I made a facebook No-No apparently

[Mermaid02]

I commented on a post on my dh's facebook page- something a coworker of his had posted. The coworker was teasing him and I made a benign comment back (it was about age and I'm a little older than my husband...) anyway- my husband was not pleased that I had posted. He said, "why did you comment on Jon's post?" and trust me- he wasn't just asking. I just said, "That's what people do on FB" and I came in the other room and deleted my 2 posts on his page. It really hurt me. I've gained a lot of weight this past year and I think I embarass him. Things havent' been going well with us~ but after 22 years it seems like we could maybe work things out. I think he would prefer to not have me listed as his wife to tell you the truth.

thanks for coming to my pity party

 

[chloelovesdisney]

I'm sorry. You should be able to comment on your own husband's facebook page. I'd tell him to stick it, but that's just me.

 

[EmmersIsTheMommy]

I commented on a post on my dh's facebook page- something a coworker of his had posted. The coworker was teasing him and I made a benign comment back (it was about age and I'm a little older than my husband...) anyway- my husband was not pleased that I had posted. He said, "why did you comment on Jon's post?" and trust me- he wasn't just asking. I just said, "That's what people do on FB" and I came in the other room and deleted my 2 posts on his page. It really hurt me. I've gained a lot of weight this past year and I think I embarass him. Things havent' been going well with us~ but after 22 years it seems like we could maybe work things out. I think he would prefer to not have me listed as his wife to tell you the truth.

thanks for coming to my pity party

 

[NMAmy]

Oh, I'm so sorry you're feeling that way. Maybe it's time for a talk after everyone calms down? You really need to tell him how that made you feel.

I feel so badly for you, I just felt like I needed to add a couple of extra hugs in there.

 

[LoraJ]

Wow!!!!

 

[gladstoneganderfan]

You didn't do anything wrong, he did.

 

[java]

He's being an ***!

 

[Mermaid02]

Maybe it's time for this to be over. How do you know? I asked him to go to counseling early this spring but he declined. Our daughter is grown but our son is 12 and has some special issues. I don't know. This hit me really hard tonight.

 

[brockash]

I commented on a post on my dh's facebook page- something a coworker of his had posted. The coworker was teasing him and I made a benign comment back (it was about age and I'm a little older than my husband...) anyway- my husband was not pleased that I had posted. He said, "why did you comment on Jon's post?" and trust me- he wasn't just asking. I just said, "That's what people do on FB" and I came in the other room and deleted my 2 posts on his page. It really hurt me. I've gained a lot of weight this past year and I think I embarass him. Things havent' been going well with us~ but after 22 years it seems like we could maybe work things out. I think he would prefer to not have me listed as his wife to tell you the truth.

thanks for coming to my pity party

I'm sorry But, I just wanted to add that it may not anything to do with you or if he is/isn't embarrassed to have you on his page as his wife (which I absolutely think you need to talk about with him, and would certainly hope that's not the case) but it could be just that he doesn't someone else posting on his page. Personally, I wouldn't want my DH posting on my page, and I wouldn't post on his, but I'm not embarrassed at all that he's my DH, I'm pretty proud of it really. I know I really have no idea what's going on with you and your DH, but I just didn't want you to jump to the conclusion that it's because he's embarrassed by you, when it could just simply be that he doesn't want someone else posting on his page. Good luck to you!

ETA: I think I may have misread your original post. I thought you meant that you went onto his facebook page and made a comment under his name (as your DH) now I'm thinking that you made the comment on your DH's page, but from your own page (under you name)??? -If this is correct then I'd say you definetly need to talk to him to see what his problem is.

 

[LoraJ]

Maybe it's time for this to be over. How do you know? I asked him to go to counseling early this spring but he declined. Our daughter is grown but our son is 12 and has some special issues. I don't know. This hit me really hard tonight.

I think you should be very blunt and ask him why he thinks you should not be allowed to comment on his FB page. And also tell him that it really hurt you.

