I'm an indecisive lunatic

[latexscooter]

DH and I will be celebrating our 10 year anniversary this summer. We are planning a visit to WDW in June to celebrate. We've stayed at moderates, deluxe, values and DVC in the past - we've enjoyed them all. We decided to let DD7 pick this year's resort and she pick All Stars Movies. I want to say 70 percent of the time I'm happy with that decision. But the other 30 percent I want to change to AKL (the place of our favorite vacation) or Beach Club (because the pool seems amazing), WL (because my DH has always wanted to stay there), Poly (because I've always wanted to stay there) ... so long story short, I go on a crazed bend where I'm checking rates and availability and am about to change resorts before I take a deep breath and don't. Am I the only one that does this? Do you think I would do this if I changed resorts? What should I do? I'm like a pendulum swinging and I need someone to help to put this to rest once and for all.

 

[growinupdisney]

I'm doing the same thing right now....I'm actually considering doing a split stay at a value and AKL. It will also be my dh and I anniversary.

 

[Eeyore's-tail-tack]

What happened to letting your daughter choose?

 

[latexscooter]

What happened to letting your daughter choose?

That's exactly why I haven't done it just yet. But I need another person to remind me of that. The terrible thing is I know I can talk her into any resort if I need to but I don't want to go there.

 

[Horizons16]

One suggestion if you stay with ASM is to ask for a top floor room close to the main check in/bus stops/food.

As it is a value resort you see lots of family with younger kids and sometimes they can act like kids (go figure) and jump around with excitement. You can hear that pitter patter sometimes.

We almost always stay at POP and as long as we are on the top floor we love it. The space does get to be a touch small for a family of 4.

 

[livvylivvie]

What happened to letting your daughter choose?

Who's Anniversary is it? Just sayin....

Its Disney... Your daughter will love were ever she stays.

 

[Kim1964]

I had a similar issue last year. I had chosen the hotel for the first part of our stay, and left it up to the kids to choose the other. They chose CSR, which I was fine with at first but then I got it into my head that I'd like to try a Kidani villa. DD#2 will stay anywhere and would have been fine with the change, but I knew DD#1 would be upset if she felt her opinion (which I had asked for and said I would book her choice) was being ignored. I mentioned it to her, told her that she'd have her own bed instead of having to share with her sister, and asked what she thought. She was adamant that she wanted to stick with CSR, so we did and we loved it.

I think because you asked your daughter what she wanted, it would be nice to stick with her choice.

 

[latexscooter]

Who's Anniversary is it? Just sayin....

Its Disney... Your daughter will love were ever she stays.

And that's exactly why I'm so indecisive! My DH and I have always said we'd have our 10 year anniversary at WL or Poly. BUT our daughter is the light of our life and what REALLY makes us a family. That's what makes it so tough. We spend out honeymoon at POFQ so there is some nostalgia there too. Ugh! I'M SO UNDECIDED.

 

[latexscooter]

One suggestion if you stay with ASM is to ask for a top floor room close to the main check in/bus stops/food.

As it is a value resort you see lots of family with younger kids and sometimes they can act like kids (go figure) and jump around with excitement. You can hear that pitter patter sometimes.

We almost always stay at POP and as long as we are on the top floor we love it. The space does get to be a touch small for a family of 4.

We did book a preferred room so I know we'll be close to the main hall. The chaos is what does make the values a concern for me. The one issue I've always had is the lack of consideration for others as the result of unsupervised kids. So if I do keep this reservation I will definitely be asking for a third floor room.

 

[latexscooter]

I had a similar issue last year. I had chosen the hotel for the first part of our stay, and left it up to the kids to choose the other. They chose CSR, which I was fine with at first but then I got it into my head that I'd like to try a Kidani villa. DD#2 will stay anywhere and would have been fine with the change, but I knew DD#1 would be upset if she felt her opinion (which I had asked for and said I would book her choice) was being ignored. I mentioned it to her, told her that she'd have her own bed instead of having to share with her sister, and asked what she thought. She was adamant that she wanted to stick with CSR, so we did and we loved it.

I think because you asked your daughter what she wanted, it would be nice to stick with her choice.

Kim, that does it, I'm sticking with my reservation! You are absolutely right. If I do anything I'll add one or two nights at another resort.

Thanks for the understanding feedback.

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

There is also much benefit to doing what Mom wants to do. You and your husband were a couple long before the kid, and will hopefully be so years after she is long moved away. You get one 10th anniversary, ever. Spring for a resort you and your DH love. There will be other, kid oriented trips. This one ain't it!

Children need to learn they are not the center of a family. They joined one.

 

[MYD714]

10 years is something to celebrate, so I think that you should treat yourself. It's noble to let your daughter choose, but I think you should make it about you this time. You deserve it. Treat yourself.

