I'm trying not to whine

[Deesknee]

Hi ladies and gentlemen,

I usually try to find the silver lining, but I am running out of lining.

Last year I started planning (on paper) DH and my 25th anniv. VR. Dh and I had discussed who to invite, where to have it, where to dine after, what to wear, how to incorporate our kids, all with suggestions from you all on these boards. Well in Sept dh was let go from his job of 23 years. Not that he messed up or anything, just that they were cutting jobs here and sending them "offshore". We really didn't think he would have that tought of a time finding a new job. With his experience, etc. So I continued to plan on paper, not making any reservations with DFTW yet. Now I am losing hope. The savings is dwindling and dh still has not found a job. I am really getting discouraged. Not just about the wedding. I don't want to have to even think about selling our dvc points let alone our home. We bought this house off my parents 18 years ago. It is the house I grew up in.
Sorry to whine. I am loving reading everyones posts, but I want to plan. (Yah, I know I'm a 44 year old spoiled brat, but I like it that way )

I know there are alot worse situations out there. We have had our share of medical scares in the past few years. I will continue to look for the silver lining. And continue to enjoy reading all your posts.
Thanks for letting me whine/vent.

I do enjoy sharing you folks happiness.

 

[dee slack]

Oh hun I feel for you so much. I can't offer any practical advice I'm afraid, but I'm sending you heaps of pixie dust (can't find the icon tho'!) to help you get thru' this.

 

[dmslush]

Don't stop planning! It gives you something to focus on. Sure, you may have to put the ceremony off a little while, but that just gives you that much more time to make it wonderful and special.

I know what it is like to go through a job loss and how it will just mess up everything. I was fired from my job at a domestic violence shelter last year because I was a whistleblower. It absolutely left me devestated and left my family devestated. I was lucky enough to get another job with the state as a case manager for children's services, but it was beginning to get a little bit scary! The one thing I kept doing was planning our vacations. I knew that I would probably have to move them around, but it kept me feeling like a 'real' person.

 

[Summer-Caitlin]

I like to believe that everything has a silver lining but sometimes it's hard to see. I understand you have so much going on right now and there is nothing I can say to change that, but try to think of this as a test, I don't believe we are put through anything that we cannot handle and we always come out stronger on the other side. I know it's tough, but there is always hope, never let go of that.
Please continue to plan, it's a joy and something for you both to look forward to. As you said you hadn't made any firm decisions yet, but you can still plan, and one day you will get to have your vow renewal.
Feel free to vent on these boards, I know I have when I've been having stressful times. Sending you loads of pixie dust

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

Dont get your hopes down just yet.

I can relate somewhat....DHs parents,brother & wife all moved in back in Nov...we were trying to help them out & didnt realize the expense it would be to us.
With the gas, electric, water, food & repair bills(dont ask) skyrocketing, DH has resorted to saying we really dont need the VR
So instead of me freaking out on him, I got down & dirty & started budgeting,BIG TIME.
So far things have been going great....I try & keep that positive outlook & dream big!!!

Try & stay positive for DH, he's probably pretty bummed that he hasnt found work yet....& it might pay of in the end...like maybe a DFTW VR!!!

Dont give up & never stop Dreaming Big, no matter what

 

[Janet2k]

I usually try to find the silver lining, but I am running out of lining...

Deesknee, my heart goes out to you. I, too, keep looking for the silver lining wherever I can find it. I’ll share where I found it today: click here.

I hope that brought a smile to your face. I love sharing silver-linings with my friends, even if that sliver-lining is found inside a box of Reynolds Wrap.

I agree with the others. Continue to plan, but make sure that you don’t get hung-up on a particular month or a particular year. No one ever said you had to have a vow renewal exactly on your 10th, 20th, 25th, or 50th wedding anniversary. You can have one at any time, heck, it doesn’t even have to be anywhere near your actual wedding anniversary.

