Are you ok with that? Maybe you are.

This is amazing amazing amazing. Seriously. I'm going to print it off and put it on my fridge. Becasue it is so amazingly true.

Cathie, . Why are salespeople so mean sometimes? I have had two bad experiences... one was a saleswoman who came up to my mom and I and told us we were in the wrong section, because we were in petite. I am 5'8" and my mom is 5'11", but I am so short-waisted that sometimes petite tops and dresses (assuming they were meant to hit below the knee anyhow) actually fit me better than regular.

The other, was a jewelry repair person that told my then-fiance (now husband) that he should have spent more money and gotten a better diamond. At the time, he had lost his job and it was all he/we could do to get anything, and we had picked it out together with an eye toward keeping the costs down... I actually wrote a letter to the jewelry company and got an official apology and they fixed my ring for free.

Awww Kat I am so sorry about your experiences! I really do not understand how some people in the customer service industry can act the way they do. REally. It's dispicable.

Hi everybody! I'm back from my weekend away, which I enjoyed very, very much. Busy, exhausting, and exhilirating all at the same time. I did a whole lot of walking this weekend, but haven't truly worked out since last Wednesday Tomorrow morning is going to be painful, I'm sure!


Congrats to all of you losers out there! Paula, Lisa & Kat - you guys ROCK!

Dawn & Cathie - how's WW going for you?


Lyz - happy business anniversary! 10 year is a great milestone!


Paula - black tie! FUN! I agree on the classic look...and I'm sure you will look AMAZING!

E - what's your travel date? So envious.

Amy, Amiee, Kat, Liz, Ronda, Kelly....HI!

Weight watchers is...well...going alright. I am getting frustrated becasue I have a really hard time making myself track all my food and count all the points, but I am definitely eating better just from all the recipes and suggestions I get from the meetings. I lost a pound at the meeting yesterday, so I feel like I'm still on my way to a littler me.

 

[cathie1327]

Good morning everyone!

So I'm really wondering when I am going to stop being so frustrated in life! Today was a good day, and I'm trying to keep it that way, but when I got to work and had our weekly department meeting, well, things just got frustrating. Long story short, there's a lot of people who aren't following the rules and don't think they should have to; instead they'd rather sit in the meeting and argue why the rules should be changed. I follow the rules, why can't everyone else, especially when their negligence is affecting my ability to meet my expected rate of work? Grr.

On another note, Carlso and I had a long heart to heart talk and I kind of let it all out, but made sure to be very clear that these were MY feelings and not something I'm accusing him of. I think he understands a lot more now; why I am so frustrated with where we are, and mostly, why I was so frustrated on vacation with his family. Honestly, it's taken this long for me to cool down so I could really talk about it. I love WDW and tried to have fun where I could, but this was by far the worst vacation I've ever had. Not the worst possible, but out of all of mine, it definitely falls in last place. And I will never, never, EVER vacation with them again. The selfishness and rudeness is not something I can/will tolerate for two weeks on end.

Just a background note, this was my 4th Disney trip, but the third with his parents. So the first two years at Disneyland they were there, last year we went to WDW ourselves, and then this year they were there. And Carlos and I talked about how amazing last year's trip was compared to this year's. And we agreed that it wasn't the time either of us had expected or hoped for, and that we really just need some time away. ALONE.

SO......hopefully within the next month or so we are looking at taking 3 or 4 days to a cabin in the mountain somewhere or something like that, just to spend some good quality time together and enjoy each other's company, because life here is too hectic to be able to do that lately, and we really need it. So I'm really excited about that.

Okay so there's that part haha. Family-well-long story short I am really at horrible odds with them right now and my mom and I aren't really even on speaking terms. Thank goodness my brother is gone (not sure I shared that part-he had his sentencing and is in a halfway house for 120 days) or things would really be bad. I can't wait to get out of that house. All my bills should FINALLY be paid off by the end of this month, so I'm hoping sometime in Nov or Dec I can move out and get back to my life as it was before you-know-what hit the fan.

Sorry for the long vent--just needed to get some of that out; it helps to have people that aren't so close to the situation and aren't as judgemental about that.

I really truly hope everyone is having a fabulous morning!

