I Think I Must Be CRAZY

[PoohPrincess76]

Ok, a little background. My ex-husband and I seperated 8 1/2 years ago. Our DD is turning 10 in January. My new DH and I are taking DD on a suprise birthday trip to DL and DCA the week before her birthday. The ex and I have always been able to get along well (don't get me wrong there are days I want to throttle him, but, we make it work for DD). I talked to my ex to let him know about the trip and the party the following week for DD (I will have her for 2 weekends in a row, might interfere with his tim). I hung up feeling bad that we didn't invite him. I called DH and talked to him about moving our room to a 2 room suite and having the ex join us. Would split hotel costs, food for DD and gas down. It would also be great for DD to have her 3 parents together, and DH and I could slip away for some "us" time too. Now I am wondering if I am nuts. We haven't attempted to vacation together before, just dinners and parties...What do you all think? Am I nuts?

 

[momma leaps]

Ok, a little background. My ex-husband and I seperated 8 1/2 years ago. Our DD is turning 10 in January. My new DH and I are taking DD on a suprise birthday trip to DL and DCA the week before her birthday. The ex and I have always been able to get along well (don't get me wrong there are days I want to throttle him, but, we make it work for DD). I talked to my ex to let him know about the trip and the party the following week for DD (I will have her for 2 weekends in a row, might interfere with his tim). I hung up feeling bad that we didn't invite him. I called DH and talked to him about moving our room to a 2 room suite and having the ex join us. Would split hotel costs, food for DD and gas down. It would also be great for DD to have her 3 parents together, and DH and I could slip away for some "us" time too. Now I am wondering if I am nuts. We haven't attempted to vacation together before, just dinners and parties...What do you all think? Am I nuts?

I think it would be great for your DD to have her Dad there. But I would ask him to book a room of his own. I think sharing accomadations with your EX and your current DH might be a little awkward. Just my thoughts.

 

[TheDisneyTraveler06]

My thoughts in blue.

I think it would be great for your DD to have her Dad there. I totally agree! That's great! But I would ask him to book a room of his own. I think sharing accomadations with your EX and your current DH might be a little awkward. This is my opinion, too. I just think it would be a little awkward for all 3 of you. Just my thoughts.

 

[PoohPrincess76]

We booked a 2 room "suite". 2 rooms with 2 queens in each. Just a joining door for DD to go back and forth.

 

[salmoneous]

Give yourself a gold star for even thinking of this - here's hoping it works out. The only thing I would worry about (assuming nobody throttles anyone else) is DD's expectations. Gotta make her understand this is an unusual event and that her dad won't be along on most trips.

 

[kelleigh1]

My very first trip to Disney was:

Me
Younger sister and her boyfriend (now husband)
Older sister and her husband
Niece and nephew
Older sisters ex and his girlfriend (now wife)


People thought we were nuts! But we all had a good time with very few and very minor incidents.

If you have a good relationship with him and you think it will work out, go for it.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I think it's sweet of you! I don't think you are crazy at all. You thought of your ex-DH's feelings and sharing your DD's birthday. I second that gold star!

I hope it all works out great!

 

[pigletz]

My parents have been divorced for over 20 years but have remained friends. My dad went to WDW with us several years ago when we took a trip to visit my brother when he was stationed in Georgia. People thought we were crazy but it worked for us. He has also been on trips with my mom and stepfather to visit my brother at other times.

 

[PoohPrincess76]

My parents divorced when I was very young and always HATED each other and spoke very bad about the other in front of me. Made me feel like less than crap. When ex and I decided to divorce I swore no matter what I would never do that to my DD. We have been able to work past alot. We were young and dumb when we got pg after dating for only a month and got married for DD. DUMB reason. We are ok friends and do well for her. I really don't think there will be issues, and if there are, DL is a big park, we can split up!!!

 

[disykat]

I thought the same thing as others. Working it so you could be together for dd, nice idea, adjoining rooms, crazy.

 

[Disneyland1084]

No you're not nuts. I think it's great if your ex comes along. That's something my family would of done when I was younger. My parents divorced when I was 15 and remain close friends. He's even good friends with my step-dad. I know it's unusal and you don't hear about it often, but that's probably for another thread.

 

[PoohPrincess76]

I remember a family I used to babysit for, the dad and step-dad would go hunting together. The first time I met the dad he was sleeping on the couch. That was a bit much I thought at the time, now I get it. I don't think my ex will sleep on my couch anytime soon though.

 

[hlbtimes2]

I remember a family I used to babysit for, the dad and step-dad would go hunting together. The first time I met the dad he was sleeping on the couch. That was a bit much I thought at the time, now I get it. I don't think my ex will sleep on my couch anytime soon though.

I've got a good one- my sister let her ex and his new wife and baby move in with her and the kids. She lived upstairs with the kids, and the ex and his new family lived downstairs. It only lasted a couple months- but it was very odd.

 

[ceiligh1]

I think it will mean a lot to your DD. My DH has only 3 memories of his parents togeter in any form- his graduation from high school, college graduation and our wedding. All of them were strained even in the photos you can tell. If you can go and everyone can have a good time you will be teaching your child how to be adult and that both her parents love her. Good for you.

 

[Freyja]

I think you must be a unbelieveably loving and caring mother and a very unselfish Ex.