I'm really insulted!

[chris1gill]

You know, I am a bit mad. I shouldn't be & I should let this brush off my shoulders, but I am mad....

DH was speaking to another karate parent from our karate school over the weekend. They were down at Disney for the Tae Kwon Do tournament at Wide World of Sports...

Anyhow, DH asked him casually how school as going for his daughter.. you know, general sort of question... Then, this guy started insulting our school apparently, saying he would NEVER send his child there, that it would be like a PRISON SENTENCE with all the work... He felt this way because he had spoke with another parent who told him of the homework load.

I'm sorry, and this guy feel's he can just insult our school and our decision to go there because why? This guy really is a loon, I know that, but I am still MAD as a hornet... If he doesn't know what he's talking about he should just be QUIET...

DH thought nothing of the comment, I don't get that either

 

[AKLRULZ]

Let it slide - it's his issue not yours.

 

[sajetto]

I'm with your hubby

 

[alldiz]

Don't sweat the small stuff...
Many people speak because they like the sound of their voice
Kerri

 

[chris1gill]

Don't sweat the small stuff...
Many people speak because they like the sound of their voice
Kerri

You're right & this guy does like to talk, but he hit a nerve with this one... I'm glad I wasn't there to hear it, because I seriously think I would have slapped him upside his head

Usually things slide, but not this time

 

[N.Bailey]

I'm not really taking the comment as an insult. Only that he wouldn't choose the school because it's too much of a work load for him. That's certainly not saying the school isn't a good one. I'm guessing you're talking about the karate school and not your child's school, school?

Either way, it has the same meaning for me. I B'd, moaned, and complained the entire year my kids were in 6th grade because of homework overload. They're now in 9th grade and we've yet to have a worse year than the 6th grade. I certainly wouldn't be insulted if someone moved to the area and complained of work overload because their child just entered that grade.

 

[agnes!]

You know, I am a bit mad. I shouldn't be & I should let this brush off my shoulders, but I am mad....

DH was speaking to another karate parent from our karate school over the weekend. They were down at Disney for the Tae Kwon Do tournament at Wide World of Sports...

Anyhow, DH asked him casually how school as going for his daughter.. you know, general sort of question... Then, this guy started insulting our school apparently, saying he would NEVER send his child there, that it would be like a PRISON SENTENCE with all the work... He felt this way because he had spoke with another parent who told him of the homework load.

I'm sorry, and this guy feel's he can just insult our school and our decision to go there because why? This guy really is a loon, I know that, but I am still MAD as a hornet... If he doesn't know what he's talking about he should just be QUIET...

DH thought nothing of the comment, I don't get that either

Hahahahahahaha...you do know what is REALLY going on here don't you? He's speaking about himself and could maybe be jealous of anyone whose child goes to your school. Why? I don't know, maybe he's the kind of parent who lives through his kid too much.
This other dad could have said something along the lines of how well his DD is doing this year, how much she likes TKD, what a great kid *she* is, talked about the child, all sorts of positives. Instead, *he* chose to go the negative route and put down other people's choices, which when you think about it actually has nothing to do with his DD.
When I run into situations like this that get me upset (even if others can't quite see why), rather than getting my blood-pressure up?, it helps me to remember to not take the words/actions personally and to kind of shake my head and tell myself that the other person is probably "doing the best they can" (like when somebody cuts me off in traffic or pulls a boneheaded move in the kiss-&-drop line at school).
I'm with the PPs, words of wisdom from the DIS...
"it's his problem, not yours."
"Many people speak because they like the sound of their voices."
Take your DD out for some ice cream or a treat and make sure you tell her how proud you are of all her hard work this year.

agnes!

 

[chris1gill]

I'm not really taking the comment as an insult. Only that he wouldn't choose the school because it's too much of a work load for him. That's certainly not saying the school isn't a good one. I'm guessing you're talking about the karate school and not your child's school, school?

Either way, it has the same meaning for me. I B'd, moaned, and complained the entire year my kids were in 6th grade because of homework overload. They're now in 9th grade and we've yet to have a worse year than the 6th grade. I certainly wouldn't be insulted if someone moved to the area and complained of work overload because their child just entered that grade.

