In-Law Vent

[Buckalew]

There you go...fly Katholyn in.

I agree with Disney Doll's post. Find another alternative. I wouldn't ask them for help if it killed me. I am so stubborn. Trust me, I know what you are dealing with. I see it and hear about from my clients too.

Some grandparents are active in their grandchildren's lives and some are not. Some think they are... and are not. Too bad because when those children get up to the teen years they get busy with their lives and friends and don't want to go visit as much anyway. Then they're gone and those GP's never knew theur GC.
I am fortunate with the in-law dept. DH's parents would stop the world to be with Hunter. Now, my MIL is still carrying this on after FIL's death.

 

[pat fan]

I know what you're going through and it isn't fun.I'm sorry I can't offer you any advice except to make a back up plan NOW while he's healthy so you don't have to ask them again when he is sick ( he's a doll,BTW).

My youngest DS played baseball this year,hit a home run once,made the All Star team etc..but did they come to one practice or game?Nope.He was also the only 4th grader to be let into the Jazz band in the history of our school.Did they come to any concerts?Nope.My oldest DS is in plays every year and have they been to any?Nope.He was also in the band the last few years and as in a lot of concerts.Did they come?Nope.They made it to my neices riding lessons,though .Very exciting to watch a 3 yr. old go in a circle I guess.

You just WON'T change some people so don't even try.

 

[Dream]

Maybe Nathan will pick up that cute baby habit of blowing "raspberries" while your MIL is holding him this weekend....a niiiicccee juicy one!!! UGH....I know what you are dealing with Becka and I am hurting and seething for and with you!! MIL lives in town...will do ANYTHING for her other grandchildren (who happen to be boys) and has said( right in front of my sweet dd) that she is sooo glad she never had girls!!! I have put up with this and so much more for more years than I care to think about just to keep the peace in the family and out of respect for dh....until this summer. I put up with it no longer. I deserve to be treated at least with respect, if love is impossible as do my children. DH is like yours...won't deal with it because "denying" the issue means there isn't an issue. I should have stood my ground long ago. My advice to you is learn from my mistakes! Make your dh "see" and face his parents. Dont let this situation fester for years....Nathan comes first now. You have probably left already, but if it was me I would not go this weekend! Stand your ground and to heck with the in laws!!!! Good luck!!!!
Amazing how many similar in laws there are on this board! Hmmm....let's send em all on a nice long trip together! I know a train they can take.........heh heh!!!

 

[pollyanna]

On the other hand....many Grandparents feel overwhelmed with babies,esp a sick one. My Mom and MIL didn't babysit my kids until they were 2 or so,and it didn't make me feel they loved me,my DH or kids any less.

Comparing the two incidents really isn't fair.. they may have been concerned that BIL had a head injury...sometimes injuries are not evident until a day or so after an accident.

The best bet is to set up a "safety net" of available sitters for times when your baby gets sick.