I see my lawyer this morning, finally

[Pete's Mom]

I have been there and done that.

Best thing to remember is that your attorney is an attorney, not a psychiatrist, so try to stick to the facts and not get too emotional. I know that is easier said then done, but it will save you a lot of grief and money in the long run.

Good luck and God Bless You! You WILL get through this!

 

[Tuffcookie]

Serena, You will be just fine...I can tell it! Do like I do, tell yourself, someone has to be the designated grown-up, so I guess it's me! Hugs and prayers...
TC

 

[helenabear]

Wishing you all the best. Stay strong... I know you can {{{hugs}}}

 

[shep]

Good Luck & (((hugs)))

 

[Poohbear123]

Best Wishes and {{{HUGS}}}!

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Serena, we are all with you in spirit. Good luck.

 

[Serena]

Thank you all, I can never find the words to express how much you have helped me.

The thing is, my heart isn't breaking anymore for him. I don't know what is wrong with me, I'm sure it should be, but it's not.
He hasn't been able to give me what I needed for a long time. The emotional attachment hasn't been there.

I have loved him and I'm sure I still do in a way, but it never was the kind of love that I hear about from some of you. Some of your stories blow me away. I never had that. I think we loved each other, but we weren't "in love" ever. I've taken care of the girls and myself and everyone else all by myself for a long time.
He slept in the same bed, but for days, weeks, sometimes longer, that's it, I never saw him in daylight.
The only reason I am stalling is financial and the fact that he is happier right now than I've seen him be in a long time. I am afraid that when I do file, the dad that my girls are seeing and having fun with, will get angry and he'll be gone again. My girls need him, whether they admit it or not. He hasn't been a daddy to them in a long time. This last month since he left he's been a better person for everyone.

I don't want him back. We aren't good for each other. I'm not even angry anymore, I'm not sure I ever was, except for the betrayal.
I may be crazy, but I really am okay.

I've got other worries, but I'll deal with them in time.

 

[scarlett873]

i know that this isn't easy for you...i came to a similar realization myself last year. and it broke my heart at first, but it was the best thing that i could do for me...

hang in there...

 

[bigsis1970]

I hear you totally.. my Ex and i are better off now then ever - much better friends then anything else .. stay strong and we are always here for you..Michelle