If your son (approaching teens) wanted to pierce his ears, would you let him?

[Minnesota!]

I would DEFINITELY allow it. I would take him. Such a small battle. Will probably be sick of it before too long and they close up. I pierced my own ears (3 in one, 5 in the other) with a needle and ice cube. Never had any infections. But, easier to just do it with a "professional"

 

[Pam]

I would DEFINITELY allow it. I would take him. Such a small battle. Will probably be sick of it before too long and they close up. I pierced my own ears (3 in one, 5 in the other) with a needle and ice cube. Never had any infections. But, easier to just do it with a "professional"

Totally OT - but do you have a Madison update? How is she doing????

 

[mickeyboat]

If your son (approaching teens) wanted to pierce his ears, would you let him?

I would not say a categorical "NO." If he was over 15 or so, I would probably make him wait a while and really think about it before he did it. If after that he still wanted to, I would let him.

Denae

 

[Minnesota!]

Awww - Pam! Thanks for asking!!

She is doing WONDERFUL! She will be 8 in June (remember, she wasn't supposed to live past 5!), and is in 1st grade. Her tumor did come back (again) a few years ago and they had some touch and go moments. The tumor is now on the base of her brain - at her spinal cord. Surgery isn't an option b/c of location, and she has had her "lifetime dose" of radiation/chemo so that wasn't an option. Last April, she underwent something called "Cyber Knife" (I believe) that is a very centralized treatment - only works ON the tumor, not the surrounding tissue and the rest of her body.

Anyway, the tumor started to grow and change after that. She was put on steroids and this poor girl has just dealt with SO much in 2005. She swelled to almost 70 pounds (she is VERY petite normally - usually just under 40#). Her hair has grown back SO nice and thick (if I can get my scanner working I will share a pic). Anyway, she had an MRI in November, I believe and the tumor seems to be DEAD and just filling with liquid, which might cause some issues for a bit, but then will shrink and dissolve. So, the cyber knife did it's job! She is a smart little cookie - SASSY as a TEENAGER, though! Man!

But, she has beat all the odds and I believe she will continue to do so! Thank you so much for asking!!

 

[CookieGVB]

Nope. No cell phone either. Bad Mom!!

 

[mickeyfan2]

I am ok with things that are not premanent, but permanent must wait until they are adults and paying their own way (not living in my home).

 

[mickeyfan2]

But, she has beat all the odds and I believe she will continue to do so! Thank you so much for asking!!

This is great news.

 

[laura001]

I would not let my son have a pierced ear at that age, he is 17 now and I still wouldn't let him. If he wanted to have it done now I would tell him he can wait till he moves out, then he is on his own. I don't think I have to worry about it, he is a chicken when it comes to pain!

 

[CamColt]

My oldest is 9 so as of now I would say nope, not until hes 18. However I know things change when the kids get older and you have to pick you battles. However the youngest I could see me allowing it would be 16...but Id still like to think Id stick with 18.

 

[foolishmortal]

I would. My brother got his done at 14 and it only lasted a year at the most before the fad passed and he got over it.

The fad passed? Hmm I got my ear pierced when I was 15 (oh 15 years ago cough cough), and I still know guysolder than me, my age & down to 10 with them....didn't know it passed? smart *** I know I am sorry but it was not a fad that passed. Maybe you meant to say the novelty wore off for him?

 

[foolishmortal]

I would. My brother got his done at 14 and it only lasted a year at the most before the fad passed and he got over it.

The fad passed? Hmm I got my ear pierced when I was 15 (oh 15 years ago cough cough), and I still know guysolder than me, my age & down to 10 with them....didn't know it passed? smart *** I know I am sorry but it was not a fad that passed. Maybe you meant to say the novelty wore off for him?

