I'm sick of being THE man!!!

[ekatiel]

I always clean up vomit and diarrhea..My DH uses the argument that " you are the nurse" which I guess since I do it at work I must have some sort of special skill involved.....But seriously, we both do our share.It doesn't bother either of us.My dog once partially killed a baby rabbit and brought its still writhing body into the house...DJ was at work, and I had to clean that up ..i was a wreck for weeks after that one.

My DH is the nurse (he's an NP now), and we seem to split the vomit cleaning 50/50, but one this he won't do: Petting Zoos!! I was PREGNANT with DS#2 and he REFUSED to go pet the goats with DS#1 at a petting zoo. I had to go pet the goats with DS. It's a good thing I didn't get some wierd pregnant lady goat disease ! --Katie

 

[marius97]

PS: Just one mouse in 10 years? I think you need to have a talk with that cat.

Yes, I'll have a talk with him. I'll tell him bad kitty today, but thank you so much for being good for ten years of no mice. He'll then get a big helping of kitty treats to encourage him to be good.

 

[smkiya]

I don't clean up vomit or kill bugs, either. However, almost everything else falls on me! I handle our finances, pay the bills, hire contractors, clean the house, do the laundry, schedule the kids' activities, birthday parties, playdates, doctors and dentists appointments, orthodontist, specialists, etc. I buy gifts for birthdays (including his parents) and holidays. I grocery shop - actually, all the shopping (we have a Target 5 minutes from our house - DH has been there twice). I take all of the pictures and videos. I put together their halloween costumes, make sure they do their homework, feed them 3 meals a day, clean up after dinner, load and empty the dishwasher. I make sure they shower and brush their hair and teeth.

I buy their clothes, and do all of the shifting of the bins when the seasons change. DH does take out the garbage and recycling, as long as I remind him. If I'm out of commission for even a day, my house looks like a tornado hit.

I love my DH very much - we've been together for 20 years - but sometimes it's tough being the woman.

I do ALL that, and work FT. DH complains when he 'forgets' to take out the trash, and doesn't understand why there's steam coming out of my ears when I come home from work and the tornado looks like it touched down twice. I once took a pic cause nobody believed me, and posted it on Facebook. His friends and family gave him a lashing, did it change.... of course not.

OP- Are you for rent?

 

[a1tinkfans]

Some times I get sick of being THE man at home. DW of 11 years won't kill bugs...okay, I can deal with that. DD7 gets the flu over the weekend. Throws up all over her bead...it smelled like chicken ceaser salad. I almost lost it too. I had to clean it up by myself. DW wouldn't go near the room. Last night, DS4 chokes on a partially chewed french frie. He didn't throw up, but hacked up the partially chewed frie. DW was with him and she said "good thing he didn't really throw up otherwise you (me) would be cleaning up two people vomit." WHAT??? This morning Casey the Cat killed his first mouse (doing pretty good because we made it 10 years without him killing one) and left it at my computer chair. DW wasn't home luckily, but I had to clean up the mess...and will NEVER tell her what happened. If one more nasty thing happens, I'm about to walk out the house and not return until she cleans it up. If I didn't lover SOOOO much, I'd have left years ago.

That concludes my vent for the day...you may now return to your regularly scheduled Disney World magic.

FAMILY LIFE, Gotta LOVE it!

 

[that's nice]

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Check out my siggie.

I second DisneyDaddy-O

Go there... NOW!!!

 

[JUJU814]

Some times I get sick of being THE man at home. DW of 11 years won't kill bugs...okay, I can deal with that. DD7 gets the flu over the weekend. Throws up all over her bead...it smelled like chicken ceaser salad. I almost lost it too. I had to clean it up by myself. DW wouldn't go near the room. Last night, DS4 chokes on a partially chewed french frie. He didn't throw up, but hacked up the partially chewed frie. DW was with him and she said "good thing he didn't really throw up otherwise you (me) would be cleaning up two people vomit." WHAT??? This morning Casey the Cat killed his first mouse (doing pretty good because we made it 10 years without him killing one) and left it at my computer chair. DW wasn't home luckily, but I had to clean up the mess...and will NEVER tell her what happened. If one more nasty thing happens, I'm about to walk out the house and not return until she cleans it up. If I didn't lover SOOOO much, I'd have left years ago.

That concludes my vent for the day...you may now return to your regularly scheduled Disney World magic.

