I need to Vent

[sceavis]

This is crazy every year for the past three years I have lost a family member the week of easter my uncle passed yesterday morning he had cancer.It looks like his funeral will be next Friday which Is my birthday .My mother fell down the stairs little over a week ago crushing her ankle she can not walk for 3-6 months.My dad had surgery two days before that he is doing good.I have been really stressed trying to take care of everything and wake up everyday and tell myself there are lots of people that have it worst then me. Wish I could book a trip do Disney to give me something to look forward for.Sorry for this rant on this easter afternoon take care of the people that you love and close to you.You never know what tomorrow is going to bring.

 

[disneydreamgirl]

Sorry you're having a tough time...hang in there! It's a good thing to look for support here on the boards because you are going to get it.

 

[DisneyKevin]

I appreciate what you are dealing with.

That's exactly how 2009 felt.

The only words of advice I can give are to keep strong and tell yourself that this too, shall pass.

Good luck!

 

[safetymom]

I agree with Kevin. Been there, done that. My husband died right before Easter 15 years ago. It does get softer over time but you never forget.

Sending hugs your way!!! Keep posting. It does help to vent.

 

[Cyrano]

Remember we are here for you

 

[cj9200]

Vent away, that is what we are here for. My ex and DD’s mom passed away in January so I have some understanding about what you are going through. I was in the middle of a trip report and had to explain why there would be no posts for a while. The outpouring of support from this community was amazing.

Here is to wishing things get better for you and your family real soon. Know that you and they are in our thoughts.

 

[richard_andmel]

I'm really sorry things are going so badly at the moment.... Hope things get a little easier soon. No need to apologize for "ranting" that's one of the reasons for this forum.

 

[wishspirit]

I am sorry for your loss and all the stress you are going through right now. I hope it eases up for you!

 

[Phoenixblue]

Yes, venting and ranting are both welcome here. We understand

I am sorry for your loss -

And I understand completely how that feels. My grandma passed away 1 week before my wedding anniversary and 1 month before my daughter was born - I still feel sad that she never got to hold her, even though that was in 2002. And in December, my grandfather passed away while we were on vacation in Hawaii. He had been sick for a bit, but you always hope they will pull through a bit longer.

And if planning a Disney trip will help you feel a bit better for having something to look forward to . . . start planning one! Even if it won't happen this year, start the plotting now . I have a spreadsheet with trips in preplanning all the way to 2016!

 

[sceavis]

Thank you Kevin, Kathy and everybody else for your kind words while I am going though this tough time your words helped.I love you all and consider everybody on this board extend family that I love coming to visit everyday.I also want to thank the rest of the podcast for the joy you bring me on a weekly basis. Maybe some day when I am in the world I can take you to dinner and thank you personally. For everybody I thank you all with virtual hugs I think am going to take the advice and start planning a trip tonight to get my mind off things. See where it leads me this could be a sign for a solo trip to clear my head .


Eric

 

[BLTtinkerbell]

Sorry to hear this is happening to you. Things will be better soon.

 

[kim532]

((((Hugs)))))

Vent all you need to.

Kim

 

[dmccarty]

.... and tell myself there are lots of people that have it worst then me. Wish I could book a trip do Disney to give me something to look forward for.Sorry for this rant on this easter afternoon take care of the people that you love and close to you.You never know what tomorrow is going to bring.

A few years ago a guy I had worked with for almost a decade went for a jog and died. He was in great shape. Ate healthy foods. Did the right things for his health. Went jogging and dropped dead.

A few months later a coworkers wife went for a walk with her father. She had a heart attack and died. What kind of he77 is it to watch your child die?

I have a friend who was diagnosed with ALS four years ago. He is doing well but it is only a matter of time. The life expectancy of someone with ALS is 3-5 years after diagnosis....

The end of last year another friend of mine was diagnosed with a terminal brain cancer. He is taking chemo but he will be lucky to make it another 12-18 months.

A coworker found out this week that his brother was KIA in Afghanistan.

I won't even touch the stuff my family has had this century....

Stuff happens.

We go to WDW because you DO NOT know what tomorrow brings. A car accident happens in a split second. You don't have much chance of changing the crash even if you can. And often you have no chance. A man was killed on the interstate near us last week. Some fool hit the guy from behind while going over 80 mph. The guy who died was minding his own business and ended up dead. The guy who killed him has had multiple speeding tickets and had kids in the car.

Most of us don't know how much time we have left on the clock. Two of my friends have a d...ded good idea of how much time they have left and I won't pretend to know which is worse or better.

We spent quite a bit buying into DVC and going to WDW but it was the right money decision for us. We have saved money at this point because of DVC. We bought into DVC because Stuff Happens and you just don't know. We love going to WDW and want the kids to have the experiences. I cannot go home again since my family does not live anywhere near where I grew up. But I can take the kids to WDW and walk the same places with them that I walked as a kid. They can ride the same or similar rides I did. We can do new things that I never did because when I was a kid WDW was "just" MK. They will remember these WDW days with their parents and grand parents and those memories cannot be taken from them. Hopefully they can pass this on to their kids one day...

Because in the end all we really do is pass memories from one generation to the next and those memories are perishable.

So you go to WDW when you can and when you can afford too. You deal with Stuff life throws at you and hope you will have the time and money to return to WDW for another trip.

And the sad thing is that there are billions of people in the world who do have it much worse than we do but that understanding only goes so far when dealing with the worst of the Stuff.

So vent away...

And then go read someones Trip Report.

Later,
Dan

 

[Slapster]

Sorry for what you're going through. It helps me to just plan a "mock" trip to wdw, look at pics of past trips, and know that things get better with time.

 

[Disney Khi]

for the OP.

And, Dan, I really like what you wrote. It is a good reminder.

 

[SamSam]

Hugs to you and yours. Sometimes all you can do is take one minute at a time, then another, then another.

 

[Mrs D]

I hope the sun is shining in your neck of the woods tomorrow.

 

[Piglet843]

I know how it is - when it rains it pours!
Hugs to you for everything you are going thru.

I also feel for your mother. Not being able to walk is a real pickle!
I have just recently broken bones in my foot and can not walk.
Its a real drag doing the crutches - having to depend on
someone for Everything - I can't clean house or do laundry....
I can't even make me a plate of food - I can't carry the darn thing if I did.
Oh - and even trivial stuff like taking a bath or using the bathroom ....
I'll never take those for granted again!

So please remember what she's going thru right now to and be as helpful
as you can. She may not ask - but she'll sure appreciate it.
May help take your mind off other things...

 

[sceavis]

I know how it is - when it rains it pours!
Hugs to you for everything you are going thru.

I also feel for your mother. Not being able to walk is a real pickle!
I have just recently broken bones in my foot and can not walk.
Its a real drag doing the crutches - having to depend on
someone for Everything - I can't clean house or do laundry....
I can't even make me a plate of food - I can't carry the darn thing if I did.
Oh - and even trivial stuff like taking a bath or using the bathroom ....
I'll never take those for granted again!

So please remember what she's going thru right now to and be as helpful
as you can. She may not ask - but she'll sure appreciate it.
May help take your mind off other things...

Thanks for the kind words. I feel for her as well I can not imagine knowing that I will not be able to walk again for at least 3 months.I am trying to be the best son i can be .My dad is also laid up with the surgery he had so I am tending to both of them and i know they would do the same for me so I need to keep my mickey ears on and keep on trucking.

 

[DebºoºS]

I'm sorry things are so rough for you right now.