This was our actually school he was insulting! Our son is in sixth grade & I think this may be the most diffuclt year as it's just a big adjustment from when you were younger with less homework... I think the guy should have just kept his mouth shut if he had nothing nice to say I mean honestly what does he know about our school other than they give a lot of homework? Does he know any of the good and wonderful things that go along with it? Not likely, as he's too busy running his mouth.... I know I should let this go, but as you can see, I'm really just very mad.... it's so unlike me to be MAD....

Agnes, Thank you... I think your words make an awful lot of sense... I'll repeat them to myself to calm my ruffled feathers today..... thank you....

 

[Freyja]

I'm with your hubby

Me too! Can´t see anything wrong with this guys comments.

 

[Swimnoid]

People talk $%*! about stuff they dont know about all the time. Don't let it bother you. If it happens again just ask him, calmly, why he thinks that. And point out what you love about the school. We have a similar situation here with a sports program. You hear people say all kinds of stuff about the one program that just isnt true. You think, where does this person get off talking about something they know absolutely nothing about first hand. But if you get hot about it that is just one more negative thing they remember about it to tell someone else.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I'm with your hubby

Me too

 

[mickeyboat]

He's just running his big mouth! Don't be insulted, just remember he is a dork.

Denae

 

[N.Bailey]

This was our actually school he was insulting! Our son is in sixth grade & I think this may be the most diffuclt year as it's just a big adjustment from when you were younger with less homework... I think the guy should have just kept his mouth shut if he had nothing nice to say I mean honestly what does he know about our school other than they give a lot of homework? Does he know any of the good and wonderful things that go along with it? Not likely, as he's too busy running his mouth.... I know I should let this go, but as you can see, I'm really just very mad.... it's so unlike me to be MAD....

Agnes, Thank you... I think your words make an awful lot of sense... I'll repeat them to myself to calm my ruffled feathers today..... thank you....

Well, in all honesty, we were warned about the homework overload when my kids were leaving the elementary school. The teacher telling us had a daughter who had already graduated and stated, 6th grade was the worst year of them all. His words were VERY true (so far anyway). I'm not kidding you, we literally had 5 and 6 hours almost every night.

If parents talk to other parents from outside our district, I can believe someone would say that they heard how terrible the homework is in our district. I just don't take it as an insult. You know the man better than I do of course, so maybe he did mean more, but are you sure he wasn't just making conversation? It didn't seem to get to your DH.

 

[Serena]

May I ask why you care so much about his opinion? You don't do you? So don't give it another thought.

Just so you know. The thought of work actually scares some people.

 

[disneyjunkie]

I have to agree with your husband.

I think it's normal for parents to compare and comment on schools.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I would have probably opened my mouth (yeah, what a surprise, me open my mouth... ) and said something like, "Yeah, not everyone can handle the workload, but our daughter does a great job and it's not too much for her". I would have felt like saying, "It's probably best that your son is where he is", but wouldn't have said it.

But I try to look at the person when deciding if I should get offended. If I don't like them and have no respect for them, I don't really care what they say. If it's someone I do care about and respect, that's different.

 

[CEDmom]

I'm not really sure why you're insulted . It's not like he said he wouldn't send his kids to your schools because they're bad.

 

[chris1gill]

Hi Everyone, thank you for the input.... I guess what offended me most, was that he said sending kids to our school was like sending them in for a PRISON SENTENCE... it's something about using those words specifically, that I just find totally offensive. Neither of my children find it to be a prison sentence They enjoy being at this school.

I really don't care one hoot about this guy, he IS the type of person to run his mouth, he loves to hear himself talk. I'm considering the source, I'm not taking it personally per se, but there is so much good about our school, why did he feel the need to say what he said? He could have simply said he felt like it would be too much work for his child & left it at that, instead he went a bit lower than that.

Nothing bothers my husband, so I can see where he just let it go...

I'm sure by the end of the day I'll be over it, I'm already a little over it, I'll let it go, but I hope he doesn't say such a thing directly to me, as I'm sure I'd go up one side of him and down the other.... BLECH....

 

[alldiz]

Some people just love to hear their voice

If he says something stupid again....

I love "Didn't your mama teach you not to speak unless you have
something nice to say"
Kerri