This is wonderful news! Can I tell dh that cleaning up puke is the man's job so he has to suck it up from now on and do it? I had no idea men cleaned puke! He can barely take out the trash.

Here's a hint..I don't clean up the puke..I just throw everything away and buy new stuff. LOL

 

[MaumeeMom]

Eww! Sure, I would have cleaned up the mouse - by throwing out the chair. Yuck!

You live the life you make. I do all the "nurse" stuff in my house because that's my job. DH works FT & I take care of the home. We worked this out together as all couples should do. Do I get tired of wiping butts? Yep! Do I complain? Nope! That's life.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

My DH is the nurse (he's an NP now), and we seem to split the vomit cleaning 50/50, but one this he won't do: Petting Zoos!! I was PREGNANT with DS#2 and he REFUSED to go pet the goats with DS#1 at a petting zoo. I had to go pet the goats with DS. It's a good thing I didn't get some wierd pregnant lady goat disease ! --Katie

Well if your kid ever starts eating paper then you know why!

 

[Allisdad]

women should never clean the litter box ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE PREGNANT. it is bad for the baby. just my 2 cents. As for the rest my manly meter goes up when "my duty" is called upon. Cleanin vomit and dead animals are my super powers.

 

[mrodgers]

women should never clean the litter box ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE PREGNANT. it is bad for the baby. just my 2 cents. As for the rest my manly meter goes up when "my duty" is called upon. Cleanin vomit and dead animals are my super powers.

Yup. My wife wanted a kitten when we got married. I am "not fond of cats" to put it respectfully for you cat lovers. She wants a cat, she cleans the litter box. When she got pregnant, I wouldn't let her anywhere near the box and made sure it was always clean for her.

Dead animals, I have a very wild yellow Lab and an outdoor cat. I'm constantly cleaning up mice, chipmunks, birds, even squirrels now and then. It goes right along with cleaning up after the dog while out in the yard.

 

[Tweevil]

Wow.. I guess I am the man and the woman! Single mommy here and I get the great honor of doing it all......... it sucks sometimes. I even did it all before the one who wouldn't do it and I split...

Anyhoo - a small price to pay

I think it's great you help out. Kudos!

 

[bumbershoot]

PS: Just one mouse in 10 years? I think you need to have a talk with that cat.

I was thinking the same thing, but I would say "kitty, you need to EAT the mouse, and the *entire* mouse".

Sorry, grew up with outdoor, semi-feral, cats who came back every day b/c we fed them. They mainly ate their own caught food, but enjoyed the official cat food and the turkey pot pies as well.



OP, you made me want to thank my hubby! I'll kill bugs if he's not around, but otherwise he does it, even though he's Buddhist and part of him wonders WHO he is killing. OK who am I kidding? Probably 7/8 of the time he sneaks the creatures back outdoors unless I specifically tell him what I need done to the bugs. Hubby also cleaned up the rotavirus mess when DS was 1 and 2. I figured since I was the one nursing the kidlet ALL day long to make sure he was hydrated and got the good stuff to get him well again, he could deal with the dipes (we used cloth).

However, I am the one that gets thrown up ON...all but one time now (and that's only because hubby was closer, so he got it). Hubby could be holding DS for 2 hours, rocking, singing, comforting the sick kid...sick kid would ask for me, we'd transfer kid, and blorp, all down my back. Gaaaaah.

But still, totally thanking hubby right now.


mrodgers...

 

[amy_225]

I don't clean up vomit or kill bugs, either. However, almost everything else falls on me! I handle our finances, pay the bills, hire contractors, clean the house, do the laundry, schedule the kids' activities, birthday parties, playdates, doctors and dentists appointments, orthodontist, specialists, etc. I buy gifts for birthdays (including his parents) and holidays. I grocery shop - actually, all the shopping (we have a Target 5 minutes from our house - DH has been there twice). I take all of the pictures and videos. I put together their halloween costumes, make sure they do their homework, feed them 3 meals a day, clean up after dinner, load and empty the dishwasher. I make sure they shower and brush their hair and teeth.

I buy their clothes, and do all of the shifting of the bins when the seasons change. DH does take out the garbage and recycling, as long as I remind him. If I'm out of commission for even a day, my house looks like a tornado hit.

I love my DH very much - we've been together for 20 years - but sometimes it's tough being the woman.

