I Need Your Opinion...

[ThreeMusketeers]

THANK YOU!!! Thank you all for your support and advice!!
I wish you all the best holiday ever!!

 

[bellebud]

Thank you Bellebud..I appreciate your kind words. I really do. As a parent you struggle with decisions all the time and hope that you are not doing anything that would give your kids the wrong lessons or impressions and I appreciate your kindness.

FYI: I spoke to my parents last night, and explained my feelings to them, and I was told that my sister called them earlier in the night and went off on them as well (complaining about me and my parents), and they stood up for themselves and for me. They understood my stance completley and apologized to me for not understanding sooner. Of course, I don't need an apology. It is there daughter, and I am sure they called her later that night and worked things out. But I am glad that I was understood. We are all going to let this cool, and spend xmas morning at our own homes this year, and next year they are invited to our home for xmas. (I think sister and I will alternate years) And we have made plans to go up this year on the day after Christmas for a family get together.

you're very welcome! When our kids are little, I think it's more important to 'protect' them from certain things than to put them in the middle of it and show them how we 'ignore' crazy people. what little kid can understand all that? (like the pp said her childhood experiences were - hiding in the closet). that can be something for when they're much older. And i honestly don't even agree w/ it then... i'd rather teach my kids to surround themselves w/ people who love them, are rational and logical, and who add something to their lives, not try to take away from them. That's teaching them to set boundries for themselves and their own children someday. And christmas is the absolute last day of the year i'd pick to 'have to' be around someone i didn't mix well with. Your situation is beyond the 'I wouldn't pick this relative to be my friend' kind of thing. And you'll have plenty of opportunities in life to teach your dd the 'we can't control other people' thing... but certainly not on christmas. You'll probably see your sis at some family function sometime (wedding, funeral, reunion, whatever), and that is the teaching opportunity. Glad you spoke with your parents and worked it all out. Enjoy your christmas!!

 

[ThreeMusketeers]

you're very welcome! When our kids are little, I think it's more important to 'protect' them from certain things than to put them in the middle of it and show them how we 'ignore' crazy people. what little kid can understand all that? (like the pp said her childhood experiences were - hiding in the closet). that can be something for when they're much older. And i honestly don't even agree w/ it then... i'd rather teach my kids to surround themselves w/ people who love them, are rational and logical, and who add something to their lives, not try to take away from them. That's teaching them to set boundries for themselves and their own children someday. And christmas is the absolute last day of the year i'd pick to 'have to' be around someone i didn't mix well with. Your situation is beyond the 'I wouldn't pick this relative to be my friend' kind of thing. And you'll have plenty of opportunities in life to teach your dd the 'we can't control other people' thing... but certainly not on christmas. You'll probably see your sis at some family function sometime (wedding, funeral, reunion, whatever), and that is the teaching opportunity. Glad you spoke with your parents and worked it all out. Enjoy your christmas!!

THANK YOU SO MUCH! You put so many things into the words that I have been trying myself to find. You are exactly right!! You have a great Christmas as well!!