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Yes I would let my son do it at that age. My son turns 10 next month and said a friend of his got pierced, so I asked him if he wants it and he said no only because he thinks it will hurt. So once he is ready I will let him. Also when it comes to getting a body piercing I will also let him to that as well. See I have 3 body piercing (not including ears) and a couple of tats (getting a new one tomorrow) so I know first hand the risks, but also how to avoid them and get them done right, so I would rather know what is going on rather than say no and find out later after I take him to the doctor for infections (or worse).

Piercings close...no big deal...the tat part he has to wait until he's 18....but any good tat parlor will not work on minors anyway without consent. So I have told hi if he wants a tat he can get 1 before 18 on a non-visible part (upper arm, back, etc...), but once he's 18 he can get it anywhere as long as he is buying.

 

[dizagain]

No, not a pre-teen...wouldn't like it at any age and DH would absolutely DIE if the idea ever even came up! We only have DD's, though, so I guess I can't really say what I "would do", but I believe I'd say no for sure until age 16 or so.

 

[EthansMom]

I had my ears pierced when I was 8 -- no big deal.

I would let both my daughter and son have one hole pierced in each ear when they ask for it. I don't see any reason to have a double standard with regards to the kids. However, other body piercings and tattoos are not acceptable until my kids are paying their own bills.

 

[CraftyMouse]

I had asked my boys (back when they were 12 and 13) if they had any desire to get an ear pierced after two of their friends did. They said "NO WAY!"

My DS10 feels the same way. We are friends with a family where all three sons (and their DD) have their ears pierced. The 14 and 7 yo boys each have one ear pierced but the 11yo has both ears pierced, as does their DD. The 7yo wants to get his other ear pierced but the 14yo doesn't.

Personally I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. If DS wanted to have it done I'd be okay with that. The fact that he doesn't want it done is just fine by me too. I agree with the poster who said you have to pick your battles. This wouldn't be one I'd bother to fight.

 

[luvmydogs]

No, I wouldn't. And as for the reasons why/reprocussions if he did--Mary Jo took the words right out of my mouth.

 

[MoniqueU]

No way!

 

[minkydog]

We vetoed DS19 getting his ear pierced when he was a young teen because we felt he had not thought it through. He was not very commited to personal hygeine at the time and I felt it was a health issue for him. He ranted and raved and threatened, but ultimately did not go against our wishes.

Last year he left home at 18 to travel the world with Disney On Ice. He was an adult, so he could finally pierce away. He went to a tattoo parlor up in Connecticut to get a "cool tattoo." After watching how they did it, he decided that they "didn't have any cool tattoos" after all. He returned home tattoo-less, with ears intact and that is the last we have heard about piercing.

 

[puffkin]

NO! I would not allow it as long as they live under my roof. Nor a tattoo. They can do what they want when they support themselves.

I hate all forms of jewlery on men except watches and wedding bands. And don't even get me started on my hatred for tattoos!

 

[WIcruizer]

I agree with the poster who said you have to pick your battles.

I don't agree with picking battles. My house, my rules. We have rules and will battle on every one of them if necessary. But here's the thing. Our kids know the rules, and know we won't cave. So they really don't get upset over any of them, because it's just a given. Parenting shouldn't be a negotiation, it is a dictatorship. And again, I don't think ear piercings are a big deal for boys, especially if they're 16, 17 years old. I just don't see why a 10 year old needs pierced ears. Not the end of the world, but we just prefer not to have our son be known as a rebel (no matter how minimal) at that age. Clothes, haircuts, jewelry, etc. all snd a message to other parents, teachers, etc. and we jsut decided "no."

 

[WishingOnAStar]

Nope, no ear piercing for our son until he moves out.

As far as allowing it b/c if I don't, he may use an unsterile needle...................... that falls under the same category as allowing them to drink/get drunk at home so they don't experiment away from home or allowing them to have sex in the house so they don't do it in some sleezy place.
Sorry, but there are rules and you will follow them or you will move out and be responsible for yourself. We will not allow things so that the "just as/or more unacceptable" doesn't happen. I just don't see the logic on that one.