LOL! Your husband of 20 years sounds just like my husband of 20 years! Even down to the trash - which he only takes out if I set by the door the night before AND remind him - sometimes he will just leave move it away from the door so he can leave without picking it up!)
He never goes shopping with me, food or otherwise. I do all the finances (he never knows even what's in the bank!), pay bills, doctor visits, B-day parties, clean all the messes in the house - yes, even his rolled up dirty socks that he refuses to put in the hamper, that I have to walk all over looking for! I have to do all the yard work, too - he doesn't mow, landscape, anything. Heck, if it were up to him we'd have six foot grass in the front yard by the end of summer, and it wouldn't bother him a bit! I think he changed two diapers between all four kids, if that (said he had a weak stomach and would throw up if I pressed the issue). I know how overwhelming it can get. If I leave town for a day, my house is trashed, too. He won't even take his plate to the sink and rinse it off - nope, just leaves it on the coffee table where he ate while watching TV!
It's SO annoying, but 20 years of nagging hasn't changed the man. At least he works hard at his job and brings home a paycheck, otherwise I don't know if I would've hung in there that long
Really, sometimes I feel like a single parent!

 

[mom2meiko]

OP - i'm guessing here that you really don't mind when one of those things happens but you've had a pretty tough time this week. i'm betting you are very much appreciated around home. my dh does a ton of the work around our house (including the yucky things like killing bugs and cleaning up the dog poop/pee/vomit) because i have back issues that limit my abilities. i don't always say it but i do greatly appreciate him - he rocks! i'm sure you do too!

 

[marius97]

Here's a hint..I don't clean up the puke..I just throw everything away and buy new stuff. LOL

I was tempted, but the entire house wouldn't fit in the trash bag.

 

[marius97]

OP - i'm guessing here that you really don't mind when one of those things happens but you've had a pretty tough time this week. i'm betting you are very much appreciated around home. my dh does a ton of the work around our house (including the yucky things like killing bugs and cleaning up the dog poop/pee/vomit) because i have back issues that limit my abilities. i don't always say it but i do greatly appreciate him - he rocks! i'm sure you do too!

Saying I really don't mind might be a tiny bit of a stretch...that implies that if I had a choice between going golfing and cleaning up vomit, I might actually choose the vomit. I so appreciate what my wife does for the family. Her 70 hours a week at a highly stressful job more than make up for her not cleaning the vomit.

I'll second the mention of women not cleaning the litter box. Our OBGYN said no women of child bearing years should do it. While I was cleaning out a particularly nasty box, I tried telling DW that it was just one big conspiracy of female OBGYNs so that they wouldn't have to clean out their own litter boxes at home. DW just gave me THE look and walked away.

 

[floridascgirl]

Whew...I stumbled upon this thread in the nick of time. I was contemplating divorce, but now I feel a bit better. It's nice to be reminded that there are others out there who have an unequal division of labor in their house, too!

Ooops...I gotta go fix breakfast, start the laundry and empty the dishwasher.

PS. DH is still sleeping.

 

[marius97]

Whew...I stumbled upon this thread in the nick of time. I was contemplating divorce, but now I feel a bit better. It's nice to be reminded that there are others out there who have an unequal division of labor in their house, too!

Ooops...I gotta go fix breakfast, start the laundry and empty the dishwasher.

PS. DH is still sleeping.

I'm not sure how serious your message, but I'll assume it is serious...
I think that is where the whole division (or lack there of) becomes an issue. In our situation, DW works her tail off and I take care of things at home. She appreciates what I do and I appreciate her for what she does. We give eachother hell sometimes, but it works well. I think people run into problems when they aren't appreciated. I know at the rare times that I feel slighted, it is easy to feel a little animosity boiling up.

 

[floridascgirl]

I'm not sure how serious your message, but I'll assume it is serious...
I think that is where the whole division (or lack there of) becomes an issue. In our situation, DW works her tail off and I take care of things at home. She appreciates what I do and I appreciate her for what she does. We give eachother hell sometimes, but it works well. I think people run into problems when they aren't appreciated. I know at the rare times that I feel slighted, it is easy to feel a little animosity boiling up.

Sorry for the confusion, my message was 99% in jest...that's why I put the at the end of my sentence!

For the record, my DH got up eventually and now he's under the house replacing a floor joist...and it was only on the fix-it list for 4 1/2 months.

 

[CLR4321]

My boyfriend will puke before he ever cleans any up. I get to do all of that fun stuff.