I really didn't need to know that.....

[ozarkmom]

I don't really like facebook but I finally got it to keep in touch with a few old friends and a couple of relatives. I've accepted some people I probably shouldn't have just so I wouldn't offend them lol. I'm astonished at what kind of things people put as their status. I was reading one this morning and it was painful. He's in basic and apparently everyone is letting him know that his wife is not being faithful. I'm going to hide his posts. Really though I can't imagine playing your personal life out on fb.

 

[It'sWDW4me]

Why do people post private stuff/conversations on Facebook? I really don't want to see your lovey-dovey comments back and forth on my page when I open it. That especially goes for my ex husband(of 11 years) and his new sweetie. He has 900 "friends" and they all have to read their little schoolgirl/schoolboy comments. Well, I guess they don't have to, but they are right there in your face.

I know he knows how to send a private message, because he sends them to me. Poor woman, she has no idea that he is always like this when he starts a relationship, but after 6 months or so, she will be poorer and wiser, LOL. Just ask me, his second wife, and the 5 or 6 other women he has been with between us. He is a master at playing the game. I can only imagine what she has been told about us. Plus, he is such a winner, living with his mom and paying child support on two children with two separate women I guess there is a fool born every moment........

Oh, and no I am not jealous. I have had my chance to take him back between every two relationships, including his last one. I am just too smart now to even consider it. We have a civil relationship for our DS's sake. He is a good dad, but a terrible boyfriend/husband.

Marsha

Wow! Except for the "he's a good dad" part, your ex sounds just like mine! Oh, yeah, mine is also a pathalogical liar!

I'm not on FB but I would so most definitely not "friend" my ex.

 

[krcit]

I'm suprised that so many people are suprised that OP is 'friends' with her ex. Can't people who used to love each other enough to get married and have children together be friends?? I know it is not usually the case but my brother and his ex are very good friends(IRL and on FB) Sometimes marriages fail for whatever reason and the couple can move past it esp. when kids are involved. I guess that's the exception and not the rule though but it sure is nice for the kids.

As for what people post on Facebook Some of it is CRAZY!! I have blocked a few people but for the most part my friends are pretty normal. I did laugh the other day though when someone posted something and ended it with...'please don't post any comments, this is an inside joke.'

 

[lovesmurfs]

Savvy facebook users know ...

OT question from someone totally not savvy -- is there a way to untag a photo without having to ask the person who tagged it? I'm very careful not to have my photos on FB or the Internet, and it really bugs me when someone tags my name on their photos, and those pictures appear on my FB page.

 

[ogreenlee]

OT question from someone totally not savvy -- is there a way to untag a photo without having to ask the person who tagged it? I'm very careful not to have my photos on FB or the Internet, and it really bugs me when someone tags my name on their photos, and those pictures appear on my FB page.

yes, you can untag your photos by clicking somewhere around your name, i believe.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

if he is your ex why do you have him as a friend?

I have an ex-boyfriend as a friend. He doesn't even live in Florida anymore and we only dated for 2 months (and he's gotten married since we dated) but we've been friends for about 5 1/2 years and he still texts me some mornings just to say "good morning."

 

[OK!]

OT question from someone totally not savvy -- is there a way to untag a photo without having to ask the person who tagged it? I'm very careful not to have my photos on FB or the Internet, and it really bugs me when someone tags my name on their photos, and those pictures appear on my FB page.

Yep...you can get to the photos you've been tagged in and click the one that you don't want to have associated with you. Once it is displaying in its own page (not the thumbnail within the photo album), there should be a little link below the photo with your name and an option to remove the tag. I had to do that once with a SO not-flattering pic a friend posted of me from years ago. Blech.

ETA: And I'm friends with 3 ex-boyfriends and a couple of guys I only dated a few times. I don't see anything strange about it. It's a nice way to sort of keep in touch without having to exert a lot of effort, which is good for me because I'm inherently lazy. lol

 

[SC Minnie]

OT question from someone totally not savvy -- is there a way to untag a photo without having to ask the person who tagged it? I'm very careful not to have my photos on FB or the Internet, and it really bugs me when someone tags my name on their photos, and those pictures appear on my FB page.

Yes you can untag yourself. You can also set your privacy to allow no one but you to see photos on your profile that you were tagged in.

