I Turned A Friend End Today Did I Do The Right Thing?

[disneydance]

Ok so the backgroud information the friend is here if you want to read it...
http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2172335
So this friend attempted suicuide last night
No adults knew about it and by 5th period when she told me about it I was like I got to tell a adult
So we had it all on paper since we write notes back and forth in class...
I didn't know what to do because she told me she was going to reattempt it tonight, because it didn't work last night
So during this conversation I was attempting to see if another friend could see the note hinting to her that she needed to see it now
She grabbed it thinking she could grab it right in front of the other friend which made this friend mad
She grabs it back and we go back to our conversation
So at the end of class once this person had left I bring the note to the other person and say do you think I should turn this into our teacher she goes I don't know let me read it...
So she does and then gets help and says to our teacher that she needs to come over here immediately she reads the first line and knows exactly what it is...
She says to me can I keep it, I was like yes
She then tells me she's bringing it to the counsellor here in a moment so I was like ok...
So wait till 6:00 tonight
I went on Facebook for a minute and this person opens chat with me
She says
Who has the note?
I was like me
She's like who has the note?
I was like me Why?
Then she informs me that she was in the counsellors office for 2 hours her parents came she got her room tooken away, her cell phone, her mom is going to sleep on the floor next to her etc. etc.
I then just flat out tell her it was me and another person who told on her
She then says
I F$C%I* hate you
Then she goes who else told on me?
I was like I'm sorry but that's confidental
She then say it to me like 3 other times
She then told me she was never talking to me again she hates me etc...

Did I do the right thing telling on her I feel like a jerk now but I didn't know what to do...
I think I'm going to go to that teachers in the morning tell her what she said to me and ask if she will move me for now...
There's only 3 and 1/2 more days left but I have a feeling these days are going to be quite interesting...

 

[imabrat]

yes you did.

 

[♥disneygirl♥]

yes you did.

I agree. Yes, she absolutely hates you right now, but in a way you saved her life, ya know? In time she'll hopefully realize how good of a person you are for keeping her on track and not letting her do something awful.

 

[DramaQueen]

Better she's alive and hates you than not around at all right?
You certainly did do the right thing.
She'll realize that eventually. And it may be looooong time from now, but she'll realize she should thank you.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

You definitely did the right thing! You just saved another person's life. I think that's worth that person not liking you for a while, but they'll appreciate it after a while. Just give it some time.

 

[disneydance]

Thanks everyone
I think I'm going to talk to the counsellor about it tommorrow to see if there is a way to treat this situation
Also I'm going to be speaking to the teacher I gave the note to
Since she will most likely be fried by that student also tommorrow...

 

[Tinkerbell63]

You definetely did the right thing

 

[WDWtraveler27]

of course!!! u saved her life...one day she will thank u

 

[I Am What I Am]

Don't feel bad. You did the right thing.

 

[ginnygirl102]

I don't think you should feel shame whatsoever! You did the exact thing I would have done. I mean all of my friends know I can keep a secret so I have a lot of people confide in me but if anyone told me they were going to attempt suicide and I couldn't convince them otherwise I would tell someone. I applaud you for doing the right thing even though it was very hard for you

 

[pigletgirl]

Yep, you did even if it was a hard thing to do.

 

[Cinderelli16]

You did the right thing! You should be very proud of yourself.
Yeah she hates you for now, but later on she's gonna thank you for saving her life.
It's a difficult situation, but you did the right thing.

 

[CrazyChik]

Yes.

 

[AliceinHalloweentown]

I'm going to say yes, yes you did.
It's a tough situation to be in, I've put others in that situation, and have been to the counselor's office. (Although I was less serious... no attempts, anyways)

Eventually the hurt and anger goes away, even the complete mortification will die down. It doesn't take long for a person to realize that the person that turned you in actually cares about you... and for some reason that helps.

 

[TinkerTracy]

You did the right thing and that took a lot of courage. So good for you

 

[katief_madhatter5]

Ok so the backgroud information the friend is here if you want to read it...
http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2172335
So this friend attempted suicuide last night
No adults knew about it and by 5th period when she told me about it I was like I got to tell a adult
So we had it all on paper since we write notes back and forth in class...
I didn't know what to do because she told me she was going to reattempt it tonight, because it didn't work last night
So during this conversation I was attempting to see if another friend could see the note hinting to her that she needed to see it now
She grabbed it thinking she could grab it right in front of the other friend which made this friend mad
She grabs it back and we go back to our conversation
So at the end of class once this person had left I bring the note to the other person and say do you think I should turn this into our teacher she goes I don't know let me read it...
So she does and then gets help and says to our teacher that she needs to come over here immediately she reads the first line and knows exactly what it is...
She says to me can I keep it, I was like yes
She then tells me she's bringing it to the counsellor here in a moment so I was like ok...
So wait till 6:00 tonight
I went on Facebook for a minute and this person opens chat with me
She says
Who has the note?
I was like me
She's like who has the note?
I was like me Why?
Then she informs me that she was in the counsellors office for 2 hours her parents came she got her room tooken away, her cell phone, her mom is going to sleep on the floor next to her etc. etc.
I then just flat out tell her it was me and another person who told on her
She then says
I F$C%I* hate you
Then she goes who else told on me?
I was like I'm sorry but that's confidental
She then say it to me like 3 other times
She then told me she was never talking to me again she hates me etc...

Did I do the right thing telling on her I feel like a jerk now but I didn't know what to do...
I think I'm going to go to that teachers in the morning tell her what she said to me and ask if she will move me for now...
There's only 3 and 1/2 more days left but I have a feeling these days are going to be quite interesting...

You did the right thing. Trust me. I have a friend who tells me that constantly about how depressed he was and how he cuts himself and wanted to die. It began to really bother me to the point I was having panic attacks. So, the last time he told me things like that, I threatned to call the cops on him. He stopped and I felt better. Later he told me how he hated it that I cared about him and that made him not want to do it.

Anyway...after typing that story that probably has nothing to do with this and you probably don't care, I just wanted to say...you'll feel better and your friend is alive.

The end.

 

[tower_of_terror_luvr]

you did do the right thing. She may not realize it now but one day when she has a husband and kids she will be thankful you did.

 

[♥Ariel♥]

you absolutly did the right thing, and hopefully in the long run she will thank you.

 

[froggy5657]

No doubt you did the right thing.

 

[princess.chell]

Yes you did. And I know how you feel.
Two years ago my best friend told me she was cutting herself and wanted to kill her self. I told no one and tried to help her. But nothing helped. So I told my other best friend who told me I had to call the girl's mom. And I did. I felt better. But then the girl called me screaming at me, telling me she hated me, everything your friend told you. We had been best friends since the second day of kindergarten and now she hated me. I felt terrible. But I knew I did the right thing. Her parents got her professional help.
Time passed. One day, she came back to me. She told me she was sorry about yelling at me, she didn't hate me, apologizing for everything. Things were back to normal. Unfortunately, we go to different high schools now and have drifted apart. We talk about once a year at our high school's football game though.

So moral of the story is...you did the right thing.