See how he reacts, maybe bring up the counseling again.

 

[Kitty 34]

 

[diznygirl]

I think you should be very blunt and ask him why he thinks you should not be allowed to comment on his FB page. And also tell him that it really hurt you.

See how he reacts, maybe bring up the counseling again.

ITA. You have to be able to communicate with your spouse.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I commented on a post on my dh's facebook page- something a coworker of his had posted. The coworker was teasing him and I made a benign comment back (it was about age and I'm a little older than my husband...) anyway- my husband was not pleased that I had posted. He said, "why did you comment on Jon's post?" and trust me- he wasn't just asking. I just said, "That's what people do on FB" and I came in the other room and deleted my 2 posts on his page. It really hurt me. I've gained a lot of weight this past year and I think I embarass him. Things havent' been going well with us~ but after 22 years it seems like we could maybe work things out. I think he would prefer to not have me listed as his wife to tell you the truth.

thanks for coming to my pity party

I'm sorry But, I just wanted to add that it may not anything to do with you or if he is/isn't embarrassed to have you on his page as his wife (which I absolutely think you need to talk about with him, and would certainly hope that's not the case) but it could be just that he doesn't someone else posting on his page. Personally, I wouldn't want my DH posting on my page, and I wouldn't post on his, but I'm not embarrassed at all that he's my DH, I'm pretty proud of it really. I know I really have no idea what's going on with you and your DH, but I just didn't want you to jump to the conclusion that it's because he's embarrassed by you, when it could just simply be that he doesn't want someone else posting on his page. Good luck to you!

I was thinking maybe he meant he didn't want you commenting with his co-workers? I dont know...but definitely talk to him to tell him how you feel. I'm sorry

 

[DisneyBlonde]

How did you make the leap from him being angry with your post...to him being embarrassed by you?

Talk to him. That's the only place to start.

 

[lovndisney]

Men are just complete morons. We both have a facebook page. I comment on his every now and then ... quite honestly he goes on his more for the games. Barely has any interaction with people other than the games. Sending you lots of hugs.

 

[contenttob]

 

[Liberty Belle]

You didn't do anything wrong. I'm sorry he did that to you.

It's probably time to have a long talk with him.

 

[Jsme]

Oh sweetie men can be real jerks at times. I know I have been married 17 almost 18 years and I have a great marriage. Sometimes though I have to wonder what the hey???

You need to talk to him. Find out where the problem lies and confront it head on. It might not be nice for either of you but work it out and remember you love each other and try to put that first. Forgiveness helps too. I do not know how religious you are but I have found some wonderful books that turned my marriage around. They are by Stormie Omartian. The Power of a Praying Wife and the Power of a Praying Husband. Actually I have to give my DH the credit of us purchasing these books. Which believe me was a huge surprised.

All of us need a pity party every once in a while. That is what we are here for.

 

[dismom2]

I'm sorry--your husband should not act that way towards you. And if he doesn't want to go to counseling, you have to ask yourself if he even wants to work through the issues. I would have a good, long talk with him and get to the bottom of how he really feels about you and everything else. Maybe you can get away alone for the evening so you can talk without your child being there? Good luck, I hope you feel better.

 

[choirchic]

I commented on a post on my dh's facebook page- something a coworker of his had posted. The coworker was teasing him and I made a benign comment back (it was about age and I'm a little older than my husband...) anyway- my husband was not pleased that I had posted. He said, "why did you comment on Jon's post?" and trust me- he wasn't just asking. I just said, "That's what people do on FB" and I came in the other room and deleted my 2 posts on his page. It really hurt me. I've gained a lot of weight this past year and I think I embarass him. Things havent' been going well with us~ but after 22 years it seems like we could maybe work things out. I think he would prefer to not have me listed as his wife to tell you the truth.

thanks for coming to my pity party

Seriously? I comment on my husbands page and poke fun of him all the time...we love to laugh. If it were a private conversation it shouldn't have been posted...replying to comments is such a common thing.