I hate mean kids!!!!

[binny]

well this was an old post but I will update it for you.

Yes it was terrible, it affected her for a few weeks but now all seems to be well. She seems to be back in the groove with all of her friends and her "boyfriend" was waiting for her this morning when I dropped her off after breakfast

It was funny because she was actually mad at him a couple of weeks ago at church ( who knows about what... they spend so much time together between school and church and programs it could have been anything) that he went out of his way to say hi to her and she crossed her arms and kind of went hmmmpphh. I tapped her and said " Kaylee, Randy is your friend, he stood by you and you need to remember that how we treat our friends" so she went running over there and said she was sorry and they hugged and off they ran together


The good news is it didnt last as long as I thought it would and with the swift punishment that was doled out to the bullies, we have never had another incident!

Thanks all for your support

 

[Snowysmom]

Wow! It is amazing that the kids are starting this in 1st grade. They always seem to go after the nice, gentle kids. I hope your DD is feeling better and it is nice that she has a friend who will help her. I hate mean kids too!

 

[babytrees]

Youre not out of line at all My youngest is special needs. This is my "non IEP" kid. ( Please nobody get offended by that statement, I would never say it in front of any of them. I just have a kid on each on each of the spectrum, 2 IEPS, one for gifted and one for special needs so we joke that at least we have one who isnt either)

Anyway, Kaylee is just a sweetheart of a kid with a very vivid imagination. She likes to act and do plays and cheer and play dolls. Shes very creative. She takes care of her little sister so much and is just a "mom" kind of a kid KWIM? She cant stand to see anyone (or anything) hurt and she always notices if someone is sick and does her best to help them.
Im not saying she's perfect but she is a very sweet natured child.


Her friends mom called me, she works at the school, and said that her ds was in tears because he yelled at Kaylee. He was trying to protect her from the other kids, he stood up to them and yelled at them and when they wouldnt leave her alone he just yelled "Be quiet Kaylee!" and thats when the principal walked in.
He got called down to the principals office too so I felt bad about it. His mom wanted to know Kaylee's side of the story ( theyve been friends for years as we go to the same church and are in the same groups) her story was the same, he tried to help her.


I need to add that these are FIRST graders. Thats what blew me away. All of them were in grade one.

We have had some similar problems with our girls....the oldest espescially when she was in 2nd and was being bullied, didn't tell anybody just stopped wanting to go to school. Even after it was found out wouldn't squeal, whole class and grade got a talking to. Got better after that YEAH!! Now in 8th grade, whenever her "friends" or anyone tries to demean her in anyway the girl says well I have my own style and I don't care what you think. Because in middle school the worst thing you can be is a free thinker.

The youngest has had some issues she's brought on herself but we are trying to teach her the same attitude.

Give your daughter a big hug and know that it can and will get better!!

 

[Marseeya]

It never fails to surprise me that parents today aren't teaching their children that other people's feelings matter. My 8yo dd is very sensitive and not at all prone to bullying, but we talk all of the time about how important it is to be kind to ALL of the kids in class. When she gets her feelings hurt by another child I always try to really use it as an opportunity to really get her to understand why it is soooooo important to be kind to others. When I hear her say something that might not be the best thing to say (all kids are kids!) I explain why it isn't o.k.

My point is....... I keep noticing that other parents don't think it is a big deal if their kid is being a little creep. I mean, why are we allowing kids to talk about their b-day parties in front of kids who aren't invited? Why are kids allowed to leave someone out of a "club" on the playground. These are things that I would not allow my dd to do, but I know lots of moms who don't think that they need to teach their kids to be kind. If you don't teach them as kids, I don't think I want to know them when they are adults!

Please don't assume that just because a child can be a "little creep," it means the parent has dropped the ball somewhere. Sometimes kids can just be that way and we do the best we can when it happens.

 

[wdw4us2]

Binny- hugs to your DD. And luckily she has a friend that tried to stand up for her.

Would enrolling her in something like "tea kwon do" help? I seem to recall this happening to a co-workers daughter. I think the tae kwon do really helped her DD's overall self esteem, and gave her some "tools" to help her deal with the bullies. Again, I don't really know much about this, but I do know it is a very popular sport. Maybe someone on the DIS could help?

binny,

I feel so badly for your daughter. I, too, am a parent of two kids on opposite ends of the spectrum. DD (14) was in gifted and DS (11) has PDD. He has been dealing with mean kids for years, and he is one of the sweetest kids.

We enrolled our son in Tae Kwondo three years ago after he asked to go for a trial month. He loved it. We told his instructor of his physical disabilities (problems with fine motor skills and some gross motor skills) and he worked with him. What a difference the classes have made in his life! He has more self-confidence and his motor skills have greatly improved. He was just awarded his First Degree Black Belt last week!

There are both boys and girls in his class and everyone gets along very well - mainly because of the instructor. I would recommend contacting some instructors and sitting in on their classes to see if you think your daughter would like it.

Not that I'm anti-cheerleader or anything, but I have personally witnessed a lot of nasty behavior associated with younger cheerleaders over the years. As a matter of fact, some of the kids who give my son the hardest time are members of the youth football cheerleading squad. They remind me of future members of "The Plastics" from Mean Girls.

Good luck and tell your daughter to hang in there!

 

[binny]

thanks congrats to your ds! that is a big accomplishment!!


She did cheerleading through our church squad. They were actually a pretty great group of girls this year. It didnt give her quite the boost I was hopoing for but it did make her a little more outgoing so that is good.