 

[goofyfan-12]

Cathie - there will be times when you get frustrated with the process that is losing weight, but you can't let that own you. Changing your lifestyle takes work and unfortunately, it is not all easy - hello, I waffled for what a year trying to find the next gear to keep me moving forward. Heck - if this was easy, we would all be where we want to be already. Hang in there, keep pushing and you will get there. Don't give up on yourself so easily. Do you really want to go back to the old you?

 

[goofyfan-12]

WHOO HOO!!!! Just found out that I am off the hook for the cocktail party on Saturday so call of the dress hunters!!!! They oversold the event and couldn't get me a ticket. I am sorry I won't be meeting the group, but excited that I don't have to stress over finding / spending a fortune on a dress that I will likely never wear again.

 

[cathie1327]

Cathie - there will be times when you get frustrated with the process that is losing weight, but you can't let that own you. Changing your lifestyle takes work and unfortunately, it is not all easy - hello, I waffled for what a year trying to find the next gear to keep me moving forward. Heck - if this was easy, we would all be where we want to be already. Hang in there, keep pushing and you will get there. Don't give up on yourself so easily. Do you really want to go back to the old you?

I really don't, and I think that is what keeps pushing me forward when I do get so frustrated, is thinking about all the progress I've made in just changing my lifestyle and how I don't want to throw all that away, and the weight that I have lost, and how I don't want it back. I think my frustration comes more from the fact that I know I CAN do this. I know I can. I just let my excuses and things get in the way sometimes and I look back and go "why oh why did I do that and let that get the better of me?"

I actually started keeping a journal the last few weeks of those moments. When I get frustrated because of something I did, I write it down and how it made me feel. So the next time I want to make the same bonehead mistake I can look back and tell myself that I dont' want to feel like that again. By the same token, I started writing down the feel good stuff and how it made me feel, so when I need motivation, I can look at those and tell myself I want to feel that way again. Hopefully it proves to be a useful tool for me.

 

[cathie1327]

WHOO HOO!!!! Just found out that I am off the hook for the cocktail party on Saturday so call of the dress hunters!!!! They oversold the event and couldn't get me a ticket. I am sorry I won't be meeting the group, but excited that I don't have to stress over finding / spending a fortune on a dress that I will likely never wear again.

This is good news! Glad to hear the pressure is off I hate buying dresses and wearing them once and never again. Okay, so really, secretly, I love buying the pretty dress but then hate stuffing it into my closet never to be seen again, haha!

 

[3DisneyKids]

Hey Goddesses!

I have read and am up to date, though can't comment to everyone right now. Yesterday was my crazy Monday so I didn't pop in here. And of course, I have MIL drama that some of you know about (I have to fly her down to FL because she is too afraid to fly alone....long story short--It is going to be a huge PITA for me, is totally unavoidable, but at least I will be earning heaven points for it).

PAULA! A loss! Again! Holy crap, girl! Have I mentioned lately that we are luck to even KNOW you?

Lyz--I heart you. Word.

Liz--glad the week-end was awesome. Same goes for you, Nance.

Lisa--Post more. I love it when you are posting all the time. You crack me up and make me think all at the same time.

Kelly Bella--HI! Post more pics. I need and England fix, though I have no idea why.

Aim--race goddess, as always.

Cathie--ok, here goes. You didn't ask for my advice, but since this is that type of forum, I am going to give it anyway. There are lots of things in life that you can't control--you can't control Carlos' parents' behavior, you can't control if/when Carols will propose, you can't control your brother's substance abuse. But you CAN control what foods you put in your mouth. And you can control making exercise a priority. Let go of all of the sh*t you can't control and you will be amazed at how much energy you have left over to take care of that which is actually IN your control.

The other thing that has me concerned is that you mention how "hectic" life is. You go to school and you work. You have relationships in your life--some of which are rocky and some of which are solid, but all of which require maintenance to some degree. Honey, that is not hectic. That is just life. Everyone has that. And many people (even right here on this thread) have much, much more. Please don't think I am minimizing you--that isn't my intent. Actually, my intent is the opposite--to empower you. The stuff that you have going on is totally manageable. If you tell yourself that it is hectic and crazy, well then it is going to SEEM hectic and chaotic and unmanageable. If you tell yourself that this is all manageable, again, you will find that you have time, energy, and focus to manage it.

