I really can't work this girl out...what does your experience tell you?

[StuZioCardyni]

Sorry for butting in on your thread . I'm just catching up on it as it always seems to be near the top of the uk community board lol! Just wanted to say that I'm 25 too and I totally understand how you feel because I feel like its impossible to find any guys with any true values now - I guess I am old-fashioned in a way and just want someone who is genuinely good at heart and its got to the point now where if I don't find him I'd honestly rather be on my own. When I look at friends relationships I have to say they really aren't that great and certainly nothing that I would aspire to. The girl you have posted about and the way she has treated you is exactly how my friend behaves with her fiancee. He is the same with her though, they constantly go in moods for no reason with each other and start bickering. I can't keep up with them and to be honest, I think they are both pretty miserable. They got engaged after five weeks of meeting each other and she was pregnant less than three months later so I think they didn't have time to really see each other as they really were until the baby was born. She knows his biggest fear is having their daughter grow up in a broken home so he will never leave her no matter how bad she treats him. And he can be a nightmare too so they are both in a mess.
What I'm trying to say is - you've probably been saved alot of misery! Its great that you are at that point where you can say you don't know what attracted you in the first place. You seem like a nice guy and unfortunately some girls our age can often see that as an opportunity to trample all over someone. Yeah it could have been pmt but still its not an excuse to be rude. It sounds like the stupidest thing to say but if you just keep being yourself and don't stress about it too much then you will eventually find the person you were meant for - you just have to believe that and then get on with your life. When the time is right, you'll meet the right girl !

You can butt in all you like, you sent me a little man with a flower after all. But I totally agree with you. Nearly all of my friends are in dreadful relationships, but for whatever reason, they won't leave them. I've always thought it's better to be on your own than with someone who doesn't make you happy. And I suppose that was part of the problem because in the beginning this girl seemed like someone I could be natural with and relaxed...oh how that changed.

And as far as how I behave around girls...It might not be the same as a lot of guys but I've seen far many times people totally destroy each other because they act the way they believe they're supposed to according to some strange and pointless set of unwritten rules. It's all utterly stupid and the quicker people realise they only have to be themselves, the happier so many of them will be...

lol I do enjoy setting the world to rights on a Disney board, it's a little different but good fun

 

[StuZioCardyni]

and happy birthday bronny...pop socks all round

 

[bronny]

and happy birthday bronny...pop socks all round

Thank you, and thanks Joolz. No pop socks in sight but lots of cocktails!

 

[StuZioCardyni]

haha perfect!! Enjoy...

 

[StuZioCardyni]

I thought everyone might like to know that tonight when I signed on to facebook, the girl i've been telling you about wrote as her status 'loves stuart and wants his babies'...she must either have drunk to much or is in desperate need of attention. But as I said before, I'm soo not going back there and I'm actually really happy I didn't let it affect me. It's shows how far I've come!

This really is the story that never stops giving

 

[bronny]

I thought everyone might like to know that tonight when I signed on to facebook, the girl i've been telling you about wrote as her status 'loves stuart and wants his babies'...she must either have drunk to much or is in desperate need of attention. But as I said before, I'm soo not going back there and I'm actually really happy I didn't let it affect me. It's shows how far I've come!

This really is the story that never stops giving

Oh dear! Well that's most definitely making the message clear! Good on you though for not making a thing outta it.

 

[Head_in_the_clouds]

That sounds like she is desperate for your attention - you can't get much more to the point than that! She probably can't understand why you haven't been bothering about her as much recently and wanted a really in your face way of saying, "Hello? I exist!!!". Obviously, I don't know her and I don't like to pass judgement but that is very immature coming from someone in her twenties and again I do think you are better of without her, like you've said. I think you would have spent all your time having to deal with drama and insecurity, which no one needs. On the plus side its a HUGE compliment, when a woman is prepared to tell the world that she loves someone and wants his babies . So you should be feeling pretty damn well chuffed with yourself about that!

 

[joolz1910]

Isn't it funny how attractive things become when they are not so readily available? I'd say she's trying to reel you back. Like I said before - game playing.

 

[StuZioCardyni]

haha it's just about the only time I am attractive...maybe I should lock myself in a cage and throw away the key, then the whole world would want me lol

But yeah, you're all right she must be wondering what's happening and yeah, I suppose it's a compliment, it just made me sad that she can't seem to get out of playing games like this. If she was open and honest she'd have much more success. She'd find a decent guy and not just the ones who like to play games back

 

[joolz1910]

haha it's just about the only time I am attractive...maybe I should lock myself in a cage and throw away the key, then the whole world would want me lol

But yeah, you're all right she must be wondering what's happening and yeah, I suppose it's a compliment, it just made me sad that she can't seem to get out of playing games like this. If she was open and honest she'd have much more success. She'd find a decent guy and not just the ones who like to play games back

Very true.

I should imagine that the more elusive you become, the more chasing she will do. I wonder what her next 'move' will be? She sounds like she's not ready to lose this particular game just yet. You might end up being stalked.

 

[StuZioCardyni]

Very true.

I should imagine that the more elusive you become, the more chasing she will do. I wonder what her next 'move' will be? She sounds like she's not ready to lose this particular game just yet. You might end up being stalked.

Haha I've had a number of stalkers in the past (one of them, poor girl, was not very well indeed. I hope she's better)...frankly if I had to choose someone to stalk me she wouldn't be so bad, at least we've been friends for a good long while, i think that would stop her from being able to get too stalkerish