I think you had good replies when people told you not to go the free attorney route, at least not for yourself. By avoiding an agent, he most likely feels that it will save him money in the long run as you might be able to negotiate a lower price if you don't have to pay commision. I doubt it's much more than that unless he thinks that an agent will tell you it's worth more than you think it is. I'd go with an appraiser if you have no idea of what you house is worth or to get an idea of what today's value is. Don't let him just talk you into a price. As for a home inspection - I wouldn't bother with that, that is his option to do and should be at his expense. Sounds like he gave you quite a price break when you bought it but that doesn't mean you have to do the same for him unless you choose to. I would most definately put a time limit on him or reserve him as a buyer so you don't lose valuable marketing time with a realtor if that is the way you decide to list.
Your area sounds a lot like mine - almost identical to tell you the truth! Ag land and cows for miles! I highly doubt in that case that an appraiser will deem it anything other than single family for highest and best use.
Sorry I got off topic with the appraisal discussion. A lot of people read these posts and when I see realtor's making statements about appraiser's I feel the need to defend our industry and educate consumers about what we really do. No, we are not with you the entire process but for the most part we have considerably more training when it comes to values. We have so many more aspects that most realtors don't take into consideration when completing a CMA. Then we are the bad guys when we go in and a house doesn't appraise for the sale. I think it's better just to do it correctly the first time and save yourself the headache later on. It's not our job to come in and back up the realtor. It's our job to give an unbiased opinion of what the home is worth to the informed and able buyer. Banks use us to protect their assets and buyers/borrowers use us to ensure they are not going upside down on their mortgages. Sellers use us to get a range that their home most likely would sell for so it doesn't sit on the market overpriced or sell quickly because it is underpriced. I also have a broker's license so I know both sides of the argument. It wasn't until I became an appraiser and dealt with lender/broker pressure that I realized how bad it really was. In a lot of markets, I've heard too many times of agents doing things that actually hurt a good, honest appraiser's career because they found repair issues or didn't bring in a property at the value the agent got a signed contract for. I will say this - do you really think I like "killing deals". Do you think I like fielding phone calls from pissed off buyers/sellers/mortgage brokers and agents when they find out a house didn't appraise...and then being blacklisted for telling the truth? I give them the opportunity to supply me with any additional information that I may have overlooked and 99% of the time they stutter and have nothing to offer. The other 1% of the time they had me a slew of comps that are in no way comparable but sold for the higher price.
Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of good, honest agents out there who will be right on with their CMA's and BPO's. I can say with a certainty that until you have taken an extensive appraisal course, you have no idea how hard and how much really goes into it. An agent can take/pass their state exam and start doing BPO's and CMA's within a week if their company allows it. An appraiser typically goes through much more education and most likely already has a real estate background, has to go through a mentoring process before being turned loose, most likely has a supervisor looking over their reports, has to be able to support anything in that report with both a work file and separate market condition studies, has to endure FNME underwriting guidelines when appraising for the secondary market and so on. Our adjustments are taken right from the current market not just some made up number that looks good on paper. I have no idea why the other poster would say we go back further in time to get our comparable sales. We have the same access to the same sales they do as they are public record or on the MLS. Half the time in my area, we have appraised the home already for the sale and sometimes, more than once. So, we have just as much, if not more information than the realtors do.
I'm going to quit boring you with all these details and just wish you good luck! Let us know how it turns out and if you should have any questions or concerns feel free to pm me anytime!