If you're not married by 28 ....

[Maleficent13]

So what does it mean if you were married before 28, but are now divorced and over 28? I prefer "sexy divorcee" myself...

 

[Serena]

Originally posted by Maleficent13
So what does it mean if you were married before 28, but are now divorced and over 28? I prefer "sexy divorcee" myself...

sounds good to me.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

What if your 28 and have been married and divorced already?

Hmmmm. I'm almost 28. I will probably never be married again. I will probably never have children.

Despite that, all in all, I'm pretty content with my social life. I think this article is downright silly.

 

[Tinks]

I got married at 23. My DH is 5 years older than I. We bought a house several months before our wedding (but did not live together!) and when we went to sign the papers, I was a spinster ! How's that for a shock! Spinster at 23! LOL

Needless to say, DH and DBIL had a good laugh!

 

[dianeschlicht]

It is certainly true that marraige age varies by local and generations. My grandparents were married when Grandma was 16 and Grandpa was 21. That was back in 1922. My parents were both 22 when they married, and DH and I were 22 and 21. Now days, it seems most are waiting until they are 25-35 to marry. Our 35 Y/O DD and 29 Y/O DS are both still single.

BTW, between my grandparents, parents and us, we have a total 140 years of wedded bliss!

 

[Towncrier]

Lenox is such an authority on the subject.

Maybe. But what does the American Greeting Card company have to say on this subject?

 

[chrissyk]

Originally posted by JayCT
Among professional people in the Northeast, I think the trend is wait to marry and have kids until your careers are established. I have noticed that there are a LOT of older parents around our town, including DW and myself.

I totally agree! My neighbors and I call it the "Massachusetts Family Plan," LOL! We joke that it's illegal in MA to have children before you're 30. Most of my friends were in their very late 30's/early 40's before they even though about having kids. On the plus side, insurance companies in MA are compelled to cover fertility treatments. Maybe that's why nobody worries about waiting so long for marriage and kids here

My grandmother recently told me that she was an "older mother" by the time she had her second child. She was 26!! I'm not kidding That was considered an "older mother" 50 years ago. She must think that I'm going to be a geriatric parent because I'm 30 and still waiting to have a child

 

[jrydberg]

Bah! Do what makes you happy and don't worry about what anyone else thinks!

 

[ebaynut31]

If your not married by 28, you were smart! Life is too short to be tied down. Enjoy it and get married later if you find it. I am in my 30's and am the happiest I have ever been and more financially stable. I am a single mom who never married. And proud.

 

[Shelle&Dave]

Oh no! I turn 28 on Saturday! I'll have to tell my Fiance he'll be marrying an old maid! (BTW he is 42...if I'll be an "old maid" what does that make him?)

Michelle

 

[JessetheCowgirl]

I hope not! My cousin (30) is starting to lose hope, I think.

By that age, I was celebrating 7 years with DH!!

 

[Towncrier]

Originally posted by Shelle&Dave
Oh no! I turn 28 on Saturday! I'll have to tell my Fiance he'll be marrying an old maid! (BTW he is 42...if I'll be an "old maid" what does that make him?)

Michelle

I believe that would make him a cradle robber.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Former old maid here.

I was married at 31 and had kids at 33 and 35.

My mom was 28 when she was married in 1949 and had her kids at 32 and 35. Must be a family trend.

 

[danacara]

I'm 24, been with the same guy 4.5 years, and have absolutely no plans of getting married anytime soon. I relate totally to the Northeastern mentality ... what's my rush? I kind of like living on my own, spending my money however I want, not having to answer to anybody.

 

[SpecialK]

When I was 34, they came out with that study that if a woman was still single at 35 she had a greater chance of getting hit by lightening than of getting married....A man was considered to be single by choice at 35, whereas a woman of the same age was only single because something was wrong with her and no one wanted her.

I ended up geting married at 37. If I had married any of the bozos I stupidly dated in my 20s, I would be SO divorced now.

 

[theSurlyMermaid]

These surveys are really irritating. Do what you want to do on your own good time. And times have changed.

When I met DH at 25 (he was 24), after our first DATE, my mother commented over the phone, "Maybe this one will marry you." Hello?! I was in law school, doing my own thing and making a future for myself, whether or not it included a man.

DH had it much worse, though. His relatives (all from rural Tennessee) were so confused as to why, at 24, he wasn't married or engaged. In fact, after he graduated high school the comments started.

We married when I was 28 and he was 27. Guess I just managed to get it in under the wire.

Please.

 

[castlegazer]

Originally posted by disykat
Lenox just wants to do anything to encourage people to marry young and maybe even often! They have a vested interest.

Yup, because when you're young you're love struck stupid and want to get all that really expensive china without thinking about how you are going to use it, dust it, store it and basically never use it again. My registry didn't include an overabundance of china - I was married at 29, had a house, and knew I would not be throwing 12 person dinner parties any time soon.

 

[princess pooh]

I guess I can tell my bf that there's no rush to get married since I'm an old maid anyways . I better start stocking up on cats though.

When the time does come I'll definately think twice about registering for anything from Lenox

 

[Chicago526]

Hmmm...I'm 28.....


Well, BF and I will be married before I'm 30, so that's fine.

My SIL married my brother at 31 or 32 (I can't remember her exact age). She's 38 or 39 now, and has two beautiful boys, a job she loves, and is going back for her Masters degree. It's never too late!

 

[Margie J]

Yup, because when you're young you're love struck stupid and want to get all that really expensive china without thinking about how you are going to use it, dust it, store it and basically never use it again.

This reminds me of two friends, fresh out of College, who got married. They registered for all sorts of fancy crystal and china. On my first visit to their apartment they had a closet full of all their wedding gifts, still in boxes. Yet, they didn't even have a toaster so the new Bride made toast in the oven!



Surveys such as these seem biased to me too. I haven't even heard the term "old maid" used for many years at least not in the Northeast.