I hate people.

[JediBonas]

I guess I'm the oddball here but I loved being pregnant.....and with twins. I didn't mind any comments or questions.

Me too, but I didn't get a lot of questions, mostly heard people say "she must have more then one on there" when they'd see my huge belly. Of course, I probably wouldn't have liked that much if I wasn't having twins

The worse was before I got pregnant and dealing with infertility. Someone at work said I better start having kids because my best friend had one and she wouldn't want to be friends with someone who didn't have kids!!

 

[Help Please!]

So my son is 2...and the question is always "so, when's #2 coming? you guys have to get busy!"





Do they want the real answer?

Well, when I was 38 1/2 weeks pregnant with my son, we went to the hospital thinking my water had broken, turned out I had incredibly high blood pressure out of nowhere, was put on lots of meds and my labor was induced. Due to failure to progress, I was scheduled for a c-section and, while in the operating room, I could feel the entire surgery. It was the worst experience of my life, leading to my failure to bond with my newborn son initially, as well as PTSD. So, forgive me if I'm a little hesitant to go through that again.

 

[tarheel618]

Something my poor husband has been asked a lot:

1. Was it planned?

Complete stranger, it is none of your business whether it was planned or not!


I have only been asked this sparingly which I just laughed and changed the subject:

1. How much weight have you gained?

Really?!?!?

Makes you just want to answer them with-

1. No not planned, I got pregnant from sitting on a public toliet seat.
2. Nothing, Im just feeling bloated from eating that can of beans.

 

[ktate82]

I am a very blunt person and being pregnant took away what little filter I had (or at least gave me a good excuse not to use it). I'm not a touchy person, so it bothered me when random strangers would touch my belly. I did come up with a good way to let them know it was inappropriate however. When they started rubbing my belly, I would reach over and start rubbing theirs. When they stopped and looked at me like I had lost my mind, I would say in the most innocent voice I could "what? Is this strange and awkward for you?" People stopped pretty quickly.

 

[paintnolish]

There is a big age gap between dd and the baby because my older two have a different dad. I got divorced and later remarried. People have asked of the baby was a "whoopsie". Um, no.

 

[luvsJack]

There is a big age gap between dd and the baby because my older two have a different dad. I got divorced and later remarried. People have asked of the baby was a "whoopsie". Um, no.

There is a huge gap between my youngest son and dd. When she was a baby there were folks who were convinced that she actually belonged to one of her teen brothers. It got to the point where either one of them were embarrassed to carry their baby sister in public because someone would invariably make some comment about him being such a great young dad.

 

[Patience]

There is a big age gap between dd and the baby because my older two have a different dad. I got divorced and later remarried. People have asked of the baby was a "whoopsie". Um, no.

I have a big age gap between my daughters (13 years apart). People usually assume that they have different fathers and that my oldest daughter is from a previous marriage. Nope, her daddy and I have been married 21 years.

People have also asked me why I wanted to "start over" with another one and will sometimes go on to say things like "better you than me". I usually reply, "Well, for what it's worth, I'm really glad it's me and not you also", followed by my sweetest smile of course.

 

[Becky2005]

Then you get to baby #4 and although probably not totally strange in this day and age...
I have gotten the "are they all the same father?" question (not so much anymore since they are older and they pretty much all look alike).

Or depending on where you are -- we are etiher considered a large family or average. When we are considered a large family, we sometimes get the snarky comments.

My 2nd one was blonde as you could be when he was little. We all have brown hair -- I would literally answer "milkman" when someone would ask me where he got his blonde hair. It became a 2nd nature answer -- I could say it with a straight face without a hint of sarcasm in my voice.

Unfortunately, the comments have just begun....I don't think they ever really end. It is why I learned a long time ago -- just do whatever is right for your family and ignore everyone else. As long as you aren't doing anything too dangerous with the kids, who the heck cares if you breastfeed/forumla feed, cloth or disposable diapers, daycare/stay-at-home, activities/no activies for little ones -- etc... the debates go on forever - even from your own family.

Good Luck and enjoy your little one.

 

[superme80]

Can we add family to this list???? My sister commented on HUGE I am. She was "NEVER" this big with her one pregnancy! Can I just smack her??? And my doctor said I am measuring exactly how I should be. I am ALMOST 8 months along. Do people expect me to not have a belly?????

 

[MegSmethurst]

Haha it's funny how we all react to different comments! I'm 4 weeks away from my due date and get a lot of "wow, you're tiny" and "you're not that big!!" While that might sound great it makes me mad because I can't control how big my belly gets! I'm 5 10 and have a little more room but that doesn't mean anything!

We have also decided not to find out the gender of the baby and you can imagine the comments we get. My fave was "how will you know what to buy!" Ummm I think it's pretty standard...

 

[It'sWDW4me]

There is a huge gap between my youngest son and dd. When she was a baby there were folks who were convinced that she actually belonged to one of her teen brothers. It got to the point where either one of them were embarrassed to carry their baby sister in public because someone would invariably make some comment about him being such a great young dad.

I was 20 and my db#1 was 18 when my db#2 was born. Mom worked a lot of evening hours and dad did NOT like to be around kids (why he had 3 then, I'll never know) so db and I would take baby db to the mall fairly often just to walk around. We got the "oh, he looks just like you!" comments all. the. time.


Eventually I came up with a reply that just left them


Them: "Oh, he has your eyes/nose/hair/whatever"
Me: "Yep, they're just like my dad's"


Bwahahahahaha.... yep, I'm evil like that.

 

[superme80]

Haha it's funny how we all react to different comments! I'm 4 weeks away from my due date and get a lot of "wow, you're tiny" and "you're not that big!!" While that might sound great it makes me mad because I can't control how big my belly gets! I'm 5 10 and have a little more room but that doesn't mean anything!

We have also decided not to find out the gender of the baby and you can imagine the comments we get. My fave was "how will you know what to buy!" Ummm I think it's pretty standard...

Yeah I am just under 5'2 so my belly is way more out there than my friend who is 5'9. My sister is just a few non Disney friendly words!
We didn't find out the gender with our last 2. It drove people nuts. DH and I enjoyed it!

 

[jenben8426]

We have 5 children. I get two comments alllll the time:

1. "Are they all yours?" Usually I want to say "no, I just pick up random kids to make my life harder at the grocery store for fun."

2. Not quite believing that we really do have 5 they then say... "Are you done now???" The polite answer I give to that is we don't know, we take them one at a time. We will most likely have more but really I don't know why people care so much that we really want a big family.

 

[blfbrat]

When I was pg with #2, we were team green. We did itwith my oldest dd and loved hearing it's a girl on the OR.

When I was pg with #2, all I heard was how is better hope this one is a boy. Don't I want the "perfect family?". Say what? IMO, there is no such thing. And She wasn't a boy, obviously, but now imhave to "try for that boy." whatever. I'm done hang kids.

My SIL was pregnant with her first child, and her husband wanted a boy badly. Everyone told him, you know the sperm determine the sex of the baby, so if it is a girl, it was his doing. His answer was, I gave her thousands to pick from, if she picked the wrong one....

They had a beautiful girl and Daddy would not trade her at all.

 

[HonnyDipp]

My DS15 was 12lbs 5oz at birth. I was HUGE! I worked with this woman, every morning she would ask me "You haven't popped that thing out yet?" I wanted to yell ARE YOU BLIND???

I feel you OP. Just hang in there!