I thought I had a problem before...

[la79al]

I was having difficulties trying to figure out how to allow my sister to join us on our June trip. Well we just got back from dinner (me, DH, DStepS and DStepD) and now I have real problems. Our trip is booked, our ADRs are made, and DStepS has announced that he does not want to go to DW....He was holding out for Jamaica and we told him tonight that Jamaica is out because his sister is too young. So we hinted that maybe DW was in the plans. He said he doesn't want to go. And while DStepD has been begging to go, she would be just as content going to the beach for a week. We can't really take just DStepD because of ongoing custody issues but we are putting off working on a baby until we get back from DW so this is going to be our last DW trip before DStepS is an adult (planning on several babies, close together). DStepD is totally into princesses, has a Tinkerbell room and everything so I don't think it's very fair to not take her to DW one last time. DStepS is not saying I hate DW or anything like that and when we went in 05 he liked it so do we just go ahead with the trip as scheduled????

 

[shellytc]

i don't know how old DstepS is, but it sounds like he is thinking if he holds out, you guys might change your minds and go to the beach. Just laugh, tell him "good try", but this is where we are going this year. and look for things that are interesting to him to engage him. Maybe plan a day at a water park and let him choose blizzard beach or typhoon lagoon.

Good luck,

shelly

 

[Schmeck]

If he's old enough, maybe he could do the 'learn to surf' lesson at Typhoon Lagoon?

 

[Mickey'snewestfan]

I'm curious -- if DSD is old enough to be talking about the trip, why do you figure she's not old enough for Jamaica?

I felt like my son was old enough for a family beach vacation long before he was old enough for Disney -- but that's just me.

If DSS vastly prefers the beach, and DSD would be equally happy both places maybe you should consider it? Or at least do a combo vacation -- a couple days at WDW and then a couple days at Cocoa Beach?

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Please don't take this as being rude because I'm not trying to be but why does your stepson get to decide where you vacation? Why doesn't his father just say that this is where we are going and that's it? I guess I'm just a little old school. I would have been thrilled with any vacation with my parents. How old is your stepson?

 

[disneymom3]

My biggest question is how old are each of these kids and do they live with you full time?

If you want to go to WDW than that is the decision basically. Could you work Universal into your plans? Is DS old enough for the stuff there? I like the water park suggestion above. Of course you want to have a good time and for everyone to be happy but I don't think that requires letting the DSS dictate what you do for vacation.

 

[karibritt01]

I would insist he go on the family vacation as you have planned it. At 10, he shouldn't be allowed to dictate schedules, or ruin the family plans. That being said, I would play up the things he could do. Maybe you can take DSD to CRT for a princess breakfast, while DH and DSS rent Sea Raycers or go to Disney Quest for the AM. The water park is another good suggestion. Many boys his age think they are to old for Disney, which may be part of his issue. Others just want the power over the situation. By giving him some power, and some 'older' choices, you will relieve the tension. Promise to consider a trip to Jamaica at a later (undetermined) date.

 

[becca011906]

the kids ages are in her siggy, the dstepS is 10 and dstepD is 5 ... I'm not much help, i think more info is needed... why can't you go to wdw when having kids??? I went 5 months pregnant and with a 12month old, would have went with a 3 month old if i had the chance! LOL

 

[laceemouse]

Yep, we didn't let babymaking stop us from going. I have been in early pregnancy, late pregnancy, and with all ages/stages of babies, toddlers, kids, and now teens! Has stepson been to WDW? How does he know he won't like it? Sounds like a power play thing, personally glad I never had to deal with steps and ex's. Maybe his mom is behind this?? I also agree that maybe a WDW/beach combo would work.....

 

[disneymom3]

the kids ages are in her siggy, the dstepS is 10 and dstepD is 5 ... I'm not much help, i think more info is needed... why can't you go to wdw when having kids??? I went 5 months pregnant and with a 12month old, would have went with a 3 month old if i had the chance! LOL

Well, shoot! You are a lot more observant than I am! At ten, he gets a lot less consideration than say if he were 16. Sorry, but that is just me. At 10 he gets to go wherever you decide he is going. Now, doesn't mean I would not be trying to make it fun for him and find some cool things to do like watermice, waterparks, DQ etc. but heck there is plenty for a 10 yo to do as far as rides etc.

I too have been to WDW with a baby. IMO the very best age to take them is when they are 2. Well, 5 months and barely over one worked well too! What I like about two is that they get the magic of it all, love the sights and sounds, but they are FREE. I love that part!