 

[sunshineNJ]

If you can afford it I would do the BC. Your daughter will love Strom a Long Bay. Show her pictures of other resorts. If money isn't the issue I would go deluxe. Have a great trip!!

 

[habg1]

Depending on how many days you're staying, do a split stay. Best of both worlds. You'll make your daughter happy and yourselves.

While I haven't stayed at WL or Beach Club or AKL (yet), I have stayed at the Poly.

Pool is wonderful, as is the view from it. Monorail is a great advantage.

Good luck picking.

My daughters (11 & 12) are happy where ever we stay. They're at Disney!!!!

 

[photobob]

Your daughter will be happy where ever you stay, you are at Disney World!! I'd say try some place you've never stayed. If you've never stayed at BC, it is a great resort and area even if it didn't have SAB! Walk to Epcot, short boat ride to DHS!

 

[CampbellScot]

Who's Anniversary is it? Just sayin....

Its Disney... Your daughter will love were ever she stays.

I completely agree!!! There is not one single thing wrong with you choosing the resort. You are at Disney! Your daughter will be happy no matter where she stays. It sounds like you are leaning toward Deluxes and if I were you and could choose between All Star Movies and the Poly...I'd take the Poly hands down without question. My step kids would choose All Star Movies as well b/c they love the huge characters all over the resort. They aren't thinking about the size of the rooms or the transportation or anything that adults tend to factor into resort choice. This is why my husband and I make the resort choice. Being cramped and crammed into a value room with two kids is not OUR idea of a fun vacation and we need to be factored into the decision as well. Oddly enough the kids manage to have just as much fun at Wilderness Lodge as they would at ASM...AND they sleep better in their own comfy little bunk beds. Win Win!!!

 

[midnightlouise]

Kim, that does it, I'm sticking with my reservation! You are absolutely right. If I do anything I'll add one or two nights at another resort.

Thanks for the understanding feedback.

I agree with the pp about the split stay: go where your daughter chose part of the time, then as you mentioned, do another few nights & stay where you want to.

 

[mickeyluv'r]

I agree with the posters who say it's important to respect your daughter's opinion. This is one week of your life that will be fun no matter where you stay; her respect will last for years. It won't ruin her if you change this one time, but she will likely remember it. There may come many more times where you have to let her down, it's wise to minimize the times you do it purely for choice. You realize you could be teaching her that you don't respect her opinion, right? I'm a little surprised by the number of folks who are advising you to ignore her request. This isn't just about parenting, but how we should treat others in general.

I'm not trying to be mean, but hopefully you've learned a lesson. If you aren't certain you want to let anyone else make a choice for you, then it's better to avoid setting up the situation this way. It's better to tell others that you aren't certain, may over ride their suggestion, but want to hear their opinions. That way you have an out up front. Personally, I really hate it when someone I know well tells me they want me to decide for them, then ignore what I tell them. I hated it as a child, and I hate it as an adult.

On the other hand, I think a split stay would probably be fine. I suggest you present it to her in such a way that you assure her you'll like her choice, you will do her choice first, but would also like to take her to see a second resort as an additional treat.

Last - not trying to be mean- some people continue to feel unsure about their choices right up until the last minute- IF they let it happen. I rarely feel that way myself, but if I find that if I start to feel that way, I just tell myself there will be another opportunity, and I quickly begin working to make that second opportunity happen. Instead of being caught in a negative cycle - it puts me in a positivie frame of mind. I've already got a way to look forward.

 

[Cinderella's slipper]

And that's exactly why I'm so indecisive! My DH and I have always said we'd have our 10 year anniversary at WL or Poly. BUT our daughter is the light of our life and what REALLY makes us a family. That's what makes it so tough. We spend out honeymoon at POFQ so there is some nostalgia there too. Ugh! I'M SO UNDECIDED.

I'm wondering if you couldn't reach some compromise with your daughter to allow you and your husband to pick the resort and agree to letting your daughter pick the activities for an entire day from breakfast through to collapsing at the end of the day. In that way you and your husband can celebrate your happiness and your daughter can enjoy the fun of being in charge for the day.

For me, if cost is not an obstacle I would choose the Polynesian Resort - the atmosphere on the grounds is terrific and the night time view across Bay Lake of Cinderella's Castle, and Space Mountain is wonderful. The rooms are generously sized and comfortable

Here's some pixie dust as you make a decision for your family's Magical Vacation.

 

[shan136]

As a mom of an only somewhat spoiled child, I could easily see myself in this position. Who would think that with all of these wonderful choices that a child would pick (IMO) the least desirable hotel!

I suggest a couple of solutions. 1. Sell your child on a different hotel. Pick a specific one that you want and show her pictures of each and talk about the "cool" things that are only at this hotel. Then pose the question to her again. If she still picks all stars then go to solution 2. The split stay.

You only celebrate your 10th anniversary once, so its important to be satisfied with your choice, but I suspect that unless you get agreement from your whole family you will not be happy with your final choice.