I feel sooo guilty

[aimee11621]

Sorry if I ramble.

I'm leaving for vegas tomorrow morning. My dh and dd10 dd3 and I will be taking our first trip . Haven't been on an airplane in 20+plus years. The girls have never been on a plane. We only have taken a short weekend trips to WDW the most we have ever stayed at wdw is three days. (due to $$$)

Here comes my problem we will be going to vegas. I'm leaving my mom behind. She lives with dad and they are both in pretty good health. (arthritis is the only gripe) I haven't told my mom we will be going yet. When I do tell her something : she will think we are at the beach in Naples FL. (90 minutes away)

I really feel bad about telling her a lie. But if I tell her where we will be she will worry more and have a heart attack (for real).

Tell me why I'm feeling soo guilty and should be put to shame!


I love my mom (80) but she can be a real worry wart. If she knows I'm on the other side of the world she will get sick! Not to mention tell me I'm crazy for going out there we have no real need to travel. We should put our money away!

Yours truly
very bad daughter barbara

 

[Maleficent13]

You do what you gotta do sometimes. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

 

[WDSearcher]

Maybe you're feeling guilty because you're lying?

What if something happens -- say a hurricane hits Naples. Not likely, but still ... Then you've got your mom worrying for no reason, because she thinks you're in Naples.

Would the thought of you and your family being in Vegas REALLY cause your mom that much trauma, or is that more in your head than hers? Goodness, you're not going to "the other side of the world", you're going to the other side of the Mississippi -- that's a big difference! I say, tell your mom that the family is going on vacation and that you're going to Vegas. Ask her if she wants to give you some money to gamble with, and then if you win something, bring it back for her. If you don't win something, bring her back a fun Vegas souvenir.

You said your mom doesn't have any major health difficulties, so why would you think you going to Vegas would be so life-threatening? Sounds like there's a little drama going on there with you too!

 

[DisneyJules]

Hun, don't worry about it. You're doing it out of the goodness of your heart. Go and have fun, don't let it ruin your holiday. Vegas is awesome, have a wonderful trip!

 

[buzzlady]

I hope your not planning on keeping it a secret forever. I don't think a 10yr and 3yr old will not spill the beans about where you really went and their 1st airplane ride!

 

[vald1977]

Hi Barbara,
I think you are feeling so guilty because you are lying to your mom. Why not just tell her the truth? I would tell her very matter of factly what your plans are. Let her know that you will call her when you arrive if that will put her mind at ease. You are an adult who has every right to go on vacation .

My mother doesn't like me to go on trips where I have to fly either but I don't let that stop me from doing what I want. Statistically, I think you will be safer flying to vegas than you would be driving to Naples.

Go and have a wonderful trip with your family .

 

[LisaZoe]

I agree with buzzlady. Even if you can get them to remember to not say where you went, do you really want to give them the impression that lying to Grandma, no matter the motive, is OK?

Do you have a cell phone? Perhaps you could tell your DM that you will call X times per day to check on her and your father. That way, she'll know she'd going to hear from you regularly and will, hopefully, be less likely to worry. Of course, you'd then need to make sure you called on schedule.

Good luck and have fun!

 

[aimee11621]

Thanks everyone I will tell her !!!

When I get back!!HHHHHeeee


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[WDWFAN9]

I hope you are telling someone where you really will be, just in case you have to be reached in the event of an emergency.

 

[disykat]

I'm in the minority I guess - I think you're doing the right thing not telling her until you get home. My grandmother was afraid of travel too and my parents couldn't ever tell her until last minute or she'd start on the "what if I die while you're gone" guilt trips. She worried excessively and was always actually relieved that she had been spared the worry. She lived until she was 93 so my parents would have been trapped for many years if they hadn't been somewhat deceptive.

My mom is afraid of small airplanes and has made it very clear to us that she doesn't ever want to know we've been in one until after we've landed.

 

[aprilgail2]

My neighbor does that with her 86 year old mom when they go away. The woman worries so much if they fly to Paris or other places that she stops eating while they are gone and makes herself sick...much easier for the mom to think that they are in Mass. or some other place then she doesn't worry.