 

[lovesmurfs]

Yep...you can get to the photos you've been tagged in and click the one that you don't want to have associated with you. Once it is displayng in its own page (not the thumbnail within the photo album), there should be a little link below the photo with your name and an option to remove the tag. I had to do that once with a SO not-flattering pic a friend posted of me from years ago. Blech.

THANK YOU! I'll work on it tonight!

 

[OK!]

THANK YOU! I'll work on it tonight!

No problem! I found out myself by frantically clicking around in a blind panic after seeing that awful pic of me. There were some people I definitely didn't want seeing that!

 

[torinsmom]

It IS amzaing what some people post on their FB accounts!

Too bad this new woman can't fast forward 6 months......she should take off those rose colored glasses!

I guess the quote "Love is blind" is true. She will hate herself in 6 months, maybe 12 months.

Add me to the list.

Marsha, can you delete what they posted?

. . . Or better yet. Make a comment like, "Oh, I see he's still on his lovey-dovey good behavior with you. You both must still be under the 6 month mark.

I try to keep things civil with him, and this would just cause drama. I don't need drama, LOL

Savvy facebook users know that you can set your privacy settings and completely control what posts you see - you can keep your ex as your "friend" - but block his posts from appearing on your wall - so you can go to his profile when/if you need to but not be subjected to his random thoughts/posts. He will never know you have blocked his posts - he is not notified or anything.

The top right of each post -if you mouse over that corner - a drop down will appear and you can block the user or the application, etc.

On your profile page you can scroll to the very bottom of the page and see "options" - this is where you go if you have blocked someone and now want to reinstate them and see their posts.

I believe in free speech, even those annoying posts on facebook - if you don't like it, don't read it.

I have a difficult time siding with you when tools are available to you to block the very items that you are complaining about but you have either not learned how to use facebook properly or simply can't be bothered.

Just think each post you see from the ex to his new girlfriend you can be thankful you are rid of him...

I didn't know how to do that. Thing is, there are things he posts that I want to see, like pics of my DS on his weekends and even some updates about his family. Is there a way I can just block his conversations with this particular person?

if he is your ex why do you have him as a friend?

He is the father of my child and we have been divorced for over 10 years. No drama with us. He asked me to be his "friend" and it didn't seem to be a bad idea. I can see what pictures he posts of my son on there and also keep up with his family, that I don't have much contact with. It's also a good way to contact him when he has his phone cut off. He seems to always be on FB.

Anyway, I don't post much of anything on there; a picture here or there or an update about the degrees I am working on. I only have like 15 "friends".

Maybe because he is the father of their child together? FB can be an easy way to keep in touch with folks.


agnes!

Anyway, it was just a comment on how people will post silly stuff. I guess I just wouldn't post that for 900+ "friends" to see. His divorce from his second wife isn't even final(he left this one when she was 7 months preggo) and he is posting personal comments to his gf.

Marsha

 

[disney1990]

Why do people post private stuff/conversations on Facebook? I really don't want to see your lovey-dovey comments back and forth on my page when I open it. That especially goes for my ex husband(of 11 years) and his new sweetie. He has 900 "friends" and they all have to read their little schoolgirl/schoolboy comments. Well, I guess they don't have to, but they are right there in your face.

I know he knows how to send a private message, because he sends them to me. Poor woman, she has no idea that he is always like this when he starts a relationship, but after 6 months or so, she will be poorer and wiser, LOL. Just ask me, his second wife, and the 5 or 6 other women he has been with between us. He is a master at playing the game. I can only imagine what she has been told about us. Plus, he is such a winner, living with his mom and paying child support on two children with two separate women I guess there is a fool born every moment........

Oh, and no I am not jealous. I have had my chance to take him back between every two relationships, including his last one. I am just too smart now to even consider it. We have a civil relationship for our DS's sake. He is a good dad, but a terrible boyfriend/husband.

Marsha

Just block him on Facebook and then you don't have to see this.

 

[Angelhalo]

Another reason not to be on FB.

Sounds more like a reason to hide him. I love my FB, it is the BEST way to keep up with lots of people and old friends. I despise talking on the phone and often have nothing to really sit down and write an e-mail to someone about. But on FB we can just easily keep up with each other. its wonderful