i want to ask my aunt for a date

[Kat77]

Some serious qeustions for the OP:
How many people live in your township?
Is it only accessable by ferry or plane?
And are you related to the majority of them?

it seems to me that 90 percent of you think you have a perfect life. Im glad for you i hope your life remains perfect. at one time i thought my life was perfect.

OP- I never gave an opinion since my questions went unanswered.
If you live in a small township, where you are related to just about everyone and it is common for relatives and friends to date within the same circles, then go right ahead. BUT please wait for the divorce to be final and do not impose yourself into other parts of this womans life to make her dependant on you first. That's just damn creepy! The fact you mention these tactics and being fearful she will meet someone before her divorce goes through is giving many of us the impression you might need some therapy. I can understand not wanting to be alone but desperation gives everyone the heebie-jeebies (even online)... be prepared to be turned down if you make a move. You do not sound like you are in an emotionally healthy place right now even though you may be a fantastic person normally. Your aunt is definately not in a place where she can begin a healthy relationship. If she accepts your advances right now, she may resent it in the long run. She needs time.
If you live in an area where you can meet people by putting in effort than you need to leave this woman alone and date outside your social/family circle. Find a dating website if you don't do the singles scene well.

 

[minkydog]

Say, has anybody seen Monkeyboy

 

[shouldiask]

Absolutely agree with this. Think of the families for instance that have members serving abroad in the armed forces?

yes and think of the family members that lost loved ones there

 

[Kat77]

Say, has anybody seen Monkeyboy

 

[hereyago]

I did go to high school with a girl who was how you say: like a door knob, everyone's had a turn, she did get engaged to 2 brothers obviously at seperate times, but eewwww. So if this is aunt is the girl I knew-does the aunt live in Missouri? cause that is where this girl is now? She would be all for it, she also would sleep with her boyfriends friends, but that was back in the day when std was just a shot of penicilin away

Oh wait, i know another one who was with this guy, for whatever reason still not sure moved in with his male cousin, then bam, marries him. but they live here in Va.

 

[RayaniFoxmur]

This entire thread... this whole thing... is just so beautiful.

I'm getting a little teary eyed here hold on.

It's like a beautiful belated Christmas present with a gorgeous bow on top.

You almost don't want to open it and then you do and it's that one present you then talk about for years.

brb breaking out the popcorn!

 

[hereyago]

This entire thread... this whole thing... is just so beautiful.

I'm getting a little teary eyed here hold on.

It's like a beautiful belated Christmas present with a gorgeous bow on top.

You almost don't want to open it and then you do and it's that one present you then talk about for years.

brb breaking out the popcorn!

 

[LondonUnderground]

This entire thread... this whole thing... is just so beautiful.

I'm getting a little teary eyed here hold on.

It's like a beautiful belated Christmas present with a gorgeous bow on top.

You almost don't want to open it and then you do and it's that one present you then talk about for years.

brb breaking out the popcorn!

 

[Princess Row]

I have to say I have read these posts from start to finish, I have been reading them from when they first started. At first I wasnt sure if this was a true post or not. Either way here's my opinions. Familys are already messed up as is, even without divorce there is complications. Realtionships often ruin all of that. If you plan to keep her in your life at all don't ask her out, you will probably stay alot closer to her.
Being a 16 year old who's parents separated before I was born, and my mom just divorcing my stepdad, dont put your cousins through that. Blood related or not putting young kids through that is terrible. When their older, they are not going to want to look back at fact their cousin asked out their mother during their teenage years. Sorry.

 

[tinatark]

I know everyone's insinuating that this is a "southern situation"... but I'm thinking the OP is from up north... there aren't many "townships" in the south. I think some in Louisiana, but none I am aware of in TN, FL,GA, etc...

 

[pixiechick]

it seems to me that 90 percent of you think you have a perfect life. Im glad for you i hope your life remains perfect. at one time i thought my life was perfect.

perfect? nah, but pretty good.

I'm unclear how dating a relative is a factor in determining how perfect one's life is, however.

 

[S. C.]

I know everyone's insinuating that this is a "southern situation"... but I'm thinking the OP is from up north... there aren't many "townships" in the south. I think some in Louisiana, but none I am aware of in TN, FL,GA, etc...

You never seen me insinuate that. A few is not everyone.

 

[LondonUnderground]

This isn't a 'southern situation'. js.

 

[DisGirlAllie]

You never seen me insinuate that. A few is not everyone.

I don't think they directed it at you.

And I think she meant some people, not literally everyone.

 

[Funball]

is this post for real? why would you want to date a relative? i'm just saying cause my relatives are nut cases!!! ..

 

[KellyNY]

OP, I posted before about my experience of being asked out by not blood related relative after his divorce. If she is anything like me, well there is a huge possibility she will not want to speak to you after that. If you trully like/love her, help her out. Do not ask her to move in, help her find place to rent, lend her some money, take her animals but do it because you want to help, not because you will expect her to pay with her affection. If at some point you will feel that she is falling for you, open up, but not untill you have green light.

 

[Tikitoi]

Guess you forgot about capitalization since then, huh?

Hm, I guess grammar and spelling weren't in the curriculum?

That's all you could come up with.

 

[Tikitoi]

OK, the fact that they have kids make this sound creepy.

But this sounds even more creepy.

I could ask her to move in with me not letting on that I like her. they are losing their house either one of them is not going to be able to keep the house they are so far in debt. they are filing for bankrupty (sorry i know its spelled wrong) she will have to rent a house or apartment. I live in the same township that she does. that way the kids will be able to go to the same schools. theres not too many houses for rent in the township. Than I could slowly start coming on to her.

 

[CajunDixie]

This thread is hilarious!

Ok OP here is my opinion: Don't ask her out and don't move her in with you. You'd be the "rebound" man and she'd regret it and dump you!! Give it a year or two or ten!!

 

[bdcp]

im a factory worker. but i probaly make more than most of you. 26.21 an hour. when bush was in office two years i made over 100 most of the time it was in the 90's. since obama has been in it its been in the 80's alot less overtime. so what is wrong with my grammar is it because i dont captialize my i's?

Nope, you don't make more than me. But, that has really nothing to do with all that is wrong with your posts. Lack of maturity is the major factor here.