And I know I have harped on this before...but if this is what you consider to be hectic, then please, but the baby brakes on. Slow down, breathe. You can handle this--especially when you are able to see that in the grand scheme of things, this isn't hectic--just life.

 

[3DisneyKids]

Oh, and for those keeping count....10 days! I will start getting excited this week-end when I am within a week.

 

[SeptemberGirl]

Cathie - I think it's excellent that you are keeping a journal. Working things out like that is great. I wish I'd done better prep for my life at 24.

I got married when I was 24 going on 25, and ten years later, I can see where I had my eyes open and where I didn't. Mostly I didn't, so I don't have a lot of good advice for you. Unlike Paula or Erika or Kat, I don't have that work/relationship/weight loss balance thing down...I'm not a success in any of those areas. But I am getting good at not judging other people, and thus not judging myself so harshly. So that I can offer you. I'm listening to what you're saying.

 

[DisneyGalUK]

Hi Everyone!

Im finally back online, LOVING my new laptop!

Aimee - Great job on the race!

Paula - Simply awesome!

Kat - Hope today goes well

Cathie - First, sorry about the crappy saleswoman. I know what she said was awful but how about using it to your advantage - what made me get back ON was when someone congratulated my pregnancy. Yeah, not so much pregnant! So I took what she said and used it as motivation. Sometimes I think about going back and hitting her in the head, but mostly its motivation!
Second, I personally think you are being way too hard on yourself. Like Erika said there are things you can't control and things you can. And believe me, I hear you on the In-Law problems and I fully understand how stressful it can be but you can't control the things they say and do. What you can control is how you react to it. Be the bigger person, ignore what they say and do and when you're alone scream and curse them to get it out of your system

Kelly Bella--HI! Post more pics. I need and England fix, though I have no idea why.

Erika - Im in the process of putting my pink lady pictures on the computer, so to keep you going here is a photo of me drunk

It is POURING with rain here so not much walking has been done today, so instead I put some music on and had a little dance instead! I figured that if Im doing *some* kind of movement it helps!

Hope everyone is having a great day

 

[goofyfan-12]

Cathie - I think it's excellent that you are keeping a journal. Working things out like that is great. I wish I'd done better prep for my life at 24.

I got married when I was 24 going on 25, and ten years later, I can see where I had my eyes open and where I didn't. Mostly I didn't, so I don't have a lot of good advice for you. Unlike Paula or Erika or Kat, I don't have that work/relationship/weight loss balance thing down...I'm not a success in any of those areas. But I am getting good at not judging other people, and thus not judging myself so harshly. So that I can offer you. I'm listening to what you're saying.

Liz - I so get what you are saying. Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy in life. And you bring up a great point about the journaling. It is an excellent tool.

Oh and thanks for believe that I have this whole work / relationship / weight loss thing down. I really don't, but I am making progress on it. I am kind of like a duck swimming on a pond. Calm and cool image above water, but below my feet are kicking like mad trying to keep everything going.

BTW - it is Tuesday night and you know what that means... Tuesday Night Dinner!!! Should be fun.

Kelly - can't wait to see the Pink Ladies in action.

 

[3DisneyKids]

I don't have that work/relationship/weight loss balance thing down...I'm not a success in any of those areas. But I am getting good at not judging other people, and thus not judging myself so harshly. So that I can offer you. I'm listening to what you're saying.

First, you are a huge success in each of these areas. I will expand later. And you ARE being SO good with judgmental thing. I am not even close on that count.

 

[HockeyKat]

Guess I shouldn't have read that last article in my Elle and I'd have been the first and on top. Nancy - get to the gym.

I hate to break it to you, but for me the last post is always on top.

Good morning everyone!

So I'm really wondering when I am going to stop being so frustrated in life!

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I love WDW and tried to have fun where I could, but this was by far the worst vacation I've ever had. Not the worst possible, but out of all of mine, it definitely falls in last place. And I will never, never, EVER vacation with them again. The selfishness and rudeness is not something I can/will tolerate for two weeks on end.

I will write more on the first point after I quote the women who have said it better than me.

On the 2nd point, I couldn't agree with you more. I am glad that I had the family vacation with my husband and his family because it made his parents happy, but honestly, it was extremely challenging. I would go into more detail but well, they are his family and I hate to put too many details out there in public.

