brownhaired_girl
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It's been a rough couple weeks for me. We had a family reunion and my Mom passed away suddenly surrounded by her family. We were sitting around the campfire listening/singing one minute, she started making a coughing sound, I went over to her, watched her take a few breaths, told her I loved her, and that was it. No pulse, eyes were fixed and dilated, and I had to tell everyone she was gone. It wasn't a total shock, my Mom has had over 10 heart attacks and strokes starting at the age of 47. Her last stroke was almost 5 years ago, and it has been a struggle. Deep down I knew the next one was only a matter of time. Although she tried to keep a good attitude she has been praying for God to take her to heaven for a long time. Even though she never officially became a DNR, she said she would never have the strength to go through another stroke. So even though I knew it was best for her it was not easy to look at my step dad and say just let her go.
But I have much to be thankful for. She is now at peace and is reunited with my brother who passed away at 17. I counted up 8 Disney trips we've been able to take with her, including the first one 6 weeks after a ruptured aneurysm, a condition that many don't survive. I'm thankful for this community, it's been nice to read here and take my mind off things. The weird thing is we planned this family reunion so that the next time we got together it wouldn't be for a funeral. We were more thinking of my 95 year old grandma, but God had other plans. Here's one of my favorite pictures. Our first Disney trip after that ruptured aneurysm.
@alryan what an amazing picture and what a reminder to cherish our loved ones. I’m so sorry for your loss
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Group hug to you. So very sorry for your loss. Heartbreaking, yet a very loving environment from which to go. Wouldn't everyone want their last moments be surrounded by family and no suffering, yet I know it can't be easy on those left behind. My prayers are with you.
Glad it worked out in your favor, but this stuff is so confusing to me. I had a friend recently get married and she did not change her last name. Her and her husband got checks written to either her, him, her AND him, or Mr and Mrs X. She explained to me that the individual checks were fine, but if you put AND (instead of OR) the banks want it to go to a joint account with both names. Ok, fair. I asked what happens with the Mr. and Mrs. checks since that isn't your name? She said the banks took that into the joint account as well. Oh really? It is ok for someone that doesn't exist, but you can't deposit a check with your name + another because it has AND instead of OR? Really makes sense to me
) and he deposited a few things with a teller while we waited for someone who could help add me, and we saved the dual name check for then... and she actually was worried/upset that they had told us no at the counter! I mean, that time they didn't, but they acted like they should tell us no every other time we had been.
What was I doing????
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