I am so sorry for your loss.Is it the boy on the bean bag in your sig photo?
Uhh, no, you are not being insensitive. You are getting ready to lay YOUR son to rest, "self-centered" is putting it mildly. There is a place and time for every discussion, this wasn't the place or time for that one.
Sorry about your loss. I can't, nor do I want to even imagine it
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