I do think that travelling in groups larger than you and your spouse (and potentially children) is always going to result in getting less of what you want. It is easier to compromise and still get most of what you want with one person, but throw in 2 more and everyone is all vying for their desires.

But, something I learned (and poor E is having to deal with this week as well)... when you marry someone, you are also marrying their family. It isn't right for them to disrepect you, of course, but it is something that you may have to deal with for the rest of your life with them. I am lucky in that my husband's family is in general very nice to me and are at heart good people, but they also come with a large set of challenges that only look to get worse as their health continues to decline.

I am trying hard to see that vacation as something that we could give his parents... a trip with us and the rest of their family that they will treasure. It sure is easier to do so now that I finally caught up on sleep!!

Hey Goddesses!

The other thing that has me concerned is that you mention how "hectic" life is. You go to school and you work. You have relationships in your life--some of which are rocky and some of which are solid, but all of which require maintenance to some degree. Honey, that is not hectic. That is just life. Everyone has that. And many people (even right here on this thread) have much, much more. Please don't think I am minimizing you--that isn't my intent. Actually, my intent is the opposite--to empower you. The stuff that you have going on is totally manageable. If you tell yourself that it is hectic and crazy, well then it is going to SEEM hectic and chaotic and unmanageable. If you tell yourself that this is all manageable, again, you will find that you have time, energy, and focus to manage it.

Amen. If you find a less frustrating life, please, tell me how. I will be 34 this year so I have 10 more years of frustration on you!!

I don't really have any advice on how to manage it, because honestly, it really gets to me sometimes too.

I will say this though... at work the best thing you can do is to just do your job and continue to follow the rules. If people are sitting in meetings complaining, well, that is them basically showing their a$$ to management. Just continue to follow the rules and if someone asks you directly how you feel, shrug and say I don't see what the big deal is, and go back to doing your job.

Unlike Paula or Erika or Kat, I don't have that work/relationship/weight loss balance thing down...I'm not a success in any of those areas. But I am getting good at not judging other people, and thus not judging myself so harshly. So that I can offer you. I'm listening to what you're saying.

Oh honey, really? Me? Success?? Over here gaining back 40 of the 60 lbs I lost, floundering in the hopes that the next two weeks will bode well for me and finally boost me out of peon-land, and with a marriage that, well, you were here last year?

You are such a success. Just a bit down right now. And remember, not alone.

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Well said Kat!!!!

 

[goofyfan-12]

You are such a success. Just a bit down right now. And remember, not alone.

Liz - listen to her. She and Erika are right. You are a success. Just need to give yourself permission to admit it.

 

[lisaviolet]

Cathie - I think it's excellent that you are keeping a journal. Working things out like that is great. I wish I'd done better prep for my life at 24.

I got married when I was 24 going on 25, and ten years later, I can see where I had my eyes open and where I didn't. Mostly I didn't, so I don't have a lot of good advice for you. Unlike Paula or Erika or Kat, I don't have that work/relationship/weight loss balance thing down...I'm not a success in any of those areas. But I am getting good at not judging other people, and thus not judging myself so harshly. So that I can offer you. I'm listening to what you're saying.

I have no idea what is making your brain irrational at this present moment. But I guarantee this post is Liz's brain on irrational speed. Guarantee you. EDIT: I know this because I know what that feels like. Pretty well.

I just got in - have not caught up - but this post made me flippin' angry Liz. You know in the WTH is going on way.

Opening up your eyes to issues is success. It actually is courageous and feeling. And you should be very proud of yourself Liz. My parents have been married 53 years Liz. Isn't that wonderful? (said with love and sarcasm). Yes, it is. However, they overlooked some things that shouldn't have been overlooked because they didn't have your courage - trust me. Trust me. EDIT: Love my parents and their commitment - just trying to make a point to Liz.

Deciding to look at changing your employment situation (changes because you have your work AND you're Emily's mother) in one regard because you feel like it is time for that is going for success. Success is just around the corner on that Liz. Why? Because you are so flippin' smart and skilled. And someone somewhere is chomping at the bits to add someone like you. They just haven 't met you yet and vice versa.

Not letting a temporary backslide in your weight loss journey take you down is success. HUGE!!!! Ummmm - huge. Not to mention the fact that you look fantastic and gorgeous regardless.

Okay - I'm finished.