If you have a daughter, would you EVER....

[ckay87]

...just drop her off at some boys house and leave???

My DS13 has recently taken a REAL liking to girls. He's on I think his second "girlfriend" (note the quotes) He likes to have them visit, of course, and I like to have them visit also. We have a small house and I'm very nosey - it works out well

But with both of these girls, he's invited them over and the parents just kind of drop them off and drive away. Last night this latest one came over and I went to poke my head out to say hi to dad/mom or whoever the chauffeur was and they're cruising down the road already. They didn't know if DS has parents home or what. They don't know DS at all for that matter . Don't you think that opens the door for ALL KINDS of potential trouble? I just think it's so weird. I will continue to happily host my kids little get togethers, serving lemonade with a smile on my face and my ear to the ground.

Oh...and not to mention I had no idea when/how these ladies were going to get home!

 

[preshi]

Not on your life! Some parents just don't want to have any responsibility for their kids anymore! Thankfully you were home and are a proactive parent. Kids do sometimes lie about parents being home This day in age you can just never be too careful! Agh! People never cease to amaze me!

 

[swanmom]

Here's the long answer to your questions................nope. Not under any circumstances. End of story. SHEEESH. It's amazing that this question even has to be asked.

 

[mommytotwo]

NO WAY. At that age, they may seem young for certain activities, but you need to keep an eye on them. You never want certain things to happen while you are not supervising them.

 

[agnes!]

NEVER.

agnes!

 

[RitaZ.]

I have a DD (8), she is my youngest child. I like to check things out: the parents, the house and their environment. My kids' well-being is way too important to me to just drop them off at a stranger's house.

As for the parents just dropping off the girls... How is that any different than just picking a random house and dropping them off there? At least, I would come to the door, introduce myself, chat for a few minutes while you check out the parents and house , get their phone number if you don't have it (you never know).

 

[paigevz]

I don't do that with my son. I tell him I have to meet the parents and talk with them for him to go to their house at all. In fact, I know one of his friends' parents pretty well, and they've spent the night back and forth. He wants to spend the night at the child's other home, with the father (parents are divorced). I haven't met the father, so I say not until I meet the dad. For some reason, dad never has the time to meet me. Son still hasn't stayed over there.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Nope!

At that age I asked all kinds of questions. And not just if my child was going over to the house of someone of the opposite sex. We also walked them to the door if they were going to a party if we didn't know the family well. Or we at least called first. Once we got to know them a little better we loosened the restrictions some, but I wanted to make sure that the other family has similar values first.

 

[Serena]

No way, no how.

 

[Stacerita]

He** no!

 

[PooohBear]

My DD 12 has lots of friends, males and females, I have dropped her and friends off at boys houses BUT I know the parents and the child of anywhere she goes, if I don't know them personally, then she is not allowed

 

[ozarkmom]

Nope I have a daughter and the answer is NO WAY! It's kind of funny though my 14 ds has a new girlfriend that I had never met. Last week he wanted her to come over and swim. I don't know her or her parents which around here is unusual. We live in a small town and I know most of the kids and their parents. Anyhow we're going to swim at our cousins house which is right around the corner from us and my ds asks can she come over and you drop us and a couple other kids off? There's no one home on this particular weekend I've got their youngest ds and the answer to that was no. My ds can't believe it she's going to think I'm a baby. Well I talk to this girls mom and after a long conversation she agrees to bring dd over to swim but I will be there at all times. It seemed perfectly normal to me that this mom was concerned and wanted to meet me and know that I was going to be there.

 

[N.Bailey]

Not here either. Unless you and I were very close friends, I wouldn't be dropping my daughter off at your house even if I knew you'd be home the entire time. The truth is, so many parents don't get involved and unless I really knew you, I wouldn't know to what extent you'd go to to make sure they stayed out of trouble.

I have a 14 year old daughter and a 15 year old son. They pretty much have the same friends and they look out for each other. In all honesty, we are the neighborhood hang out. I make sure none of the kids go too far when they're here. I'd imagine it would be difficult if you've got 6 kids (sometimes more) in a room anyway. They might get away with spin the bottle, but that's about it.

 

[lucyanna girl]

No, I would not.
These are the same parents who will wonder why their daughters are pregnant in a few years.

Penny

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

No way in Hades would i ever be doing this. No matter if it's a boy or girl. I will be right at that door introducing myself and after i've introduced myself each time i dropped her off i would go to the door, just to make sure there are parents home and to let them know when i plan to return!!

I speak form experience i was embarresed many a time by a mom just like this!! but nothing bad ever happened to me!!

 

[munchkin bunchkin]

NO WAY!!!

 

[ckay87]

Thanks everyone - that's what I thought. I kind of expected to be flamed for being too nosy or overprotective, to be honest. For so many years DS has had the same circle of friends. All of us parents knew each other, so we did get to the point where we could drop & run. We knew they were safe and they knew where to find us. Now DS is "expanding his horizons" socially. I believe it's good for him - better than the alternative - but I'm feeling more overprotective now than when he was in kindergarten! There is so much trouble to get into when you are but 13.

OT, but what's really funny is that, living with 2 sons and a husband, I am used to being the only chick around, you know? The boys had boy friends. I'm even a cub scout leader. Now there are these other female creatures hanging around and it's surprisingly strange. Even vacuuming the pool, there was this big wad of hair and I'm like

 

[momof1princess]

lol, not on your LIFE! my DD had better not even ask such a ridiculous thing of me, b/c it'll just make me all the more determined to find out everything i can about her friends, boyfriends and their families, etc. my child doesn't go anywhere that i don't know the parents personally.