I have no idea what to do here.

[Maleficent13]

One of my good friends is getting married in two months. Since she became engaged, she has withdrawn from her friends and pretty much everyone except her fiance. Anyway, periodically I will get emails from her telling me something about the wedding, pics of the dress, etc. One email was confirming my mailing address.

Fast forward about a month ago...she says something about having carpal tunnel because she spent all weekend addressing invitations.

So far, no invite has arrived. Do you think I should ask? Normally I wouldn't, but before she withdrew into her own little world with this guy we were close. I can't imagine I wouldn't be invited, but maybe I'm not. But I'd hate not to go and then have it be a mistake or mail issue.

I don't know...how far in advance do invites usually go out, anyway?

 

[Mercy]

Since the wedding is in two months, I would think you should be getting an invitation soon. I really can't remember when you are suppose to mail them.

But what I would do is, say you don't get an invitation within the next month. Then I would send an email saying something like you wish her the best, etc. and than ask her to be sure to email you some pics of the wedding. When she asks why you aren't coming, then you can tell her because you didn't get an invitation. OR... if she says ok, I'll email you pics, then you take it she didn't invite you.

 

[MickeysMommy]

I think I mailed out invites 6 weeks or so before the wedding at least. But, I agree with Mercy's way of emailing her and wishing her the best and see what happens if you don't get the invite.

 

[Keli]

If she was a good friend before she withdrew from everyone then during casual conversation I would ask her "Have you mailed all your invitations out yet?" That's about as close to a hint as I would give her and then I'd just let it go.

 

[buzzlady]

Maybe she was just putting them together and addressing them and not sending them out yet. I would ask her how the wedding planning was going and if she got the invites out. Then take it from there.

 

[Shugardrawers]

I had mine addressed and ready to go way ahead but didn't mail them until 4 weeks before. I'd give it another month tops though and then drop a hint. I'll bet she just hasn't mailed them yet.

 

[SDFgirl]

If she e-mailed to confirm your address, I would assume I was invited to the wedding.

I know we mailed out our invites 7 weeks before the wedding, but I worked on them for about a month before that, addressing and putting them together. Even so, a few of our friends or relatives mentioned that they didn't get the invites we mailed. Things are often lost in the mail or addressed incorrectly. I was grateful that these people mentioned it to me because I wanted to assure them that I would love for them to be at our wedding.

If she's a close friend, I would just be honest with her. You could send her a quick e-mail explaining that you don't mean to make her feel awkward, but you weren't sure if you were invited or not because you haven't received an invitation. I wouldn't do this until about 3 or 4 weeks before the wedding though.

Personally, I would have NEVER e-mailed details of my wedding dress, etc. to someone I knew wasn't invited. Makes it sound like you are.

Also...speaking from experience, I also sort of "withdrew" from my friends right before my wedding. It wasn't anything personal, just was so overwhelmed with wedding and family obligations. Also it was a time of closeness and increasing sentimentality between my DH and I...everything and everyone else seemed to fade away. So, I know it's hard but I wouldn't take it personally, I'm sure her life will return to normal soon!!

 

[MouseWorshipin]

Wedding invites go out 6 weeks before the big event. So, I wouldn't start worrying just yet.

 

[Disney Doll]

Etiquette says 6 weeks before.

I have gotten them as close as 4 weeks before, and as far away as 12 weeks before, but the 12 week one was for a destination wedding and they wanted to give people time to plan their travel.

 

[poohandwendy]

I wouldn't worry about it yet, 2 months is too early to send invites, IMO (unless it is a destination wedding and then it should be way before 2 months, LOL)

 

[Maleficent13]

Thanks for the responses. I guess I just assumed that June was such a popular month for weddings they might want to send earlier make sure people were free. She didn't send save the date cards.

I'll wait a few more weeks and then I'll probably ask.