I was toying with the idea of having an intimate vow renewal this summer (my anniversary is near Halloween). But real life got in the way and I won’t be having one after all. Maybe next year I will. Or the year after that. Or the year after that. It really doesn’t matter when it will happen, it simply matters that I know it will happen. My husband and I are stuck together for life. We’re not going anywhere. Well, at least not until my dad finally ponies up the money that he promised to pay Rick when he took me off his hands 23 years ago. But I don’t think my dad wants me back, so I don’t think Rick will be getting any money any time soon. So, it looks like he’s stuck with me for a few more years.

Hang in there. Vent all you want. But remember that the longer it takes for your vow renewal to arrive, the more stuff you’ll have stored in your bag of tricks. You might even be able to pull off a castle vow renewal. Wouldn’t that make everything worth waiting for?! ~Sigh~

 

[Deesknee]

Thanks you all are great.

Janet - that did make me smile.

All your posts help.

I really needed to vent. There is alot of other stuff with sick parents and stuff like that going on, but for some reason that was my happy place and it seemed to be eluding me. So thanks for the encouragement. I will continue to hope and save pennies. I am encouraging my DH.

Thanks again. I will keep in touch, and of course continue to read your inspiring wedding planning details.

 

[DisneyFairy19]

Hi

Thats what we are here for ... To hear if you need to vent, scream, complain all you want... Big Hug for you... SOmetimes we go through bumps in the road... But the Sun will shine down soon on you... I hope everything goes well... Good Luck

 

[Deesknee]

Thanks so much to everyone.

I just wanted to share a bit of good news. I hadn't posted, but I had a scare a few months ago regarding migraines and some other issues. Today I saw the neurologist and everything major is fine. A few pinched nerves, and carpal tunnel, but nothing major. Suddenly a postponement on VR is okay!

Thanks to everyone. I will continue to live vicariously thru you all until DH is employed again and we can begin planning in stone the celebration of our marriage.

to you all on planning your weddings/vow renewal/disneymoons!!!

 

[Maggimus]

Aww dont ever give up home! Things always happen for a reason and in the end it only makes you stronger. Continue planning-- this will take your mind off of the bad stuff right now. I hope things work out and your DH gets a great job soon! Saying a little prayer for you guys!!

 

[JonetteA]

Tons of pixie dust to you!!! Even if you have to put it off a year or so, it is still reachable for you!! My friend Lisa had to move hers as well and it did not have an impact on her event. She just postponed it 6 or 7 months. It was great b/c she spent even a little bit more time than she would have and that extra planning came off beautifully.

 

[Janet2k]

I just wanted to share a bit of good news. I hadn't posted, but I had a scare a few months ago regarding migraines and some other issues. Today I saw the neurologist and everything major is fine. A few pinched nerves, and carpal tunnel, but nothing major. Suddenly a postponement on VR is okay!

There you go again, finding that silver lining. I'm so happy that you're okay, Deesknee.

 

[Janet2k]

Suddenly a postponement on VR is okay!

Deesknee, since my VR is postponed, too, I was doing a little research tonight. I found a website with some beautiful photos of beach weddings. I now am re-thinking my future VR.

The beach at the Grand Floridian is glorious. I think it would be the perfect place to pull off an outdoor ceremony. And since my husband is pushing for a vow renewal in Hawaii, the Grand Floridian's beach may get him to re-think things. The Grand Floridian is, after all, his favorite resort. And since the Polynesian Resort is across the lagoon, he can "pretend" that he's in Hawaii.

I'm hoping he'll agree. And since time is on my side (meaning, I'm not sure when we'll have our next VR), I can work on getting him to think this was "his" idea.

Click here to see some stunning beach wedding examples, ~sigh.~

 

[Summer-Caitlin]

Desknee - I hear ya. I too have been suffering migraines since my fall in September and it looks like I will have to go in for a Cat Scan or MRI (or both) I am absolutely terrified, to say the least. I used to be a Nurse and I think that made me paranoid. I have thought the worse for many months now, it's a horrible feeling when you have no answers. I'm really glad that you have got the all clear. It's amazing how many things come into perspective when you have your health